Posts Tagged ‘marriage’

From an Arranged Marriage to Deep Love

Glimpses of Marital Bliss: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V Here is an inspiring narrative of a woman who was married through an arranged marriage, who grew to love her husband with passion and compassion, and who was there for him—as he was there for her—through the thick and thin of life. […]

A Wounded Heart

By Maria Karim The sudden dreadful crying and screaming woke Zainab up. She lay on her bed, burying her face into the pillow, trying hard to block out the growing noise coming from the other room. It had hardly been two hours since she had cried herself to sleep. Her tender heart started pounding against […]

Will They Say Yes?

Glimpses of Marital Bliss: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V Some of us may fear something that sets us apart from others may be the reason they would not consider us for marriage. This story shows us that what makes us truly unique is the characteristic which can draw someone to love us. “After […]

Hook Up with the Quran, Allah Will Hook You Up

Originally published in April 2010. Part I | Part II Veiled from sight, a young woman walked down the streets of Cairo, reciting Qur’an to herself and thinking about her goals. She loved the Qur’an and was passionate about studying and teaching it. She wanted to move to Saudi Arabia where she knew of Qur’anic […]

5 Ways to Navigate Your Parents’ Rocky Marriage

By Aisha Shahnaz Rocky marriages can be strewn with boulders and trenches for the husband and wife involved, but they can be especially trying for their children. My parents, may Allah bless and have mercy upon them both, had a marriage that involved a series of disputes that I was too young to understand. Despite […]

M&M’s: Marriage and Money

By Eyad Alnaslah A recent article in the New York Times highlighted the importance of a couple agreeing on the type of financial lifestyle they wish to live before things get serious in a relationship. Questions such as “What is your credit score?” are increasingly asked on a first date. Unromantic? Very. Important? Exceptionally. As Muslims, […]

A Marriage Mystery

By Meltem Baykaner I have recently reached that age. Many sisters will know the age that I am speaking of. It is an age not necessarily marked by a number, but rather recognised by the way you are treated… Having bounded through childhood, jumped the hurdles of adolescence and, alhamdulillah (praise be to God), somehow […]

Is Passionate Love in Marriage…Real?

10 Considerations when Searching for the One  “I’m afraid of getting married,” she told me. She, like the countless other women who had approached me, confessed what she thought was unique to her. “I’m constantly told by older married women that I should enjoy my life being single because marriage is a burden. I’ve never […]

Want Your Marriage to Last? Get Premarital Counseling

Originally posted in February 2012 I spent my time at a recent wedding listening to people’s marriage problems. As the guests danced the night away in celebration, I sat in the back of the hall talking about shattered dreams and unfulfilled expectations. Sometimes, we had to scream to hear each other over the music. There […]

Will Marriage Solve My Problems?

By Ubah After engaging more with the Muslim community through activities like da`wah (calling to Islam), conferences, and halaqat (study circles), I have observed something intriguing: there seems to be a fascination—even obsession—with the topic of marriage. Regardless of whether a particular lecture is dedicated to something other than gender relations, the topic of marriage somehow […]

Living With My Brother-in-Law

Question: I am a convert, and have been married for almost 6 years. Unfortunately in that time, my brother-in-law has stayed with us. Initially I didn’t mind, mainly because I wasn’t really practicing at the start of our marriage and didn’t see an issue with a non-mahram (a male not directly related to you) living […]

Polygamous Marriage

Question: I have been discussing marriage with a brother. He seems to have everything I’m looking for in a spouse, and even though we’re still getting to know each other better, feelings get deeper on both sides. The problem is, he doesn’t oppose polygamy, and said he could have more than one wife at a […]

Sunni-Shia Marriage

WebbStaff Note: This article does not represent a fiqhi (legal) ruling on the permissability of Sunni/Shia marriages. We encourage those who are dealing with an intra-religious or inter-religious union to seek advice from a qualified local religious scholar, as is mentioned below. This article is solely meant to represent a counseling perspective on how to deal with marriage when the two […]

Hook Up with Allah, Allah will Hook You Up

Originally published in April 2010 Part I | Part II Before I got married, I was given unsolicited advice on how to change in order to make myself “more appealing” to men. Sisters would voluntarily tell me I should change my dress style, personality and passion for activism in order not to scare them away. […]

Help! My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex

Question: We are a young couple in our mid 20’s, both professionals, live alone, and have no children. I couldn’t wish for a better wife. She really is the whole package—intelligent, beautiful, and pious. We get along extremely well, share interests, and are always joking together. We genuinely are best friends, and I have absolutely […]

Should I Consider Him for Marriage if I’m Not Attracted to Him?

Question: I am talking to a guy for marriage. I respect his character, and we align in all the important ways: faith, goals, family desires, etc. The problem is that my attraction towards him is very neutral. He is growing on me, but it is clear that he is developing feelings faster for me than […]

Problems with Attraction

Question: I have been trying to get married for the past few years, and the main problem I am facing is that whoever is brought to me as a prospect through my family or the community, I am just not physically attracted to them; and it is not because I am looking for a super […]

Do I Tell My Parents That I Don’t Want to Marry My Cousin?

Question: I am engaged, but it has not brought any of the anticipated excitement, anxiousness, nor eagerness. I have had growing pessimism, doubts, and concerns because my parents have asked for my cousin’s hand in marriage. I did oblige initially, but the more I think about my future with her, I begin to have more […]

Dwell In Tranquility

Dwell in Tranquility: an Islamic Roadmap to the Vibrant Marriage is aimed at helping Muslims—at any stage in the marriage process— to understand themselves and what they want in their marriage in order to build a strong and loving partnership. The following is an interview with the author, Kamal Shaarawy, who is also the founder […]

Secrets From My Husband’s Past

Question: My husband had girlfriends in the past which he refuses to talk to me about. During our engagement, he made it clear that he wasn’t an angel in the past, but that he’s a different man now and he doesn’t like to talk about his past since it is between him and Allah. He […]