What is Your Worth?


By Waqas Mustafeez

Allah, subhanahu wa ta’ala (exalted is He), tells us in the oft quoted verses of Surah Hujarat:

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“O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.” (Qur’an, 49:13)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/w4nd3rl0st/6981050418/We are being told that one of the primary reasons for creating us all differently is to teach us the art of getting to know one another and to become comfortable with being different. However, human beings regularly use these differences to demarcate boundaries, or worse, to feel superior to others in their identity. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (peace be upon him) in his farewell sermon told us of the equalizers that are the basis of human rights:

“All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action.”

In today’s world, we have found even more ways of establishing superiority, hierarchy and worth. Race and color are just not comprehensive enough.

Since the first thing we deal with when meeting another human being is their exterior, it is natural that we may evaluate their physical characteristics such as how tall they are, how their face looks, their skin color or how they dress. This is natural, but there are certain manifestations of this evaluation that take away from our God-given dignity. For example, the perception that fair is better than dark or in other cultures that color is better than pale. In Pakistan and India, there is a gigantic market for skin lightening products. Both men and women are targeted through advertisements whose basic aim is to reduce people and to tap into the psychological remnants of colonial rule.

The second thing we look at is dress, and the cultural background of the dress. Is it ironed? Is it clean? Is it tight or loose? Is it revealing or is that a tattoo! Are they wearing a hijab, or in men’s case, does he have a beard? All this happens within moments and may not even be a conscious decision. Of course all of these things induce some flash of acknowledgment that we may have some idea of what this person thinks, some box that we can fit this person into. For Muslims, the hijab or the beard is a good example to look at. Both of these evoke a familiarity, and we may see these as an aggressive outward manifestation of faith and Islam. We also assume that these things may mean that a person holds certain views about another issue. However, we cannot always make assumptions, because every circumstance is different. For example, if a woman refuses to wear hijab in Iran, it is an aggressive act of defying authority. On the other hand, if a woman does the very opposite in a school in France, it is still an aggressive act of defying authority even though it is a completely opposite action. In other places where there is not a central authority dictating exteriors, the presence or absence of a hijab or beard may not be as significant.

We have stripped down the material part of how we reduce our fellow human beings and do not account for the endless circumstances that may lead to what we see. Now let us look at another aspect of initial interactions that is particularly problematic—especially in places with a colonial past. That is the mastery of the colonial master’s language. The fluency in English in an English-speaking country, for example, determines not only social status, but how confident people are of their own standing. Sometimes even fluency is not sufficient; people are obsessed with accents and what they project about themselves and others. A south Indian accent may be deemed hilarious in one region while someone who speaks the “Queen’s English” would be considered superior in education, in social class and in refinement. The question one must ask is who came up with the idea that if a certain word comes out sounding one way or another it may be crass or class? What an absurd metric to determine one’s social stature! If that is not debasing enough, sometimes we judge a particular person based on how they can be of use to us. Can they further my career? Could they get me into a particular social circle? Will they fit with my desire for a particular plan of action?

We evaluate people using titles and names of things and the institutions they associate with. Be it Harvard, Stanford, Google or Facebook, or any big corporation, these little titles and tags mean something to us, as we evaluate not just others but ourselves. This may be a manifestation of us being taught to be ambitious and to aim high as children. We are taught to work hard, to get into the right schools, land the right jobs, make an impact, and to be famous or rich.  These “delusions of grandeur” offer an exaggerated sense of self-worth; tangential to how Allah (swt) evaluates us. Now while a little troubling that we evaluate others’ worth based on these titles and honors and awards, it is outright sad when we do it to our own selves when we associate our own worth with what sits in the bank account or how many influential people we know or even where we were educated. We disregard all the privilege that Allah (swt) sent our way and we forget that the biggest differentiator between “the best” of humanity and the ordinary is not ability, but opportunity.

In Surah At-Teen Allah (swt) says:

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“We have certainly created man in the best of stature; Then We return him to the lowest of the low, Except for those who believe and do righteous deeds, for they will have a reward uninterrupted.” (Qur’an, 95:4-6)

Allah (swt) the creator of everything in this universe including all our objects of desires is telling us that you and I were created in the best of forms and with the highest stature. We were created better than the things we desire and given amazing abilities. Allah (swt) himself acknowledges those abilities. He has given us the ability to conquer the whole world and in fact the whole physical universe!

In Surah Al-Jathiya, Verse 13:

“And He has subjected to you whatever is in the heavens and whatever is on the earth – all from Him. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.”

And again in Surah Ibrahim, Verse 33:

“And He subjected for you the sun and the moon, continuous [in orbit], and subjected for you the night and the day.”

Despite this mastery, He says that He will return us to the lowest of the low, through great tests in this life and despite our ability to subjugate the physical world through our intellect and our will—both of which are used extensively as collective ego boosts. In other words, He (swt) is attacking the ego based on accomplishments and repeating again that everyone is at a loss except those that believe in Allah (swt) and those who take the initiative to do good wherever they go and to whomever they meet.

In Surah Ali `Imran Allah (swt) says:

You are the best of nation produced [as an example] for mankind. You enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and believe in Allah.” (Qur’an 3:110)

That is the ONLY metric for evaluating human beings. It is a stark contrast to how a lot of us quantify other human beings. Our true dignity and stature is defined very differently from how we routinely define it. We only debase ourselves below our true and God-given nobility by evaluating our self-worth and others’ worth through the arbitrary and ephemeral.

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5 Comments

  1. Alaa says:

    Great article BarakaAllahufeek!

  2. Ubaidullah says:

    Though I agree with the central premise of the article and hope that Allah gives me the strength to follow it, I find some points in this article contradicting.

    “The second thing we look at is dress, and the cultural background of the dress. Is it ironed? Is it clean?”

    From this thought in particular, I am getting the feeling that the author does not regard cleanliness as something that is part of our faith? Cleanliness is half of our Emaan.

    Indeed Allah is beautiful and loves beauty. The strong believer is better and more beloved to Allah than the weak believer. Verily Allah has enjoined goodness (ihsan) on everything.

    Somethings are beyond our control (skin color, height, etc); those are not what I am referring to. Being able to communicate properly, dressing nicely, seeking perfection in everything we do are in our control; Isn’t working on these part of our religion?

    Hence, when we see someone who is seeking perfection in whatever he/she does, should we not look up to them in the hope that we may be motivated to improve ourselves?

    • Carol Ann says:

      The point of the article is not that someone should not strive for excellence, but that as Muslims we should not look down on someone who we deem to be less than us because of their appearance, education etc. Not everyone has the same means or the abilities or opportunities. At the end of the day Allah will judge us on our iman and practice of the deen, to the best of our abilities.

  3. m.sohail mehboob says:

    Live for others not for yourself because if you live for other people then you have worth on the other way, if you live for yourself then you are not worthy. Great point is discussed by you.

  4. Umm Hamza says:

    Assalmau aleykum, Interesting article, which when thought through has brought many thoughts.

    InshaaAllah I will strive more to make it a priority (even an obligation) to think positively of each person we meet, especially those close to us as we meet them more frequently.

    Regarding the clothing being clean and ironed, I can easily see where that comes into play and for example, a brother who is near a masjid and feels it his obligation to pray all his prayers in Jama’h (in a group) but yet he finds all his clothes are clean yet piled in a basket and frumpy! Imagine his sadness if he were to be judged as “lazy” or “improper” because of this. And assume upon leaving the masjid, a non-Muslim sees him and thinks poorly of him and perhaps even throws out a comment, compounding the feeling.

    Sometimes it is difficult for me to “erase” these immediate presumptions I can make when I see people, and if I become aware of these, sometimes I try to change my perception by “dramatizing” the situation. I.e. Imagine, what if his whole house burned down, and his wife and baby died in the fire and now he is just coming to masjid, hoping to pray in peace and perhaps even find comfort and warmth in his fellow Muslims… as a brother, shall we delay even 1 second to hug our Muslim brother in this case?

    So many other trials that people face and that we do not, and that we not understand and, instead of being thankful (i.e. alhamdullillah I don’t have 10 kids to dress for Jumua’h!) sometimes I do find myself being subconsciously critical or judgmental, and the blame is on ME, not on the other person for not conforming to how I wanted to see them that day (which is of course a ridiculous thought itself)….

    Regarding the accents, I very much related to that. I come from a small community worldwide of maybe 3-5 Million native speakers of a French dialect and I have felt shamed at times, when trying to speak “real” or “clean” French. Likewise, at times posting online or emailing, there will grammatical errors or typos or sometimes I do not know how to spell a word in Arabic, and there is a fear of “what will they think?” or I wonder will they understand what I’m trying to say vs try to judge who I am as a typist. At the same time, these thoughts are probably related to the fact that I also judge other people’s grammar, typing and such. And so the idea of getting back what I give is definitely present.

    I’ve noticed that regarding certain faults that are not naturally mine, I usually fail to notice them (as in completely!), yet if I have a friend who notices them and tries to explain it to me, I will sometimes have a paradigm shift and be like oh WOW, so it is possible to see things like THAT. So for example, alhamdullillah I have not usually had the trial of feeling that “people are out to get me” or that another person would truly want me harm. And so if someone trips into me, my natural thought is that they made a mistake or I might think wow they are clumsy or more along those lines. However, I have a friend who truly believe that people seek her out, and bump her on purpose. If someone came with a gun to me, I would assume they were trying to shoot some else (!!!). The idea they would be there to shoot me would probably take me a very long time to process (time I might not have eh). And so sometimes perceptions of others can really affect our daily lives, our feelings about ourselves, and who we think we are.

    One big fault of mine is not realizing that not everyone thinks or feels like me about the same situation. So if someone were cold in the masjid and they told me they were cold, I would still not really register the fact that they FELT truly cold. Mentally it’s sort of like I feel hot, so how would it be possible that you feel cold?

    By pondering about obvious situations like these, I pray that I am inshaaAllah to be more empathetic and to become much less judgmental, ESPECIALLY about things that don’t matter. I.e. this is not someone I am considering in marriage, this is not my child whom I am responsible for, I often don’t even know this persons name! So I guess for me it comes down this: I need to learn to mind my own business. I need to learn to love others more freely and not act like it cost me something.

    Umm Hamza

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