Posts Tagged ‘marriage’

10 Guidelines for Gender Relations in Islam

By Muslema Purmul and Maryam Amirebrahimi Reconstructing Beauty Series: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII A Clarification on Beautifying Gender Relations Within the Community Co-ed Love for the Sake of Allah? Part 1 | Part 2 I was standing next to the grave, supplicating quietly to Allah for the man we […]

When You Marry for Four Reasons, Don’t Forget Your Reason

By Karim Serageldin As a practicing psychologist, I was once consulted by a brother in Turkey in need of immediate relationship advice. In summary, the brother’s “emergency” was that he had met a nice religious girl from a good family but was not attracted to her at all. He was under pressure from both his […]

Sappy Love

Glimpses of Marital Bliss: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV| Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII We know about sappy love movies, where lovers have that star-dazed look in their eyes and are willing to do anything- anywhere- anytime- to be with their lover. Well, that does exist in Muslim marriages. And […]

Through Thick and Thin

  Glimpses of Marital Bliss: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV| Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII Every person has a different marriage experience and sometimes, it may turn sour. When words of divorce are spoken, it can often lead to incredibly painful emotions. In this narrative, a woman describes […]

The Little Things That Count

Glimpses of Marital Bliss: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV| Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI Some of us have grandiose ideas of what romance is. Many of us have been programmed by popular culture to expect big gestures of love and passion and intimacy. However, when we take the time […]

Feeling Homesick and Thinking of Divorce

Question: I recently got married, and although I am a family oriented individual, I decided to move with my husband to his state far from my family. It was hard, and I was greatly homesick, but alhamdulillah (all praise is due to God), Allah helped me out. He is a great husband. He is overprotective […]

Finding Allah Through Divorce

Glimpses of Marital Bliss: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV| Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII Most people who marry do not expect their marriages to end in divorce. But what if they do? How does a person recover from a difficult marriage or a divorce? Below, one woman describes her experiences and shares […]

Infidelity and Spying on a Spouse

Question: “I am recently married to my husband for 8 months. Recently I found out about his past, that he is/was bisexual. Up until then, I knew of the existence of the guy as his close friend. I indirectly confronted my husband and he confessed. He didn’t want to tell me because he’s afraid it […]

Perspectives on Marriage

Glimpses of Marital Bliss: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI Different couples have different perspectives on marriage and what it’s really all about. Below are two different narratives from two different individuals on what marriage is to them: Couple 1: “Marriage is work. It’s sacrifice. It’s compromise. I watch romantic comedies, and […]

How do I deal with a Non-Practicing Spouse?

Question: I want to find out what is the ruling for a practicing Muslimah whose Muslim husband does not pray except occasionally. He has tried intermittently to establish salah (prayer) but it was not consistent. He doesn’t go to the mosque and he’s never read the entire Qur’an. Before, he would combine three days at […]

From an Arranged Marriage to Deep Love

Glimpses of Marital Bliss: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI Here is an inspiring narrative of a woman who was married through an arranged marriage, who grew to love her husband with passion and compassion, and who was there for him—as he was there for her—through the thick and thin of […]

A Wounded Heart

By Maria Karim The sudden dreadful crying and screaming woke Zainab up. She lay on her bed, burying her face into the pillow, trying hard to block out the growing noise coming from the other room. It had hardly been two hours since she had cried herself to sleep. Her tender heart started pounding against […]

Will They Say Yes?

Glimpses of Marital Bliss: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI Some of us may fear something that sets us apart from others may be the reason they would not consider us for marriage. This story shows us that what makes us truly unique is the characteristic which can draw someone to love us. […]

Hook Up with the Quran, Allah Will Hook You Up

Originally published in April 2010. Part I | Part II Veiled from sight, a young woman walked down the streets of Cairo, reciting Qur’an to herself and thinking about her goals. She loved the Qur’an and was passionate about studying and teaching it. She wanted to move to Saudi Arabia where she knew of Qur’anic […]

5 Ways to Navigate Your Parents’ Rocky Marriage

By Aisha Shahnaz Rocky marriages can be strewn with boulders and trenches for the husband and wife involved, but they can be especially trying for their children. My parents, may Allah bless and have mercy upon them both, had a marriage that involved a series of disputes that I was too young to understand. Despite […]

M&M’s: Marriage and Money

By Eyad Alnaslah A recent article in the New York Times highlighted the importance of a couple agreeing on the type of financial lifestyle they wish to live before things get serious in a relationship. Questions such as “What is your credit score?” are increasingly asked on a first date. Unromantic? Very. Important? Exceptionally. As Muslims, […]

A Marriage Mystery

By Meltem Baykaner I have recently reached that age. Many sisters will know the age that I am speaking of. It is an age not necessarily marked by a number, but rather recognised by the way you are treated… Having bounded through childhood, jumped the hurdles of adolescence and, alhamdulillah (praise be to God), somehow […]

Is Passionate Love in Marriage…Real?

10 Considerations when Searching for the One  “I’m afraid of getting married,” she told me. She, like the countless other women who had approached me, confessed what she thought was unique to her. “I’m constantly told by older married women that I should enjoy my life being single because marriage is a burden. I’ve never […]

Want Your Marriage to Last? Get Premarital Counseling

Originally posted in February 2012 I spent my time at a recent wedding listening to people’s marriage problems. As the guests danced the night away in celebration, I sat in the back of the hall talking about shattered dreams and unfulfilled expectations. Sometimes, we had to scream to hear each other over the music. There […]

Will Marriage Solve My Problems?

After engaging more with the Muslim community through activities like da`wah (calling to Islam), conferences, and halaqat (study circles), I have observed something intriguing: there seems to be a fascination—even obsession—with the topic of marriage. Regardless of whether a particular lecture is dedicated to something other than gender relations, the topic of marriage somehow always […]