Comments on: Successful Marriages: Part III

By: Successful Marriages: Part I

Successful Marriages: Part I — Tue, 21 Dec 2010 01:28:24 +0000

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Successful Marriages: Part IV — Tue, 21 Dec 2010 01:05:05 +0000

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By: sister sister

sister sister — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 16:58:30 +0000

It is hard to marry an almost complete stranger. Marriage is so intimate. Forget expectations of perfection, there is an expection of some degree of comfort, companionship, physical closeness, and liking, friendship. It is very difficult to be lonely outside of marriage, but it is intolerable to be lonely year after year, decade after decade, inside of marriage. This is the one part of implementing Islam that is really uncomfortable. Just to add, I think women require much more sustained emotional/friendship/nonphysical interaction as a prelude/prerequisite of enjoying/getting fulfiled from physical contact than men understand, or seem to care to understand. This would help a lot of marriage in sha Allah if these two aspects of married life were seen to be linked.

By: Abdul At-Tawaab

Abdul At-Tawaab — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 15:10:03 +0000

AsSalaamu Alaikum,

I finished listening to the audio for this transcribed post. Alhamdulillah. JazakAllahu Khairun for such insightful words. Interestingly in dealing with marriage I find myself in similar situations. The lecture has shed light on my problem, especially with being involved within the community. May Allah guide us through these endeavors inshaAllah. JazakAllahu khairun.

By: Haq

Haq — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 19:59:41 +0000

JazzakAllah Khair sis !

By: UmmAbdullah

UmmAbdullah — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 10:02:05 +0000

Mash’allah very beneficial and real article.

Marriage is for sure hard hard work but I swear by Allah, if we are patient, Allah will pull us out of whatever conflict we think is just the biggest thing we ever faced.

I know a dear sister whose husband has to travel alot for work and she is alone w/ their child for alot of the time. She has realized how she can step back and see how at certain times Allah is just testing her and once she turns to Him, things get easier and sort themselves out.

By: Marya

Marya — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 00:03:20 +0000

http://www.suhaibwebb.com/audio/SuccessfulMarriages.mp3

By: Marya

Marya — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 23:59:33 +0000

We do have audio. Check under Audio Lectures insha’Allah.

By: Haq

Haq — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 23:49:37 +0000

What?? marriage aint gonna make me happy??? thats marriage out the door! lol
I found this series on marriage to be one of the most beneficial posts on this site! I just wish we had the audio…May Allah reward you both with everlasting HAPPY marriages!!

By: Aisha

Aisha — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 23:35:34 +0000

I had read that the wife only has to “obey” the husband in matters relating to his rights? Does she have to make him a 7 course dinner if he tells her to? I mean, I know the husband should be understanding, but does she have to do this? I had heard in several spheres/shuyukh that she only has to “obey” him for matters in which she has rights to him.

I know that she is to recognize him as leader of the household, but what I mean is that does she literally have to do everything he says or else she is disobeying him?