Seeing the World in a Different Way (Part I)


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There are some people who are always able to see the positives in a situation.  Even when they get knocked down, they manage to get right back up again. They are able to do things with a wonderful spirit. The American inventor, Thomas Edison, once said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

What makes some people more able to be positive, determined, and in a general state of contentment and happiness than others? There are, of course, many reasons. One major reason is often the way we view the world. According to Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage and Before Happiness, this perception of reality is the precursor to happiness (or lack thereof).

Successful, happy people are able to view a reality in which happiness is possible—a positive reality. It is not because they are delusional optimists, rather, they see the whole picture, with multiple paths and options, and they choose the path that is most positive but is also true.

This immediately made me think of two things: firstly, that Allah, subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He), tells us we are what we think of Him. This is a really revolutionary way of thinking about the world. You make it good or bad. You choose to see the endless clouds or the silver lining(s). You choose to see Allah (swt) as an angry god waiting to punish His servants, or a merciful and just God, guiding His servants to be righteous custodians of this earth. And then you live in accordance with that view.

So if your view is that Allah (swt) wants good for you, and He helps those who want to do good, you will always find ways to live and be better. Something does not work out? No problem. What can you learn? Is there another way to the same goal? Have the variables changed that your goal should change too?

This is why the Prophet ﷺ teaches us that if someone possesses these two characteristics, there is nothing higher than them:

  1. Thinking well of Allah (swt)
  2. Thinking well of the servants of Allah (swt)

And then there are the two worst characteristics:

  1. Thinking negatively of Allah (swt)
  2. Thinking negatively of the servants of Allah (swt)

The second related point is the life of the Prophet ﷺ. How many times was he knocked down? And how many times did he get back up, his faith in God not shaken? His life really exemplifies what Achor talks about in his book, Before Happiness. In order to perceive happiness, you need to see the bigger picture. You need to have meaning. You use meaning as markers in your life, and that enables you to turn situations that could be boring or bad into things that are meaningful. Moreover, you are not rigid and stuck in one perspective. You are able to see things and are also open to being shown things from different angles, and thus you have a wider set of options to choose from.

The Prophet ﷺ started off in Makkah, with the protection of his uncle Abu Talib. When his uncle passed away, he lost that protection. For someone else, this could have been the end. But the Prophet ﷺ decided to seek protection at Ta’if. Over there, he was humiliated and rejected. But see how he is a person who sees the whole picture, and does not simply focus on the negative situation of the present: Ta’if didn’t work out, but there were scores of other tribes in the Arabian Peninsula. More powerful tribes were preferable, but any decent tribe that was willing to protect them would be good— because the aim at that point was leaving Makkah with the protection of a tribe. Although he was surely affected by what happened, he made a heartfelt supplication to God: “As long as You are not angry with me, then I do not care, except that Your favor is a more expansive relief for me.” He did not stop.

The Prophet ﷺ focused on all his options. He was not irrationally optimistic, which would be wishing that something would come out of thin air and maybe even acting recklessly. Rather, he looked at his options and picked the ones that were positive and true/possible. He exercised patience while having complete trust in Allah (swt).

The Prophet ﷺ first spoke to the tribe of Bani Shayban, during the Hajj (pilgrimage) season when all the Arab tribes would visit the Ka’ba. They were a powerful tribe, from an area that bordered modern day Iraq and Iran. They had treaties with the Persians to protect their borders, and for that they were given special privileges. While the tribe leaders liked what the Prophet ﷺ had to say, they said that they would not protect them from the Persians if it came down to that. They could only protect them from the Arabs.

Now if you were in this position, what would you do? Accept the limited protection of one of the most powerful tribes in Arabia at a time when you had none, or continue your search?

The Prophet ﷺ had a vision. His aim was not simply protection for the sake of it. It was protection in order to spread the message and principles of Islam, which would in turn ensure protection for the weakest members of society. He knew that if he could get that protection, and he had the freedom to tell people about the religion, Islam could flourish. So he graciously declined.

He finally met some youth from Madina who accepted his message. He had the patience and perseverance to tell them to return to their home, speak to their people, and come back the following year during Hajj to see if protection would be granted. And it was.

A pessimist would scoff. A pessimist would focus on the problems. Maybe even despair. Madina? What was Madina in relation to the powerful tribes of Makkah and other areas? They were doomed! An irrational optimist would see that they have been saved. A positive genius? He would see the whole picture. And then he would focus on what he could do in the circumstances. The Prophet ﷺ was a positive genius. And we know how the story ended.

How was he able to do all of this? His perception of God, firstly. That when you are doing something for His sake, you do not fixate on the little things. You know everything is in His Hands, and He knows what is best. It is not about your pride or your ego. You have trust. We know in the story of the Prophet Musa, alayhi as-salaam (peace upon him), and al-Khidr (as), al-Khidr damages the boat of some poor people who had helped them. That damage saved them from something greater, because there was a king at the time who was seizing every boat that was in good condition for himself. This story teaches us that what we perceive as bad can actually be good. Not being given protection at Ta’if, or from Bani Shayban, was not bad at all because Madina was the best place for them.

Stay tuned for the next part on the skills of a positive genius!

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12 Comments

  1. Said Hasan says:

    JazkAllah Khayr sister for this beneficial post.
    It is interesting and inspiring.
    I have bought Don’t be Sad by Dr. Aid Al-Qarni and I read the whole book in marathon forgeting the advise of the translater to read it in doses in order to reflect and act on the beauty of the wisdom presented in the book.
    In my view this is the best book about happiness written by a living author.
    A young Muslim author who I admire admonished me when I quoted a linkedin influencer. He said that is an insult to true Muslim scholars and thinkers(note that he is a brilliant political science graduate).
    I think their is nothing wrong reading self-help or productivity books relating to creativity, innovation, business, etc but reading and quoting happiness non-Muslim books forgetting a better one by a Muslim is not good.
    I look forward to part two and I would be happy if you quote Muslim authors, scholars or thinkers that relates to your topic(incase you decide to quote someone).

    • Yahya says:

      not only that, there is nothing wrong with going and seeing a therapist/councellor to get help if you have issues or feel like you need more than just self-help, like outside help too. gotta remove the stigmas in our Ummah about these stuff.

  2. Jinan Bastaki says:

    Wa iyyak brother. Thanks for your comment. The Prophet (pbuh) said “Wisdom is the lost property of the believer, and he has a right to it wherever he finds it.” I found this book by Shawn Achor to be full of wisdom and complements our Islamic teachings. I do not think that things related to happiness should be off-limits especially when they corroborate what is in our religion. Thank you.

  3. Aisha says:

    Excellent read and reminder – jazakAllah Khairan!

  4. Sheen says:

    Amazing article. Was in need of a reminder like this. JazakAllah Khair sister.

  5. sister says:

    Dear Jinan, jazakillahu khair. Great article mashaAllah; keep up the great work!

  6. amatullah says:

    Assalamualaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Dear Sister Jinan!

    SubhanAllah!! The part about having good expectation in AllahS.W.T. makes amazing things happen!

    May AllahS.W.T. always help us to have good expectation in Him and guide us to be among His grateful slaves!

    Jazakillahu Khair!! may AllahSWT bless you in this world and akhira!
    Assalamualaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh!

  7. Erniza says:

    JazkAllah Khayr, I have also read Dont Be Sad by Dr Aidh and found it the most helpful during my rainy days. I have read the book in small doses just to keep it for future usage.
    I think we need more books of the same and we need them written by our Islamic scholar so that Muslims will return back to their Creator when they are in need and not to some self belief and some self confidence theory.
    We need to always be reminded that pain and problems are there as a reminder and an avenue to come back to Him.

  8. Sana Mehreen says:

    JazakAllahu khairan!
    Beautiful n inspiring words….!

  9. Green says:

    Nice article Mashallah. Waiting for next part eagerly….hope there’s something on motivation, I for one, find it hard to get motivated when things go wrong, maybe I’m a pessimist at heart…hope I can change and become more optimistic.

  10. Kirana says:

    This is great. :)

    Have a clear vision of what you really need and what for.
    Go for the best option.
    If that doesn’t work it’s ok.
    *Refrain* from accepting the very next offer out of desperation if it doesn’t fit the vision. Be cool. Never compromise the big picture.
    Explore the next option that fits the vision even if it seems humbler than the immediate next offer.
    Repeat (if necessary) until you find the one God has set aside for you.
    Build on that one.

    The vision part is crucial. It’s the only thing that will help you decide – and convince others – that it is better to turn down the ill-fitting but outwardly 2nd best “next best” offer. After all, which one is “second” depends on what you’re measuring as the most important criteria. Only vision can tell you the correct priority order of your criteria list.

  11. green leaf says:

    Sr. Jinan,

    As I read your article, I changed my mind about what type of person I want to be. I want to be the type that dusts themselves off and tries again. As many times as is necessary. Although innate personality plays a big role in who we are, I believe we choose our attitudes and perceptions to a greater extent than we think. The ability to do so falls under our free will. Not to exercise it is a loss and our own choice.

    Green, you can change whatever you want about yourself. You said you hope you can become more optimistic. Hope is essential, but expecting it from yourself will expose more opportunities to reach your goal.

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