Posts Tagged ‘advice column’

Living With My Brother-in-Law

Question: I am a convert, and have been married for almost 6 years. Unfortunately in that time, my brother-in-law has stayed with us. Initially I didn’t mind, mainly because I wasn’t really practicing at the start of our marriage and didn’t see an issue with a non-mahram (a male not directly related to you) living […]

Moving Out

Question: I am a 30 year old Muslim woman who lives with my family. Alhamdulilah (praise be to God) I have a loving and wonderful home, but I am ready to move out and live independently. I am looking for an apartment to rent on my own. The problem is, my father would never let […]

Leaving Islam

Question: We have a 25-year-old son who lives 3000 miles away from us.  We went to see him a couple of weeks ago and he informed us that he was no longer Muslim, that he does not believe in any religion. He believes that religions are one of the main reasons why there are so […]

Help! My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex

Question: We are a young couple in our mid 20’s, both professionals, live alone, and have no children. I couldn’t wish for a better wife. She really is the whole package—intelligent, beautiful, and pious. We get along extremely well, share interests, and are always joking together. We genuinely are best friends, and I have absolutely […]

Should I Consider Him for Marriage if I’m Not Attracted to Him?

Question: I am talking to a guy for marriage. I respect his character, and we align in all the important ways: faith, goals, family desires, etc. The problem is that my attraction towards him is very neutral. He is growing on me, but it is clear that he is developing feelings faster for me than […]

Problems with Attraction

Question: I have been trying to get married for the past few years, and the main problem I am facing is that whoever is brought to me as a prospect through my family or the community, I am just not physically attracted to them; and it is not because I am looking for a super […]

Child Abuse

Question:  Your website gives a lot of info on domestic violence, defined as abuse between couples, but what about child abuse? Do you have any articles or resources on that? I really need them. I suffer from PTSD, ADD, depression, and anxiety because of intense physical abuse and emotional neglect. Can you please help me? […]

Loneliness

Question: I was engaged to be married, but one day my fiancé changed like the weather, and chose to marry another woman. I have been broken, humiliated, and abandoned.  Now, every time I try to move forward with other relationships, I face another failure. I have been deserted by those I love the most, betrayed, […]

Do I Tell My Parents That I Don’t Want to Marry My Cousin?

Question: I am engaged, but it has not brought any of the anticipated excitement, anxiousness, nor eagerness. I have had growing pessimism, doubts, and concerns because my parents have asked for my cousin’s hand in marriage. I did oblige initially, but the more I think about my future with her, I begin to have more […]

On The Threshold Of Adulthood

Question: I have twins who will be graduating from high school this year, and I feel like I am fighting with them all the time about the choices they are making. I don’t like the friends they hang out with, and I don’t think they are mature enough to make the right choices. Their major […]

My Husband Misunderstands My Mood Swings

Question: I have a question about the moods and hormones of women and how men should handle them. I feel depressed sometimes without reason or I feel low, but my husband gets angry with me. Then if I complain a bit or get angry with him that he isn’t giving me enough time, he gets […]

Secrets From My Husband’s Past

Question: My husband had girlfriends in the past which he refuses to talk to me about. During our engagement, he made it clear that he wasn’t an angel in the past, but that he’s a different man now and he doesn’t like to talk about his past since it is between him and Allah. He […]

Age Difference Between Spouses

Question: My question is in regard to age difference in marriage and understanding how realistic it is in the North American context. I am 28 years old and there is a particular brother I am interested in who has incredible character and whom I feel I really click with. The issue is that he is […]

My Wife is Always Angry

Question: My wife and I are newly married, and I feel she is always angry with me.  During the planning of the wedding, I thought her moodiness was due to the stress of the wedding. However, her frustration has continued into our marriage. The smallest of things that I say or do, which in my […]

I Can’t Get in the Mood with my Husband

Question: I have a serious problem and was hoping you could offer some advice. I have been married for three months, meaning we just had the wedding and moved in together three months ago. Prior to that, I had my nikkah (religious marriage ceremony) for one year.  The marriage was not consummated then, and we […]

My Husband Has Not Consummated Our Marriage

Question: My husband and I have been married for two and a half years now, but we have not yet consummated our marriage.  He does not have a physical problem. He tells me the reason is because of school and family pressure, but I just don’t know if that’s true.  This issue has taken a […]