Hook Up with Allah, Allah will Hook You Up


3589136966_b9fb81d6ac_oBefore I got married, I was given unsolicited advice on how to change in order to make myself “more appealing” to brothers. Sisters would voluntarily tell me I should be more outgoing when with men, dress more attractively to get their attention and stop being as involved with Islamic activism so I would not scare them away.

Since when is our purpose in life marriage? Where in the Qur’an does Allah ask us to change our personalities, dress style and tone down our activism in hopes of getting hitched? Nevertheless, with marriage being such a huge concern in our community, many face the temptation to change their values to find a spouse.

Here’s an idea: Instead of working to please a potential suitor, perhaps we should first seek to please Allah, the One who sows the seed of love in our hearts and can bless us with our dream husband or dream wife.

Instead of looking for marriage at every event, let’s look for marriage in our relationship with al-Wahhab, the Giver of All. Let’s be honest. We are talking about al-Mujeeb, the Responder to Prayer. Those are amongst the Names of Allah! Allah gives and He answers!

If you are an individual who struggles to lower your gaze and protect your eyes, heart, tongue and body from falling into the haram, don’t you know that Allah will indeed reward you?

Every time you glance up and see someone you wish you could be with, turn away and in that moment ask Allah to bless you with a spouse who will be the sweetness of your eyes. Would not Allah listen to and accept your supplication to Him? How could Allah possibly not accept the supplication of His adamant worshipper who is painfully struggling to maintain his or her modesty and guard his or her chastity? The Prophet ﷺ has encouraged us to “Ask and you will be given…” (at-Tirmithi) Allah will give you! How could He not when you are striving only for His Sake?

In those moments in the last third of the night, in those two rakahs which you make out of pure frustration of your situation, weeping, asking Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala – exalted is He) to answer you –  do you not think Allah the Rabb al-`alameen (Lord of the Worlds) will not respond to you? Allahu Akbar (God is the Greatest), this is Allah! Without doubt Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) is going to answer you!

The Prophet ﷺ relates from Allah in a hadith Qudsi:

“Our Lord (glorified and exalted be He) descends each night to the earth’s sky when there remains the final third of the night, and He says: ‘Who is saying a prayer to Me that I may answer it? Who is asking something of Me that I may give it him? Who is asking forgiveness of Me that I may forgive him?’” (Bukhari)

What is hooking up with a brother or sister on gchat or facebook worth in comparison to hooking up with the One who can hook you up?

As Shaykh Muhammad Faqih once said, “Hook up with Allah, Allah will hook you up!”

Let’s hook up with salah! Hook up with the Qur’an! Hook up with community work for Allah’s Sake! And have certainty that when we struggle to please Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala), Ash-Shakoor is the Most Appreciative of our work and will undoubtedly reward us.

Will that reward be in the form of an amazing spouse and an amazing marriage? Allah knows best. But the best part is that Allah knows what is BEST for us and that His bounties are limitless.

The Prophet ﷺ has told us, “Any Muslim who supplicates to Allah in a du`a’ which contains no sin [of] breaking of kinship, Allah will give him one of three things: either his du`a’ will be immediately answered, it will be saved for him in the hereafter, or it will turn away an equivalent amount of evil (from him)…” (Ahmad).

Thus, we must know that if we connect with Allah, we can trust that Allah will grant us whatever is best, whether it be an answer to exactly what we are asking for or something better. Allah has got our backs! Who better to trust our future with than the One who already knows it?

Easier said than done? Maybe. But what have you got to lose? If at the end of the day you are only increasing in closeness to Allah, increasing in reading the Qur’an, tasting the sweetness of your salah, and making more sincere du`a’ then insha’Allah (if Allah wills) you will have gained more than simply “a spouse” if you get married and you would have gained much more than facebook “cruising for a spouse” time while you’re attempting to find your better half…Insha’Allah you will gain more in this life and the next, and an unwavering relationship with Allah!

Here are some short, quick and amazing ways we can increase our relationship with Allah through good deeds massively rewarded inshaAllah:

–> Get what you really want: “Allah will grant whoever recites this seven times in the morning or evening whatever he desires from this world or the next” (Ibn As Sunni, Abu Dawood – both reports are directly linked to the Prophet ﷺ):

HasbiaAllahu la ilaha ila huwa `alayhi tawakaltu wa huwa Rabbu’l`arshi’l`atheem.

“Allah is Sufficient for me, none has the right to be worshipped except Him, upon Him I rely and He is Lord of the exalted throne.”

To be recited seven times in the morning (after Fajr) and seven times in the evening (between `Asr and Maghrib).

–> Say “Subhan’Allah” (glory be to Allah) 100 times. For a person who does this, “a thousand good deeds are recorded for him and a thousand bad deeds are wiped away.” [Muslim]

–> Ask Allah to forgive your brothers and sisters: “Whoever seeks forgiveness for believing men and believing woman, Allah will write for him a good deed for each believing man and believing woman.” [at-Tabarani, classed as hasan by al-Albani]

–> Work to protect yourself from the Hellfire: “Allah will spare whoever says this four times in the morning or evening from the fire of Hell” (Abu Dawood, was also reported in Bukhari).

Allahumma inni asbahtu ush-hiduka, wa ushidu hamalata `arshika, wa mala’ikataka, wa jamee`a khalqik, annaka Ant Allah, la ilaha illa Ant, wahdaka la shareeka lak, wa anna Muhammadan `abduka wa rasuluka (when saying this in the evening, say “Allahuma inni amsaytu” instead of “asbahtu.

“O Allah, verily I have reached the morning and call on You, the bearers of Your throne, Your angels, and all of Your creation to witness that You are Allah, none has the right to be worshipped except You, alone, without partner and that Muhammad is Your Servant and Messenger.”

To be recited four times in the morning (after Fajr) and evening (between `Asr and Maghrib).

The Lord of the Worlds speaks to us and tells us, “And when My slaves ask you concerning Me, then I am indeed near. I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me. So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so that they may be led aright” (Quran, 2:186).

You are coming to Allah with rajaa (hope), with a powerful combination of seeking Allah’s pleasure, striving to leave anything which may gain His displeasure and making a consistent effort to ask Him to open the best of ways for you and then putting your trust in Him that He will give you whatever is best. Of course Allah is going to answer you.

As was once stated, “A person has never held certainty in Allah only for Allah to disappoint him/her.’ Never will Allah disappoint those with yaqeen (certainty), tawakkul (reliance) and husn al-dhann (good opinion) of Him.” Hook up with Allah and know that without a doubt, Allah ‘azza wa Jall will hook you up in the best of ways.

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89 Comments

  1. Menna says:

    Great article, really exactly what i needed .. and i’ll try from now on to lower my gaze in order to be rewarded with a good spouse .. jazake Allah khayran :D

  2. QuranReciter says:

    Really great blog! Thank you so much for your effort in writting this.

  3. Chrysalis says:

    Good article Sis, masha’Allah.

    I’m not saying you should get close to Allah only for a mate… but it is true that when you stop looking elsewhere, and you turn to Allah for help, asking Him to be your Matchmaker – wondrous things happen! I can testify that personally. Unfortunately we only realize ‘Allah’ as the best source after we have been disappointed in worldly sources… So my advise to others, Rely on Allah BEFORE you rely on anything/one else. And watch the magic happen. [but don't be be-sabr, have patience dear siblings-in-islam]

  4. Nini says:

    SubhanAllah. This article really has given me a different kind of satisfaction inside my heart. As overall, everyone knows to rely on Allah, and I do too, but when it comes to doing istekharas and things not happening in the way you wanted does indeed make me down. And I start to wonder and questions things. I pray all the time mashAllah but I needed something that will make me stronger, and this article really helped. Thank You, sister!

  5. mimie shoaib says:

    SubhanAllah, great article! before marriage, i prayed for a ‘saleh’ husband who can lead me to become a good muslimah .. Alhamdulillah, Allah SWT has granted my wish .. Syukur …

  6. jannah says:

    preach it sistah! *like! however this is only 1/2… the other half is where brothers recognize that the nice quiet, modestly dressed, active, religious sisters are the one’s they should be going after… then win win all around!!

  7. Ayisha says:

    Assalamu Alaykum,

    mashAllah! i loved this article…well written
    May Allah reward you sister..!!

    Wassalam

  8. Salahuddin says:

    I don’t think you know what “hooking up means”. Nonetheless, good read.

    • Sami says:

      The author is using hooking up as a play on words. The author is keeping up with modern lingo to appeal to the audience reading this article. Hooking up in this article is used for good, not for the bad. The point is to work on our relationship with Allah and the rest will fall in place. It’s really a play on words.

  9. MashaAllah, this article really touched my heart and it has cleared my mind to focus on building my relationship further with Allah s.w.t. rather than fretting over getting married. Thank you sooo much for writing this and making me feel that there’s hope! :)

  10. Diana says:

    MashAllah thank you for writing this!
    definitely a great reminder of the importance of focus on Allah, subhana wa ta’ala, rather than this duniya. Thank yoU!

  11. mariam oladoja says:

    its a good information.May Allah set right our affairs.

  12. emanne says:

    MashaAllah wonderful article! May Allah bless us all with wonderful, religious spouses and may He bless us with as-seerat al mustaqeem. Ameen.

  13. sidra says:

    mashallah…very gud post!!

  14. michael rose says:

    Subhanallah…thank you for such a beautiful article…i pray to Allah everyday so that He hooks me up with my other half soon…Allah knows best what’s best for me..Insyaalah..ameen..

  15. Mayriana says:

    Thank you for such a motivating article on finding a soulmate. It’s really beautiful and thanks for sharing the lovely du’a s which I am sooo going to try.

  16. Mev says:

    Beautiful article… Allah plans best for us…we only need to Trust Him in Allll the situations…Allah ho Akbar

  17. A. says:

    i read it. i cried. i loved it!
    i just shared it with all my sisters who fret, cry, whine about this particular issue that you have mentioned dear Maryam!

    As Salamu Alikum!
    it is a beautiful read. Masha Allah ! this is an unsolicited answer for me and I am loving Allah swt much more!
    jazakillah e kahir an kaseer for this!
    May Allah swt bless you and bless us with the best in this world and hearafter, make our eyes cool from our spouses and progeny and may Allah swt make us all, the imams of Mut’taqeen!

    Allahum Aghfirlana! O, our Allah, please forgive us all! amen!

  18. hijab says:

    Salam un Alaikum Warehmatullah!

    Now this is how Allah paak answers our or to get precise “my” questions. I loved the read and found it really really effective enough to boost my morale for multiplying the love for ALlah azz wajal to infinite folds.
    JazakIllah hu khair for the share sis!

    Allah Paak help all of us and guide us to the rightest of the paths ! Ameen!

  19. Sister says:

    I am in love with someone and am now married, I didn’t get on with him at first, couldn’t get my head around being married. I was always upset something was always going wrong for me in general. I was an emotional wreck untill I started wearing the hijab and And praying salah. I have now found peace in my heart and have learnt to appreciate things i already have. My question to you all is the love I felt for my ex lover has still not gone completely I still pray to Allah swt if not my ex lover in this life pls grant me him in the next life. I will make my marriage work inshahallah just by praying to Allah swt I can see myself living with my husband a very happy life. Is this wrong of me to even ask for another
    man in the next life?? From reading this article it has answered some of my questions but I just want to confirm? Am sorry for going off the topic a little

  20. hannah says:

    Absolutely spot on advice! I totally agree and alhamdulillah, I’ve tried desperately to stay firm on this mindset. Its not always easy, but with complete hope and conviction in Allah, Allah will not disappoint.
    I’m not yet married, but alhamdulillah wa shukr, I’ve now recently met someone who I am totally happy with and insha’Allah am looking forward to spending my life with. But as always there’s always a little test of sabr with each step–but thats where all the reward is to be found too! Alhamdulillah.
    Once again, jazakallah khair sis for the lovely and inspiring advice. I’m with you all the way :)

    Wa salaam

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