12 Tips for the Convert Muslim


By Brother Alex (Dallas, TX)

1. Practice Islam as much as you can

“He who loves my Sunnah has loved me, and he who loves me will be with me in Paradise.”
-The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Tirmidhi)

As a new Muslim, you will have trouble keeping up with prayers every day, fasting during Ramadan, and the many other practices in this religion. The struggle that we face, with such a radical change in lifestyle, is difficult and will take some time. Awkward moments are bound to happen, don’t fret. You are not expected to wake up at 4am every morning to pray tahajjud (extra night prayers). If you have problems with certain practices, then gradually work yourself into the mindset of worship. A counselor once told me when I was young, “How do you eat an elephant? Just One bite at a time.” Think of it as one step at a time. Pray to Allah (swt) and ask for Him to make it easy for you and the rest will come naturally.

Keeping up with your devotional practices is something that will strengthen your faith immensely. Read the Qur’an whenever possible. Find a collection of hadith, such as Riyadh us-Saliheen, and read it often. You will start to feel a connection to Allah (swt) and you will become used to Islam as a religion and way of life.

2.  Respect your parents

“Heaven lies under the feet of your mother.”
-The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Ahmad, Nasa’i)

Keeping up a good relationship with your family is essential. Try to avoid bringing up or taking part in controversial subjects regarding religion. This is almost unavoidable, but your parents will eventually accept that Islam is not going to turn you into a terrorist if you stay calm during these tense moments. Gradually, your parents will gain some respect and understanding of Islam and may start to become genuinely interested. This is a great sign and insha’Allah, God will make a way for them to accept Islam.

What you do not want to do is act like you know everything, attempt to debate everything, or overly defend yourself in a way that might make you angry or upset. This will just cause heartache and uneasiness. Your priority now should be to work on yourself.

3. Find a teacher

“For him who follows a path for seeking knowledge, Allah will ease for him the path to Paradise.”
-The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Muslim)

Finding a teacher to bounce ideas off of is a great way to learn your deen (religion). I found it is good to find someone with as much knowledge as possible who also has an understanding of the English language and American culture. It is difficult to listen to someone with a thick accent or someone with a back-home mentality. When I first accepted Islam, I would drive every day to visit my teacher and I would ask him what seemed like an endless stream of questions. Sometimes he seemed overwhelmed! This is a great way to clarify things you hear on Sheikh Youtube or Google or any part of the Qur’an you are reading at the time.

This will also help you have a real grounding in the Islamic tradition. You will eventually have spent more time learning Islam than most people from Muslim families. Maintain a sense of humility if you do gain a lot of knowledge, as there will always be someone who will be more knowledgeable than you. Learn everything you can in small chunks, no one is asking you to be a scholar!

4. Keep away from debates and arguments

“Verily anger spoils faith as aloe spoils honey.”
-The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi)

Trying to constantly defend your religion is something that will cause you a lot of stress. I remember when I first accepted Islam, it seemed like the whole world was after me. This may happen to different people at different levels, but it was a very overwhelming experience for me. The best thing to do is avoid these arguments at all costs. If you are mature about your religion and display a desire to explain yourself without refuting others, then many doors will open for you. You are bound to give someone a refreshing view of Islam, which is what so many people are hungry for after seeing Islam in such a negative light in the media.

Staying away from these discussions will put you at peace and give you breathing room. A lot of converts are not really comfortable with bringing up their religion because of the backlash they receive. Personally, I recognized that if I just mention it when necessary, I get a more positive reaction. You’ll be surprised to hear “Oh that’s cool dude, what made you pick that religion?” This is always an opportunity for da’wah (inviting to Islam).

5. Gain a connection to the Arabic language

“Indeed, We have sent it down as an Arabic Qur’an that you might understand.”
-The Holy Qur’an, 12:2

This is one of my favorite parts of becoming a Muslim. To be honest, I’m a language-lover and I realize everyone is not the same in this regard. Just because you failed high school Spanish though doesn’t mean you will have trouble with Arabic. There are many tricks to learning the language that I won’t go into here, but there are ways to make this easier on yourself. These methods can be found online or in books; with a little research you can pave your way to gaining an understanding of Arabic.

Start by learning the alphabet and connecting letters together. You can learn this in an afternoon if you know someone that is a native Arabic speaker (but go at your own pace). Sit on that for a while and eventually you will be able to follow along in the Qur’an if you listen to a recitation on your computer or MP3 player. You will start to recognize words, after which you can get into simple grammar rules. I recommend learning common nouns and prepositions first (words like “in”, “on”, “for” and “with”).

Arabic can be really enjoyable, and you are bound to gain an Islamic vocabulary after listening to talks or lectures. Eventually you will know meanings of words like “furqaan” and “sajdah” and you’ll be able to use them in conversations with Muslims. Sabr (patience) is essential!

6. Understand Islam’s organic nature

“Those who make things hard for themselves will be destroyed. (He said it three times.)”
-The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Muslim)

Coming to Islam will sometimes put you in a situation where you are overwhelmed with opinions that are hard to follow. As an example, one might be told that you have to wash your feet every time you make wudhu (ablution) unless you wipe over leather socks that have been worn from your previous wudhu. For most Americans, the idea of wearing leather socks is something that we find extremely unusual. If we do a little research, we find there are opinions of scholars that mention the permissibility of wiping over cotton socks (even ones with holes in them!). To an American convert, these opinions can cause a huge sigh of relief.

7. Maintain your Identity

“O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.”
-The Holy Qur’an, 49:1

Being a Muslim is a huge part of your identity now. That doesn’t mean you can’t barbeque with your friends or watch football on Sundays. If there are things in your culture that do not directly contradict with basic Islamic creed, then you are welcome to keep those things in your life. You do not need to start wearing Arab or Indian clothing. As long as your clothes cover what they are supposed to cover, you are in the clear.

Many converts are also exposed to really weird food that is overly spicy or funny tasting. This might lead us to think that eating curry is sunnah or something righteous. We can still have our own culture and tastes in food: pot roast and beans are still halal!

There are many other examples of things that you will be exposed to that are from foreign cultures and do not necessarily have anything to do with Islam. Our goal as new Muslims is to worship Allah (swt), not to add a Pakistani or Arab identity to our persona.

It is good to have a teacher who understands the subtleties of different opinion in fiqh (Islamic jurisprudence) and can inform you of differences among the scholars on issues that are of concern. Most people in masajid will have a very limited view of the juristic possibilities inside the Islamic tradition. Islam is a vast tradition and we should not make it small. These diverse opinions are there to help us, not cause strain on ourselves.

8. Force yourself to go to the masjid

“The person who receives the greatest reward for the Salah is one who lives the farthest and has the farthest to walk.”
-The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Bukhari, Muslim)

Going on Fridays is a given, but I would also recommend trying to fit a few prayers (at least) per week in the masjid. This will open many doors for you and will insha’Allah grant many good deeds to your account. You will meet people who are connected to Islam; networking opportunities are more readily available; and you are bound to make long-lasting friends. This is one of the things that I really love about Islam, that you can almost always find people in the masjid.

Although this may be hard initially, try and go to the masjid. The payoff will be huge, even if you just pray and leave right after. You will eventually warm up to the community and you can feel more comfortable going to the masjid whenever you like.

9. Find Muslim friends and avoid severing ties

“On the Day of Resurrection Allah Almighty will proclaim: “Where are those who have mutual love for My Glory’s sake? Today I shall shelter them in My shade where there is no shade but Mine.”
-The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Muslim)

Saying “As-salamu ‘Alaykum” ( “Peace be upon you”)  to people you see on campus or at the grocery store is a real blessing in Islam. It immediately lets people know you are Muslim and they usually will be happy to return the greeting and hopefully share a few words with you. Doors of friendship will be opened and you will meet lots of people. Try and spend some time with Muslims when you can. It is beneficial to remind yourself that you are not the only Muslim on the planet and you share your religion with almost 2 billion people around the globe.

Also, don’t sever your friendships with your non-Muslim friends unless they are constantly partying or using the list of major sins as their weekend to-do list. You can be a light to your Christian, Agnostic, Jewish, or Atheist friends. You never know who Allah (swt) will guide, and showing that you are living an ethical life can encourage these people to learn a little about Islam or change their mind to having a positive view of the religion.

10. Avoid Loneliness

“Islam began as something strange and will revert to being strange as it began, so give glad tidings to the strangers.”
-The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Muslim)

This is a major problem in the convert community. We are lonely. The best thing we can do to fight the feeling of loneliness is to spend as much time as possible with good company. Having dinners with people a few nights a week is a sure way to maintain a good attitude. The practice of becoming a nun or a monk is alien to Islam; we are social creatures and Islam recognizes this.

Try not to lock yourself away in your apartment to avoid the world. This will just cause a vicious cycle that will cause deep depression and can lead to searching for solace in haram (unlawful).

Make it an obligation on yourself to remain a sociable human being. It takes a lot of work but the result is happiness and contentment in life.

11. Stay away from extremism

“And thus we have made you a just community that you will be witnesses over the people.”
-The Holy Qur’an, 2:143

Most converts do not enter Islam looking for an extremist point of view. Unfortunately, we have seen some converts do end up overseas working for terrorist organizations. This is something that can happen from a person feeling victimized or ostracized by their own culture and being overcome with anger.

I personally have not had a problem with anyone trying to “radicalize” me. It does happen enough though that it should be a concern. It will be best for you to keep your head on your shoulders and not get caught up with extreme points of view. Know that all of the scholars overseas and in America have absolutely refuted terrorism in their fatawa (legal rulings). Extremism is on the very edges of the Islamic thought. Do your best to stay on a middle way.

12. Do not despair

“So know that victory is with patience, and relief is with distress and that with hardship comes ease.”
-The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ

Being a convert to Islam, you will face a lot of tribulations. There is not anything that you cannot overcome though, and never despair in Allah (swt).

Allah (swt) guided to you to Islam, you searched for the answer and you found it. Be happy and constantly remind yourself of the blessings in your life. There are a lot of good things that will happen to you and you are on the straight road to Jannah (paradise). Rejoice in being Muslim. Remember the Sahabah (companions) were all converts to Islam and they were human beings that came from Adam and Eve just like you! Be strong and find comfort in your prayers and worship to Allah (swt). The first six months were the hardest for me, and insha’Allah we will all continue to grow as a convert community in America.

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244 Comments

  1. Yahya Nix says:

    I love being a convert to islam. I am at peace with Allah and the prophet Muhammed(sorry i am a terrible speller.) I am starting my fast today. I am happy now!

    • zainab says:

      wow that is so amazing im pleased that you like the religion islam. im really proud to be a muslim and i could not be happier

    • Mélody says:

      I became muslim since 11 years and I feel peace every days because of Islam! Of course I met lot of troubles with ex friends and family who doesn’t understood my choose but this mean nothing :)
      For all converters : keep the way of Islam and try to do what you think is wright without hurt others.
      Some people will attack our religion but try to stay quiet and aware to explain (without breaking your head or heart!!). I’m french and these days are difficult for muslims here and most for converters like me… fortunately I leave in Paris!!
      I’m sorry for my english which I read better than write, I just hope you can understand what I want explain….
      May Allah bless all muslims

    • chahine says:

      hey how are you i’m very happy tha your converted to islam

    • Azzi says:

      Masha’allah :D But remember to always say salalahu alaihi wa salam after mentioning the prophet’s name (saw) <- this is a shorter version which is still accepted :) Salam!

      • Paul Bartlett says:

        Salaam. I am not a scholar and do not pretend to be one, but I seem to recall having read years ago that it is sufficient to invoke peace upon Prophet Muhammad (saws) once in one’s lifetime. (Sorry that I do not recall details of the reference.) Beyond that it is a matter of personal piety and preference but not of obligation.

        • Student of the Creator says:

          As salam alaykum wah rahmatuallah wah barakatahu.

          I would like to start In the Name of Allah and may the peace, mercy and blessings of Allah be upon our beloved and final prophet.

          I was very confused on this topic and many others upon accepting Islam.
          I was told many different things, from many different people.

          The thing that helped me so much was finding local scholars whom I could place my trust. God willing they will be happy to help in any way possible and also offer resources to further help you.

          We are blessed to have the computer as a tool for good and I encourage you to check out this site.

          http://muslimmatters.org/2009/12/21/believers-send-your-blessings-on-him-a-concise-resource-for-salawat-on-the-prophet/#oblige

          I found this to be an excellent scholarly source of information that clarifies all questions I had regarding this topic.
          I pray to Allah it will do the same for you and others looking for guidance.

        • Paul Bartlett says:

          Salaam. (I hope the indentations make this clear, as threading can only be nested a few levels deep.)

          Student of the Creator wrote, “The thing that helped me so much was finding local scholars whom I could place my trust. God willing they will be happy to help in any way possible and also offer resources to further help you.”

          Please understand that scholars are not available to everyone. Even if they are, do they speak good English (or French or Spanish, depending on the part of North America)? Are they willing to do so freely? Do they intersperse so many incomprehensible Arabic terms in their speech that they might as well be speaking Arabic anyway? Do they really understand westerners and their issues and concerns, or are they stuck in a sort of “old world, old country” mentality? How accessible are they at all, especially to shy, unassertive inquirers who may have genuine trouble reaching out, especially if those inquirers have already had disappointing, even bad, experiences in the community?

          Allah (swt) knows best, but not all resources are equally available to everyone.

  2. Deen says:

    Assalamu Alaikum-
    Although I think this article has a lot of good points it also has some racist comments in here that are very hurtful. I really think that part of becoming a Muslim is examining the ways our culture may be racist or xenophobic and letting go of these traits. I am uncomfortable with the article saying “listening to someone with a thick accent or back-home mnetality…”. And calling food “overly spicy or funny tasting”. Those are really hurtful ways of talking about the culture of your brothers and sisters. Think about it, would you want someone to refer to your own culture or race that way? I find a lot of people who convert to islam dont let go of their racist thought patterns and store a lot of anger toward having to mingle with other races! Yes it is very hard to be a convert I am one myself, but it is really not acceptable to talk about other cultures and groups whether muslim or not as being “foreign or strange”. We have to examine the ways we carry white supremacist or “American supremacist thoughts” and realize that it is wrong. We have to acknowledge that it is not okay to feel comfortable putting other cultures down and seeing our own as “the norm”. Thats part of becoming a muslim- realizing there is a big world out there of different cultures and one is not better than the other. And one type of food is not better than the other etc. We can have personal preferences without calling other peoples food “overly” anything. Our hearts and minds need to be open and accepting to our new brothers and sisters. We should value them and their cultures and see the good in it instead of judging them and being narrow minded and seeing our own culture as superior. I know it can be isolating and the opposite can occur with other people making “us” feel bad but two wrongs dont make a right!

    • Muhammad Talut says:

      I love convert/reverts for life Mashallah for their devotion,challenges and steadfastness and sacrifices.

      I have read this article more than 7 times in few months only to check new comments.

      But the above comment by brother or sister “Deen” is just out of this world. Top quality analysis without any prejudice and respect for every one without blaming. Its truly a high level of thinking but unfortunately not easy to achieve and not every one makes these intellectual calculations before commiting an act.

      If this happens with every new revert and he/she does not asscociate such things with Islam,then i can guarantee u that there will be no one leaving islam and apostasizing since defect in a person or culture does nt mean defect in Allah,Prophet and Islam.

      i pray for guidance and hidayat for all humanity not in islam yet,for the families of reverts and for steadfastness of Reverts and that born muslims be helpful and welcoming to new muslims and do kind dawah to non muslims.

    • AbdulHaqq Chris Caras says:

      Let’s try not to have bad suspicions about the words of our brothers. Calling food spicy or weird is hardly racism. In my local community, the spiciness of food is like an inside joke, and I’ve never known anyone to feel offense from it. It’s natural to find the food of different cultures “weird” or even off-putting. The Prophet (SallaLLaahu alayhi waSallam) had food preferences, some of which were aligned with tribal tradition and what he was used to, but who interprets that as being judgmental against others who like that food even if he himself in many ahaadeeth described that food with unpleasant characteristics (like the lizard in particular)? He (SallaLLahu Alayhi waSallam) also said what means, “there is something about the eyes of Ansari women” when advising men from Mekkah about marriage… this is a cultural observation from someone who knows what the men of one area find attractive so that they don’t rush into marriage with women from another area and later realize they find something unappealing or a turn-off from them and later hurt their feelings by divorcing them or preferring more “familiar” women over them. Where’s the racism in that? Where did he (SallaLLahu alayhi waSallam) or this author (Alex from Dallas) say that his race was BETTER than the other?? Good thing the author didn’t say anything about cultural clothing preferences or else some readers might think he was trying to start a Muslim KKK movement after he was already accused of carrying white supremacist thoughts!

      You seriously have to take the words of people and try to give them a good spin and not rush towards harsh judgment or let shaytaan play with your mind into making everyone seem to have ill intention.

      Many accents of other people are in fact very heavy making their English difficult to understand. You especially find that when travelling throughout the Muslim world. That’s just a fact, and I’m sure a lot of word recognition software would display the same conclusion, and it’s a stage every language learner goes through. How the heck is that racist!? Many times I find some Arabs difficult to understand in English so I speak to them in Arabic. And some of them think my Arabic is difficult to understand so they speak to me in English. Am I a racist for that?? I might do the same with Urdu speaking brothers if I knew the Urdu language also. The author of this article is definitely not racist as he advised other new Muslims to sit with knowledgeable Muslims. He only distinguished between those who were difficult to understand and those whose knowledge of Islam was limited to culture, nothing else.

      Even during the battles that Muslim armies waged in the first century AH, most of the armies were grouped according to tribe/country. Is that racist to group them like that, or do we have to be a big melting pot? Not necessarily, as in times like that you need to be around people you have the utmost trust in and experience in dealing with and understand their words and gestures without any misunderstanding in communication. No racism in that at all.

      Overall, I thought the article had a very worldly view to it without any *hint* of racism, which is the only reason why I felt obligated to write all this.

      I don’t know anyone that hates racism and nationalism more than myself and I personally find it a huge turn-off and generally refuse to sit with anyone who makes clear racist statements. But with that, we have to recognize what racism is and isn’t. Merely finding something from another culture/tradition different or calling it foreign is not racist in the least. The word “foreign” doesn’t have any racist connotations whatsoever. Some people in fact have a predilection towards foreign things and to them the word has a positive meaning and their homes are decorated with foreign items and they like foreign garb, foreign cars, and hang out with foreign friends and may even be attracted to foreign folks of the opposite gender. And Prophet Loot (alaihis-Salaam) referred to his guests as munkaroon (soorat al-hijr) meaning strange, unfamiliar, foreign. Is he a racist for that since he obviously described them with this word and they weren’t from his town? Hell no.

      The author wrote a piece for new Muslims. So he addressed them according to what is familiar and normal to them, without ever saying that such background is “supreme” or “ideal” or “better”, but just the “norm” which is a neutral word entirely, and relative to who you’re speaking to. In this case, new Muslims. In another case you may be present with people from one company, get to know them and their habits/policies, so then when they visit another facility or firm you brief them on what they are going to encounter that is different from what they’re used to and how to easily adapt. There’s no “putting down” in there whatsoever.

      Let’s please try to understand what racism is and isn’t before having ill thoughts about our brothers, and let’s ask Allah for guidance, and protection from the shaytaan.

      • Muhammad Talut says:

        Jazak Allah Firdous for detailed explaination

        but brother Deen (against whom i made the first comment said “” I am uncomfortable with the article saying “listening to someone with a thick accent or back-home mnetality…”. And calling food “overly spicy or funny tasting”. Those are really hurtful ways of talking about the culture of your brothers and sisters.))

        I understand and agree with ur view 200% and personally dont have issues with it but if many people are hurt by it then is’nt it better to avoid it ?

      • Deen says:

        I agree that calling peoples food “weird” and referring to people having “thick accents” can be racially hurtful to people. I also agree with the “foreign thing”. Its a different lived experience. So we have to be aware of how our words can effect someone else. Sometimes we come to islam, but we bring our baggage. Part of that baggage can be racist attitudes or racial supremacist ideas that we might not even be aware of!

        I would get into the mindset of, if it hurts someone apologize rather than defend it. In the end we are one ummah and if we have to be open to how our words may be hurting our brothers and sisters.

        Hope that opens some hearts and minds!

        Assalamu Alaikum

        • Deen says:

          P.S the previous comment is not for one particular group. It goes for us all! myself included! we have to remember,
          Allah SWT says, that we have been made nations and tribes that we may get to know one another, not that we may despise one another.

          We are One Ummah…one love for all

          Assalamu Alaikum

    • selda says:

      wellsaid.

      • Christine says:

        I have to disagree with brother Deen, with all respect. The author is pointing out things that converts will most likely encounter that may be difficult. I’ve been to events at a masjid where the only food served was un-eatable because it was painfully spicy. My kids couldn’t eat either. The author is saying we don’t have to change the things in our life that are halal, and we don’t have to adopt other cultures, which may seem strange to us.

        It’s also natural to have a deeper connection with people that we can communicate comfortably with and who understand us well. That’s also just normal, it’s not being racist to mention that. I’m sure people who speak only Urdu feel more comfortable communicating with people who speak Urdu and who understand their cultural mentality.

        • Yaqub says:

          As’Salaamalaikum Christine and to all.

          Yes you’re right Christine; food is an aspect of culture…and has nothing to do with religion which trumps all culture.

          I was born and raised in America and love my meatloaf and mac-n-cheese; but I don’t expect my Indian-Pakistani-South Asian-Arab brothers and sisters to enjoy that…but it’s all good because what’s more important is the faith that bonds us…not the food, language, clothing,etc.

        • Deen says:

          I agree that we should all be more accommodating to one another. Not just for spice level, but also medical conditions like diabetes etc.

          These posts are not in an effort to silence anyone or take away their story of isolation or hardship.

          I just think we have to be sensitive about the words we use and ideas that we allow ourselves to continue to have.

          It never feels good to be called weird. I think it is pretty simple. Who would want to be called that?

          Or who would like to be referred to as having a thick accent?

          Like I said, it may be a different lived reality. But, we have to be sensitive about how we talk about each other.

          I have noticed there is a real issue with people feeling like its okay to bash each other racially. Its just not cool.

          The food issue is totally understood, as is the cultural isolation. Believe me, I have been through a lot of isolation myself.

          But I also have witnessed some racial comments in “convert” spaces that make me extremely uncomfortable. Comments on peoples clothing, language, food, culture. It’s like there is a free pass to make racial jokes and/or callous comments. This is said with total recognition that it often comes from valid pain and hardship. But it also causes pain to others, when its okay to call people “weird” “foreign” etc.

          It has been very disturbing. Nobody gets a free pass to make racial comments like that. It just isn’t right.

          As I said I am all about creating welcoming inclusive spaces not just for “new” muslims, but for all muslims. Every muslim ideally should feel like a brother and sister in an extended and loving family. They should be considered and embraced. There are many groups I believe need to be advocated for, including those with disabilities, women, etc.. these are groups that often get left out of the planning process and suffer for it!

          I am just asking that people consider whether or not they are being respectful in how they are speaking, and thinking about other cultures within their larger ummah.

          That said, it is never worth it to me to hurt people. We are here today and gone tomorrow, so if there is a short coming in my ability to convey what I am trying to convey I ask forgiveness. If any of this is causing pain, it is not my intention. I only wish to bring light to a certain pattern I have noticed that I have witnessed people getting hurt by.

          May Allah SWT build love and understanding between all of us and make us one family and one Ummah.

          Ameen

    • Ariadne says:

      I think there are a lot of people out there confusing ISlam, Sunnah, and Culture. We must really be mindful that Islam is a universal religion for humanity of all races, not Arab religion. Converting to Islam doesn’t mean you then take a U-turn and adopting Arabic culture.

      Now that said, I have no grudge against Arabians, :) but here just pointing out, bc many ppl around me (my limited experience) confused Islam and Sunnah with culture where Islam was descended. Peace

    • Ilyas says:

      I’m a revert and found this article to be great in detail and free of cultural perception. Alhamdulilah!

  3. Elif says:

    This is an interesting article with many good valid points,however,i would like to suggest that the word convert is not appropriate.A person accepts Islam and in so doing submits to the power of Allah and accepts Prophet Muhammed ( saw) as his last messenger.if the person previously believed in Christianity or Judaism then he comes to a realisation that islam is the final message and logical conclusion to a line of prophets that came as a message for the whole of mankind and for all time. The new follower of Islam does not there fore convert . He has opened his heart and accepted the only true reality within his heart . I was brought up a Roman catholic and accepted Islam elhamdulillah about 35 years ago .My dreams hopes and aspirations have changed over the years and a sense of dissolution prevails because of the state of muslim states and practices in the world but the beauty of the vision of Allah and the knowledge that we came from Him and to Him we will all return is the only truth that prevails.May Allah bless all of us with personal insight and integrity.Follow the middle way in everything and you will have a happy meaningful life . Do not let the barriers of prejudice and extremism cloud the beginning of your journey . Communicate with many because your attitude and example may be a guiding light for others who are searching for a pure simple belief.Do not make what ws intended to be easy difficult .All things will come to pass in time .

  4. M . . . . . says:

    Thank you.. I found the article very enlightening. I don’t live in America but in Australia. I have been struggling [as a revert] for a year now because of my living in rather rural area and all but one of my family are dead against Islam. My Aussie Muslim friends are all rather busy people, do not live close to me, and I don’t get to see them very often. The nearest masjid is over 50 miles away. I spend time with muslim friends in the M.E., when I can, and recently one of them who I looked up to, was so hurtful to me with unnkind opinions/words. He is not the kind of person one can argue with. This kind of thing makes me feel rather inadequate and unworthy, to say the least. I keep up my Q reading and listening. I have been trying to learn Arabic for 4 years on and off. I have sooooo many questions. This article has given me some encouragement. In my reading of it, I didn’t find it racist, but simply honest to the ‘general’ of reverts to find something of use in it. I am sad that Deen wasfelt hurt though. I know how it feels.

    • Muhammad Talut says:

      Salam Alikum brother M from Australia,nice to see u and i applaude your love and attachment with the religion even though u have many tests. Sad to hear about ur situation and how people(born muslims mostly) are not helpful towards reverts and u too.

      if u want u can contact me through e mail and hopefully we can talk and answer ur questions if i have them,otherwise i will ask some scholars,

      U can reply back on this message about ur decision,I am just toooo far away to help any reverts practically,i wish,one day,i do that

  5. ayesha says:

    Aslam Alaikum

    I liked the suggestions revert brother has given. We have to look at the picture as a whole.The true beauty of Islam lies in the brotherhood and sisterhood.Myself I was and still involved in helping Revert sisters in possible wayI could Alhamdulillah, I must admit I had to be very patient and forgiving to the sisters with the Grace of Allah swt. I could see they would take help from other sisters but only invite or be generous with the sisters from their own community which is Eastern Euorpean , that is truly sad .That kind of selfish behaviour only repel people,revert brothers and sisters should learn muamlat as they learn Ibadah .Islam ask as to cover all departments of human life.

  6. Amenda Fatima says:

    JazakAllah Khair

  7. Ishaq says:

    To new Muslims I first say welcome to the way! I then say beware false prophets who offer insults camouflaged as advice. I’ve been physically interrupted in masjid mid-salat for being a degree off from facing Mecca. American converts are vulnerable to ‘know it all’ Muslims. Listen patiently, smile broadly, say thank you, forgive them, and get away. You must teach yourself and find how Islam can work for you. And may I say to my immigrant brothers, unless we ask, don’t offer. Please.

  8. Adesh Kosi Bukura says:

    ma sha’Allah, thats beautiful,
    Asalamu Aleikum, and welcome to Islam, and to be part of Loving muslim comunity/family, I Love you all coz of Allah,

  9. Abdullah says:

    I have Been 8 years a Muslim, I’m from Colombia, I live and study in Egypt for three years now Alhamdu lillahi Rabb Al alameen.

    To All converts: study deeply Surah al Ankabut… Best Advice I can think of… Love you all… See you in Jannah In sha’ al Rahman…

  10. laura says:

    Salaam alikum brothers and sisters. I am a 27 year old woman living in london and am interested in learning more about islam and how i can accept it. I have already begun offering praise to Allah and accept allah as the 1 true creator. I am also considering dressing more tastefully and covering my head in public so i guess that is a start but would like some more advice. Any would be appreciated. Grace and peace be with you alll.

    • yusuf says:

      wa alaikumu as-salaam sister laura,

      i am from maldives and therefore there is limited help i can offer you from here. acceptance of islam begins with the delcaration (Shahada) that ‘there is no god but GOD (Allah) and Muhammad (PBUH) is his slave and messenger.’ and then you bear witness to this declaration in Arabic. in order for you to do this you will need to find a mosque in your locale. from there i believe all you have to do is make one inquiry and you will be guided to an imam or head of the mosque who will help you take the Shahada.

      fortunately in this day and age finding a mosque is so very easy when all you need to do is an internet search.

      Once you have taken the Shahada i believe that the imam at the mosque will guide you and place you in the capable hands of sisters and brothers who will help you with the rest of whatever it is you will need to do.

      Even if you aren’t quite ready to take the Shahada immediately, the brothers and sisters will be most welcoming of your questions.

      Of course i cant stop here. This is something new reverts and those who are considering converting should be made aware of. Allah SWT tells us in the Quran: “Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: “We believe,” and will not be tested. And We indeed tested those who were before them. And ALLAH will certainly make known those who are true, and will certainly make known those who are liars. [Al-Ankaboot: 2-3]

      So, once reverted hardships and turbulence are very likely to come your way (check out the life of dr. lawrence brown and the suffering he went through once he embraced islam and how he triumphed over everything and his position today). as long as you remind yourself and believe that these are merely tests of faith you will be heading in the right direction in sha Allah.

      I hope this was helpful. To say the least i am so excited that a new sister is considering embracing Islam of her own free will. :) May Allah bless you in heaps now and in the hereafter.

    • Maryam says:

      Laura I’m a convert or revert have been for 9 -10 years I hope I can help if you need to ask anything I’m also in the uk so if you can email me that will be great .

      Great article how is your advice hurting any one ?
      It’s hard to start with all the new things I never heard of any one being offended by calling a food spicy that’s a bit over sensitive and to be honest it is ignorant to the the whole point of your article the point is that our broth is trying to make is to give a better understanding and to advice new Muslims it is a time of great change from shedding clothing especially for us women we have to dress differently and there are many cultural differences in islamic dress hijab s ect then there’s different cultures to confuse us even more .
      So long as we stick to pure Islam the holy Quran and the Sunna we will all be on the right path anger at new Muslims for trying to find there way is something we really do not need .help and love and kindness on the other hand is more than welcome

      Alhumdulillah we are very
      Lucky to be Muslim
      Allah hafiz brothers and sisters

      • DANA says:

        I want to convert to be a muslim .I live in a small college town in utah ,i am not morman,I have no one to talk to or to seek advice there was a mosque here but closed and i want information and guidence the nearest mosque is 200 miles away.i have tried to look on internet this is the first thing i have come across that has not condemmed the religion .My boyfriend lives in pakistian and is coming here to live he is open minded about life and his religion.i need help please if you could direct me in where to go to find help with what i need …this is my choice he has not pressured me he has said if you do fine if you dont fine ,the choice is yours always…if you wouldn’t mind some advice .Thank You have a wonderful day……

        • Paul Bartlett says:

          I am not the best person to give advice, so I will refrain. However, although it is true that there are many sites on the internet that are hostile to Islam, there are also many which provide sound, reliable information and, often, free literature (sometimes even free CDs and DVDs). I won’t try to list a lot of them, but here are two which provide information specifically for sincere inquirers. Please note that I have no relationship of any kind with either of these sites and cannot vouch for their accuracy (although I have had contact with them), but the packet I received from one of them seemed to be full of sound material.

          http://www.newmuslimcare.com
          http://www.gainpeace.com

        • AllahIsMyLight says:

          Salaam Dana

          Well since you have internet. Would suggest trying Paltalk. Google it. Its basically a messenger chatroom & has a few muslim chatrooms there so it might be good for you to be able to actually speak with people.
          It helped me as I was starting to feel very isolated & alone.
          Will add a word of caution to you. There are going to be people you don’t care for how they present themselves or what they have to say
          Muslim & non-muslims.
          Yes Muslims are people & some of us who identify as being Muslim don’t allways behave as we should.
          I say this not to push you away. Just so you don’t become too offended & direct is towards all of us…Inshallah!

  11. didi says:

    Subhanallah!! Im soo happy to see all of u here.. just need a quick advice.. what can I do to convince my boy friend (non-muslim) to see the light of islam? Pls advise n share your experience.. shukran

    • zainab says:

      well you can start off by teaching him some rules of islam , what you can do and what you cant and secondly if you’re trying to convert him into a muslim then you can take him to the masjid and show him what a wonderful religion islam is

  12. soulayman says:

    jazak’Allah khair my brother this article help me alot.. I love being a new shahada

  13. umm balqis says:

    Salam aleikum wrwb dear brothers and sisters

    Masha Allah very good advice for the new brothers and sisters in islam,i didn t find it racist,but realistic,i m not a revert but i understand the points about the food or style when it comes to reverts sometime they get confused,islam is about Qoran and sunnah.and not about cultures,so not to confuse that.A lot of muslims from muslims background confuse their culture with islam so the advice here is simple.follow the sunnah of rassullah sallallahuu aleihi wa salam like eating with ur hands etc,but not follow something that has nothing to do with islam.

  14. umm balqis says:

    Salam aleikum wrwb sister laura

    welcome dear sister masha Allah i m.from london too masha Allah, there is a big community in london masha Allah, check.out on facebook.solace for.revert sisters in.diffiiulty and masjid al tawhid are specialised in helping revert masha Allah or east london mosque,there are so many places masha Allah in london contact me i ll bore than happy to help you get in.touch insha Allah.it depends.what part of lomdon u r from then i ll indicate u insha Allah.may Allah make it easy to understand the deen.ameen

  15. umm balqis says:

    Make it easy for you.ameen

  16. Br Sharik says:

    Salaams

    I have been blessed like other Muslims to be born in a family who is Muslim. There was a turning point in my life where I voluntarily searched for the truth rather than just blindly following what ever my parents have done. Culture is a beautiful aspect in our lives, it gives color and diversity – but only healthy when not confused with the pure teachings of Islam.

    It was hard trying to be consistent prior to my realization. Parents would say do this, this and this and this amount of raka’at, that yearn to understand was being starved. But when I sought for more info and knowledge over the past year I just started to with praying my Fardh and keep up with them. Slowly my emaan and belief was invested and grew relative to my actions and intentions. Today, I am that same person but with added ‘spice’ of Islamic understanding in my life. There are times where I will be lazy and sluggish for salah and there are times where I would feel rush of emaan, a direct dose of it strait the the Qalb. Giving saleem, knowing that my heart is sound when I am consistent with the small things of worship and action pertaining to Islam. Our journey is different with many routes but the Goal which Islam gifts is a unified concept.

    PS: Recommending is 100 Dhikrs and 100 Salutations to a new muslim or Muslim converting to ‘enhanced submitted muslim’ is dangerous and can lead to overwhelming and burdening oneself with our simple way of life. Islam. I make Dua (I haven’t read all the reply, posts and comment) to all you Brothers and Sisters, and Imamm webb to have consistency in our worship through many means in our life.

    Guys, smile. It’s Sunnah

  17. Sarfaraz Abbasi says:

    I disagree with you on Debate and discussion session. We have to defend Islam and engage in debate. You shouldn’t have brought it up here, remove it, it bears no logic. It matters to those who are vulnerable to stress, with less knowledge about Islam, but those new convert brave and strong they may defend Islam through peaceful words.

  18. Mona.W says:

    i cannot thank Allah enough for being born as a muslim although i envy people who found Allah and converted.. Elhamdullah :)

  19. Yahya S says:

    Salamu alaykum to all my fellow brothers and sisters in Islam. Recent revert myself about at the six month mark since taking shahada. Great article, definately there is a lot of wisdom in the points raised. I myself was an idealist that expected all muslims to be perfect, but the reality started to kick in. It’s a beautiful learning experience though, we meet people in all levels of practice, lifestyle, and mannerisms. We all have baggage that needs to be shed. We all have something to learn from others. And we all have something to contribute. What makes this lifestyle so beautiful is that we are constantly learning beneficial knowledge that we can actually practice to better not only our lives here in this dunya, but to prepare us for the hereafter. One of the tips that I really support, all of them are good, is that of finding a teacher. Nothing wrong with taking advice from here and there, but for solid learning, we need to build relationships with the people of knowledge. This is great advice. So many times I asked a question to get an unsatisfying answer, due to not understanding what is really be asked, or how to properly ask what it is I need an answer to. Building a relationship with a teacher will help to fill in those gaps and understand each other better, as well as provide an environment of comfort which is needed to learn. Also, not taking part in the debates I feel is a good one. At first I felt really defensive with a need to defend Islam, as if because of what someone said or thought would actually diminish Islam. All that would really happen is that I would get frustrated and worked up, and probably due more to lead the person away from Islam rather than improving his opinion about it. I just feel that the debates have their place, and those taking part need to have wisdom, respect, and character otherwise shaytan will get the best of them and they will end up arguing and fighting. Arguing with fools is a waste of time, and we will never convert a single soul. Allah is the one who guides, we should reform our own hearts as that will have a greater impact on others than the ego battles called debates lol. That being said there’s plenty of people doing that, as a revert we should focus more on ourself and not losing eman. We must do everything to hold on to this precious deen as shaytan will do anything to try to get us to recant. Me personally I was always very interested in other cultures so that aspect was easier for me, but I understand why for others it can be apprehending. That being said we should keep an open mind as there are many ways to do some things, and this is a mercy from Allah. Deen is over culture though of course and we should always strive to have more Islam in our identity than whatever culture or ethnicity. We’re all from Adam, and we’re all one big family of believers that want to be together in Jannah in sha Allah. The last thing I want to share is kind of a parable I guess. I’m no chemist ace but I think most of us have either taken chemistry or have a somewhat basic understanding about how atoms and molecules are structured. As muslims in society we live our lives different than the non-believers, nothing wrong with that. People are always more concerned about fitting in. We should really be concerned about fitting in with the Ummah of Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa salam. Growing up in the United States, this society revolves around work, school, and entertainment. People base their private lives around their work life and are stuck in a consuming depressing cycle. We as muslims bring change to this dead end way of life. As muslims the masjids should be the nucleus of our lives. Everything we do should revolve around the masjid. The masjid brings us together to worship, learn, eat, socialize, and worship some more. When muslims lives start revolving around the masjids and not work or whatever other dunya pursuits that might take our time, our society will have a different spin and we will begin to see the barakah of Allah in our communities. The masjids are the centers of our communities and we need to fill them! So many empty buildings just waiting to be converted to masjids/masalas with muslims filling them up.

  20. Lawrence cm says:

    Salamu alaykum to all my muslim brothers and sisters i just reverted and i know i will never regreat making this step in my life i hope to start taking guidance on the quran and how to be a good muslim

    • Gibran says:

      Wa alaykumusalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

      Why don’t you start with the first surah you are supposed the learn? A surah is a part of the Quran. Al-Fatiha is the first surah in the book and the first one you need to know. It is also the greatest surah.

  21. Amenda Fatima says:

    Asalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatu, thank you for these suggestions. I am a recent revert, I prefer to use revert as I feel we go back to the original roots from the womb not converted them. Suban’Allah after a year of soul searching in Islam throughout 2011 and half of 2012 I took Shahada on 2 Ramadan 1433 H. It is has been a rollercoaster. I started out strong and zealous by fasting the month of Ramadan, learning all Sunnah prayers, night prayer, learning Arabic, trying to learn all schools of thought, monthly fasting, cut out all old habits, etc and now I find I’m loosing steam, I’m also very alone and live alone after recently two yaers ago separated from my then husband of 20 years and my children live with him. I have no Muslim husband, no Muslim family and no Muslim friends. I do go to Masjid on Fridays and do have Qur’an study on Sunday’s with Muslim Sisters but they are all busy with their families or jobs. I also do not drive a car and transportation to get anywhere is difficult. I struggle with Bipolar for 35 years and now I felt a sudden drop in energy and hit depression. This is normal in Bipolar with a life changing event especially if it’s a positive change, take off like a fighter jet breaking the sound barrier only to find out we burned the fuel to fast and didn’t pack any reserve. If only I had this advice about taking slow I may not have become so overwhelmed. Allah Subana Wa Ta’ala I know is so merciful and I feel the mercy and relief come to me unlike any other time in my life before Islam and now I am finding balance as I slow down a bit and take some breaths. I also struggled with finding culture as a reverted Canadian Muslim I have been looking for a culture to fit into since really I cannot seem to find a Canadian Muslim culture as I was more used to the Canadian Christian culture. Your posting helped me realize I’m not alone as a revert in trying to find balance especially with the hadith

    “Those who make things hard for themselves will be destroyed. (He said it three times.)”-The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Muslim).

    I recently read one forum and a Muslim brother giving advice to reverts telling them we are to take it easy, we’re not supposed to drive a Monster truck over the bridge to Paradise. JazakAllah Khairan

    • mark says:

      why did you take an Arabic name? that is a not a requirement of Islam. You don’t have to take Arab culture. Arabs need to respect other cultures just as we need to respect other cultures. but, you don’t have to take their culture to be Muslim. Keep you name, your identity and your culture. Faith in God transcends culture. Anyone who tells you different is selling you something

      • GregAbdul says:

        it is up to the convert whether or not to change our names. some of you born Muslims act like you are ashamed of being named Muhammad or Abdul. Mark, if you like Mark, that’s your right to name yourself and it is our right to change our name just like it’s your right. Neither choice is wrong.

        • Paul Bartlett says:

          Salaam. You are completely correct that it is entirely up to the individual as to whether to change his/her name. (For instance, I myself deliberately chose not to.) However, at the risk of sounding controversial (I am not trying to be, and Allah swt knows best), I will offer that Islam in North America has an image among many non-Muslims of being “foreign,” “alien,” “strange,” “funny,” and one aspect of that image is that many Muslims have “funny” names.

          Unquestionably, this perception among many is false and unfair, but I submit that it is there. I fully understand why some new Muslims may choose to take a new name as a matter of piety, and again, that is their free choice and right, but doing so continues to contribute to the seeming “foreignness” of Islam in the west.

          Whether we like it or not, perception is important, and if Muslims continue to come across as “not like us” when that is not mandatory (I am not saying that there are no differences from western ideas at all), then, in my opinion (again, Allah swt knows best), the progress of the message of Islam is impeded.

        • GregAbdul says:

          as salaam alaikum Paul,
          May Allah reward you for you great manners. We all have to walk a line. We have to blend in enough to not be outcast, but on the other hand, most of America does not know about Islam even though there are more than six million of us in the US. I know for a fact, some of us are so busy blending in that we make Islam invisible for those who spend time around us. Islam is not really about us constantly preaching to every single person every single minute, but there are Muslim behaviors. We call them Sunnah. We are supposed to stand out as Muslims and be identified as Muslims and be witnesses for Allah and His messenger. Changing names is one of those ways. As you see, my name is a sort of combination/African American. We know the rules on name change, so what you are I are discussing is standing out versus blending in as Muslims in the West. It’s depends on your situation as to how wise we are at practicing the Sunnah. Allah knows best. But I say, you can’t have a civil rights movement and an expansion of Muslim rights if we all say our names our Smith and we never pray anywhere but at home and at the masjid. I don’t wear thobes very much anymore because I get sick at seeing brothers rip them off in the masjid parking lot. This is America. You have gays coming out, taking the heat and fighting for what they believe. We say we love Allah and His messenger (I am trying to be calm). Allah is my only hope that I am not dragged into Western despair. We hide and Bin Laden shouts his Islam from the rooftops and we wonder why non-Muslims are confused about Islam. I am not asking anyone to walk in front of bullets because I am shooting off my not-knowing mouth. Like an Imam I know says: “I’m just sayin’”

        • Paul Bartlett says:

          Salaam. Thank your for your kind words, In many ways we are in agreement. True, there are ways in which Islamic principles differ from some of the principles and practices common in the western countries. That is so (and Allah swt knows best).

          Still, it may be that there are cultural practices which are not intrinsic to Islamic itself but which some “ethnic” (no offense intended) Muslims confuse with Islam itself. In their lack of knowledge and experience, they may not realize how their assertions of cultural practices are not in and of themselves Islamic and thus inadvertently alienate new Muslims.

          Yes, there may be some incompatibilities between true Islam and aspects of western culture, but real discernment is needed. (And Allah swt knows best, and may He guide us.)

    • Paul Bartlett says:

      (I have been away from the website for a time and am “catching up.”)

      Salaam alaikum, Sister. Please be aware that you are not alone. Sometimes just knowing that can be a help and comfort. You are not alone in having come to Islam in more mature years (so many converts are just young adults), in being all alone (my social life is my temperamental pet cat), and in dealing with mental health issues (as I have also for many years). You are fortunate in having a Qur’an study group to attend. That may be very useful. Keep it up. Some people do not even have that much.

      A couple of evenings ago I went to a small “Islamic center” (nothing more than a couple of rented rooms) for the first time in a long, long while. Because of health issues (physical as well) I had to leave early, but one man whom I had met once before helped me up and murmured that Islam is a deen of ease (something like that, I think he said). At times, having had rules dumped all over me at the beginning, it does not seem so, and sometimes I wonder why I even pay any attention at all, but I occasionally come back.

      You are not alone.

  22. Talut says:

    happy to hear about your sacrifices and ur firmness during struggles with which you went through after reversion and ur strong commitment and study in deen.

    Reverts muslims for me are the “Ideals and role modles” i adore them,no matter wat race,color,age….still unlucky to meet one though, all wat i have known about them is by you tube and these blogs. I dont understand why muslims do not valur them very much,it is very sad & tear jerking.

    Any how,all reverts and you too are in my prayers,best wishes of both worlds .I am not married but i can feel ur heart after seeing ur kids get away from you,Inshallah ur reward will be unfathomable,Inshallah and msot of the companions of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh} were reverts,so u guys have so much to be thankful and proud of and nothing to loose

    and u are right, dont do excess.Excess in anything is bad.I have a new addition to this old quote “slow and steady wins the race,fast and furious looses the race”

    Jazak Allah Firdous for this Eman Elating Story

  23. janice says:

    Salaam alaykum. I am an American revert and I thank you for writing this article. I can relate to absolutely everything in the article. Jazaak Allah khayair.

  24. Lana says:

    Asalam Aleykum,

    This is a lovely article, SubhanAllah.

    Although I have been a believer for quite some time I actually took Shahadah 4 months ago and started to wear hijab straight away. I received mixed responses from family and friends. My close friends were already aware of my beliefs and supported me. One of my friends actually walked into college with me the first day I wore the hijab, for support! My close family are not so sure but InshAllah they will in time see the beauty and peace in Islam.

    Personally I have not found accepting Islam difficult although I can see how some people could become isolated. Knowing who to socialise with can be a bit confusing, especially when most of your friends are non-muslim. Trying to find a balance is the best way, find new halal past times and include your friends in that.

    JazakAllah Khair for this lovely article.

  25. khaled says:

    BY THE NAME OF ALLAH MERCIFUL AND COMPASSIONATE ,
    DEAR READERS ,
    I AM A MUSLIM LIVING IN THE MIDDLE EAST SINCE I WAS BORN . I AM SURE 100% THAT OUR RELIGION IS THE GREATEST ONE SINCE ALL PEOPLE ARE ALIKE AND EQUAL , BUT THE MOST DANGEROUS AND SERIOUS PROBLEM ONE CAN THINK OF IS THAT WE DON’T APPRECIATE RELIGION AS WE SHOULD BE .

  26. Dini Mariska says:

    Assalamu alaikum, brother Alex.

    Thank you very much for this wonderful article. Masha Allah, your article is a great reminder for all of us. As a born muslimah, I found that every muslims have to do those 12 things as well to keep and maintain our iman (faith). May Allah SWT keeps you istiqamah, aameen yaa Rabb. Wassalamu alaikum and great salam from Indonesia :)

  27. sahul hameed says:

    The stories of converts or reverts always inspires and humbles us. May God always be with you.

  28. Paul Bartlett says:

    And let us hope, if Allah (swt) wills, that the stories of converts/reverts will inspire lifelong Muslims to reach out to them. In the article, point 10 is “Avoid loneliness,” but in so many places, converts are effectively ignored, even when they themselves remain present for a while, so eventually they become discouraged in their involuntary isolation and and fall away. Go to a mosque day after day after day, as I did, and never hear your language spoken around you, never be greeted, never be offered salaams, just stand there as if you do not exist. Point 12, “Do not despair,” is easy to say, but when you are alone, effectively invisible in the midst of a crowd, rather shy, and with weak, shaky faith to begin with, eventually you may say, “What’s the use? These other people over there, following this other religion, at least are warm, friendly, and welcoming and make me feel wanted, which these Muslims are not and do not.” (I speak from personal experience.)

  29. Tanya says:

    Asalaam-u-Alaikum,
    I was just searching for being lonely as a Muslim and I found this in my search. After reading all the posts, I feel better, Alhamdolillah! I am grateful to be a Muslim.

  30. Jennifer says:

    Thank you so much. I just started my journey with Islam. Coming from a Catholic family originally, it has been very hard to adjust with the people and everyday things around me. I’ve come to realize that I can’t take everything on at once and that its alright to take things slowly. This website further encourages me in knowing that what I am feeling – I am not alone in this.

  31. Layla says:

    This article has helped so much. As a 17 year old trying to revert, it is refreshing to know that other people are having the same difficulties. I am also coming from a strong Catholic family so this is going to be quite a journey; I am ready to begin it. I am slowly but surely reverting insha’Allah. Thank you for this advice and may Allah swt. reward you. Alhamdulillah!

  32. quran learning online says:

    Then out spake two of those who feared (their Lord, men) unto whom Allah had been gracious: Enter in upon them by the gate, for if ye enter by it, lo! ye will be victorious. So put your trust (in Allah) if ye are indeed believers.(5 Surat-ul-Maeeda . Aayat23)

  33. want to revert says:

    I want to revert to Islam. I live in Paris but I am an American. I speak French and Arabic, so this is not a problem, but the problem is that I don’t know what to do when I walk into the mosque. Who do I ask to speak with, or what do I do? I am just somewhat nervous to go into the Mosque and say “I want to revert to Islam, what do I do?” Any suggestions?

    • GregAbdul says:

      All praise is due to God. I pray that someone has gotten to you already and told you more than I can. You have to be a little brave. Believe, me, we are drooling and panting waiting on you to visit us. You are evidence of the power of God Almighty and we love seeing His work. In the above article, the writer says that a basic element of being a new Muslim is you need to make regular trips to the mosque. you can find the mosque nearest to you using the internet. Here in the US, we use Islamicfinder.org. That may not work in Paris, but I am sure there is an Islamic search engine that will direct you to the nearest mosque. We love you madly already. Some of us will be better at showing it than others, but I know, I get chills when I stand next to my brothers in prayer. We are eager to see you and the best and safest place for you to begin is your nearest mosque.

      • GregAbdul says:

        Maybe I didn’t even answer with my long reply. The short answer is: go to the mosque and let them teach you. Most mosques have their own little things that only the regulars know. I now attend a mosque composed of two building, so you have to get the flow to know which one is being used at any particular time of the day. The only way you will know how to navigate your local mosque is to spend time there. This is true for all Muslims. Just wait till you have to deal with Ramadan Muslims….

  34. GregAbdul says:

    as salaam alaikum,

    I have been Muslim since December 1997, all praise to Allah. I am amazed that some of my issues when I converted have still not sorted themselves out yet. It is what Allah has given me and I do not complain. I am glad that we are starting to pay attention to converts. It was crazy when I converted. I had good teachers though, and that was a huge blessing. The Imam who gave me Shahada, the one thing he told me was, to break family ties meant I was not following Islam. At the time, I was not speaking to my older brother. Our relationship is complicated and painful, but I always remember that Imam’s advice and it has given me far more positive than negative. I commented elsewhere here about born Muslims telling you not to change your name. I found that so insulting. I get to choose unless my name is haram. If I want a better name, that’s Sunnah, not culture. The main thing I want to add is we converts have to learn to be ambassadors to those in the culture we came from (not debaters). My teachers know Islam better than I do, but for me, maybe I am deluded, Allah knows, but I feel like I understand my culture better than those who are not from my culture and that gives me an advantage in explaining Islam. And finally, we must all learn as Muslims to be more open and to come out of our Muslim closets. We keep our Islam low and we get more money as a result, but then we end up letting every kook in the world define Islam for us also. We who are ordinary Muslims have to stand up and take a little heat, because Allah says we will be tested just as those before us were tested.

  35. Z says:

    Reading this article a fourth time but this time being at a point of facing the hardest test of my whole life so far, the words are assuring, it gives me a certain peace knowing that Allah chose me to purify me and bring me closer to Him and insha Allah I hope I will learn the right things and stay on the right course through these tests. Its been just a few months I converted and the satisfaction of knowing that this tough time and tests were promised by Allah to show us our own selves clearly and our strengthen our imaan is a blessing. Alhamdulilah this article set my thinking straight at a time I had been facing my toughest test so far. May Allah guide us all. Ameen :-)

  36. james says:

    Thank you, Brother Alex. Yours may be some of the best advice I’ve read, since becoming Muslim. Finding Muslim friends, being hopeful and not discouraged, you really understand. It’s good to read your calm, encouraging words. Alhamdulillah.

    • Paul Bartlett says:

      Hold in there, insha’Allah. To be honest, things can be tough in some of the western countries for new Muslims. This is a very sad fact, perhaps if Allah (swt) will forgive my saying so, but often new Muslims are not accepted and embraced as they should be. It can be a tough time, as I know from personal experience. (Sadly, I myself have almost fallen away.) Don’t give up.

      • Sa'id James says:

        Most things are difficult before they are easy. Not the least of which, embracing a new life. Knowing the truth and loving knowing the truth, I keep my eyes on the prize. Thank you. Allahu akbar

  37. Kareemah says:

    Great article Alex. ALHUMDULILLAH. I agree with everything except Arabic letters can be learned in a day. You are a language live though. I cant helo but wonder if you are Alex from MSA at UNT.

  38. Danah says:

    Thank you so much for this post. It lifted my spirits!

  39. Noah says:

    Now I am ready to do my breakfast, afterward having my breakfast coming yet again to read
    additional news.

  40. Jeanette says:

    I would like to know where I can find the quote from Muhammed (pbuh) in #6. Please show me, thank you.

    Those who make things hard for themselves will be destroyed. (He said it three times.)”
    -The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Muslim)

  41. James says:

    This is the first Christmas since taking my shahadah. I am proud to be Muslim, alhamdulillah, and I am grateful to Allah (swt) for bringing me to Islam. Still, as much as I try to leave the old behind and embrace my new life and responsibilities, there are inevitable times cultures collide and coalesce. Insha Allah, I’ll continue to have Christian friends who respect my heart and my choice.

  42. JUNE O says:

    I AM A BORN MUSLIMAHFROM S.E.ASIA.JUZ READ THIS WEBSITE TODAY. I HAVE NOTICED A RAPID INCREASE IN THE NUMBER OF REVERTS FROM NON-MUSLIM COUNTRIES ESP EUROPE, AMERICA AND OTHER PARTS OF THE WORLD. TO THIS I HAVE UNDERSTOOD WELL NOW WHEN ALLAH SAID THAT HE IS THE BEST PROTECTOR OF ALL PROTECTORS, BOTH FOR THE DEEN (ISLAM) AND FOR MUSLIMS. SO WHAT EVER OUR SITUATIONS ARE NOW, NO MATTER HOW HARD LIFE SEEMS TO BE, I DON’T WORRY ANYMORE…COZ HIS PROMISES ARE HAPPENING!!NO MATTER HOW HARD ‘THEY’ TRY TO SUPPRESS ISLAM, THE MORE IT IS LOVED, AS HE IS THE BEST OF ALL PLANNERS….JAZZA KHAIR

    • Paul Bartlett says:

      Dear Sister June. (In my country, “June” is a female name, so if you are male, please accept my apology.) Salaam alaikum.

      Please understand that the situation of many converts to Islam in western countries is very, very different from the situation of “born” Muslims in countries in which many or most of the people around you are Muslim. In your country, perhaps, being Muslim is natural and normal. For those of us in western countries, being Muslim is literally unnatural and abnormal. We are a tiny minority, often regarded with suspicion and distrust. Those few Muslims who are here in our countries tend to be for the most part foreigners, who often regard Islam as something of their cultural identity, so that those of us who are of western heritage are often excluded and left to ourselves. Not all of us are strong. May Allah (swt) forgive us, but some of us are weak, and we receive no help from the Muslim ummah. So some of us, in our weakness, being all alone, fall away.

      And Allah (swt) knows best. I do not.

  43. James says:

    Thank you, Brother Paul. I would be a gift to talk directly with you. Or Brother Alex. Others. Your encouragement, messages to “keep the faith” and stay the course have been important to me, as I live in a small, remote, conservative place. I don’t know another Muslim. Only last Friday, three months after taking my shahada, I drove many miles to attend my first Jum’ah at a masjid. I was given a warm welcome, and the experience was thrilling, as it was calmly reassuring. Alhamdulillah. Among my brothers and sisters, I am confident in who I am and to all that Allah (swt) has led me. But outside of community, there’s an ambivalence about letting others know. Admittedly sometimes, I’m convinced I need a Muslim name, a Muslim identity, yet I realize I could be even more isolated. Insha’Allah, I’ll grow stronger. In the meantime, i am grateful to know you and other brothers and sisters who I come to meet this way. Thank you. Asalaam.

    • Paul Bartlett says:

      Dear Br. James,

      Salaam alaikum. Because of the threading on the website, I am not quite certain just which item you are responding to, so please forgive me if I am in error.

      Your experience so far has been a pleasant one, and for that alhamdulillah. Sadly, many of us have not had happy experiences, so I do not in any way want to discourage you.

      You remarked, “Admittedly sometimes, I’m convinced I need a Muslim name, a Muslim identity, yet I realize I could be even more isolated.” Now, I am not a scholar, and I could be mistaken, but to the best of my understanding, in most instances it is not necessary for a new Muslim to take a new name and identity. Some may choose to do so, that is their business, and I will not gainsay them. My personal name is not in any Islamic way offensive, so it was my personal, deliberate choice not to use a new “Muslim” name, even though there are some Muslims from “traditional” countries who seem to be baffled as to how old European names could truly appropriately be “Islamic” (I speak from personal experience).

      “I will pray for you. What is your name?” “Paul.” “Yes, but what is your Muslim name?” “Paul.” This sincere man could not seem to grasp the issue.

      Let us be frank. Rightly or wrongly, appropriately or inappropriately, in many western countries, Islam and Muslims still have a reputation of being “foreign,” “strange,” alien,” “they are not like us,” “they are funny people who have funny names and wear funny clothes and have funny customs.” Obviously this is not right, but sadly it is the reality.

      If, God willing, Islam is to make real progress in the west, Muslims must come across as good, moral, God-fearing people who have something genuine and valuable to offer beyond the illnesses of society (and I speak as a native westerner) but do not come across as so alien.

      Allah (swt) knows best. I do not.

  44. umalkheir says:

    assalam aleikum my dear brothers and sisters in islam

    I would like to share some tips with newly reverts in sha ALLAH ,I have many of my close sisters reverts to wich I always precise to stop calling themselves reverts as it s been long time agoooooo and they certainly not anymore,some of them teachers and do a lot of dawah (calling to islam ) ma sha ALLAH,I THINK WHAT PEOPLE NEED TO UNDERSTAND and I mnot an expert only ALLAH knows best that deen islam is about our personal coonextion with ALLAH and following the sunnah of the prophet sallallahu aleihi waa salam,it s not about food,people or whatever,if someone from western countries doesn t like a type of food etc so whattttt, I personnaly hate cheese yeah I don t like cheese ,French won t be happy hearing about this as I grew up there but from east Africa origin,weneed to understand and respect people choices of whatever they want as long as they follow what is required by the deen and the sunnah of prophet sallallahu aleihi waa salam,and I agree when brothers or sisters advice and help those who are knew to islam to understand and help them finding their identity wit their new faith and help them incorporate into their daily life so plzz stop your ridiculous comment and yeah I congratulate for the brother who had the brilliant idea to help newly revert as to how to find and understand the real value of islam may ALLAH make it easy for you and may ALLAH make it easy to all new muslims those a re great advice

    pss I grew up with spicy food and I love itttttt but it s nothing to do with my deen but mostly my country so I say this follow the deen eat halal live halal keep it halal but stay with ur identity and who u r that s what is important and ALLAH KNOWS BEST

  45. JUNE O says:

    Dear Paul and all new brothers and sisters,
    For this new year 2014 may I start it by saying forgive me for being insensitive in saying “I don’t worry anymore” which really meant a reference to Islam being “known” though may not be well understood and accepted, such as in the west. Despite my statement I have a total agreement on how hard your life can be over there being alienated and helpless, even by other muslims in the minority. I can see that very well indeed. But at the same time I also referred to my strong belief, that despite all that hardship, how lucky you all are for being “loved from distance by Allah” due to your honest, pure intention to love Allah and Islam by going through that hardship, in comparison to our “taking Allah and Islam for granted” because we are born muslims amidst cultures that may not be Islamic at all!. So again, once please treat your “bad situations” as a blessing as it is pure and not contaminated Islamic way of life. Remember a hadith that approximately says (please correct me if I am wrong) “A knowledgeable person is better than an ignorant”. After all Allah looks at intentions “niyat”. So once again, please do feel luckier!!.Take care always, my pure prayer for you all over there is for Allah to speed your rewards and strengthen your iman, no matter how “suck” your life might be.

  46. chris says:

    Thank you very much suhaibwebb.com and Brother Alex for these beautiful tips/reminders.

  47. halima says:

    alhamdulillah i found what i was looking for.i am a born muslim for 36 years and am proud of my religion.welcome to the religion of peace

  48. ras says:

    Good Day. I want to convert to Islam. and i ve been thinking about this for 2 years now..Any sisters here please help me.please let me know your email address.

  49. zabor ilenta says:

    Some genuinely nice stuff on this website , I love it.

  50. Mohammad Ayub Khan says:

    nice stuff i like and inshallah follow this thread

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