Two way Streets


By Ahmed Zaafran

A short while ago, my wife and I took our two kids to the local public library. Going to the library today is much different than it was when I was a child.  I remember the distinct smell of old books and how their pages seemed to coalesce into a never-ending narrative. There weren’t many computers back then (gasp!) and the ones that were around, made inter-galactic sounds that freaked everybody out.

When we got there, the kids jumped on to the computers positioned along the wall and started working on the interactive programs designed for their education. I took that opportunity to disappear for a bit and explore. As I perused through the columns of bookshelves, I saw a book that sent nostalgic goose bumps down my spine. The book called “The Giving Tree” is a short story written by Shel Silverstein. Initially published in 1964, this children’s book tells the story of a young boy and his relationship with his friend: a tree. In short, the boy befriends this tree that seems willing to do anything for him. The boy would come and play in her shade, gather her leaves, and even play hide-and-seek. As the boy grows older, he becomes more engrossed by the world around him and is no longer satisfied by the company of his friend.  At one point, he asks the tree for money!

”I’m sorry”, said the tree,” but I have no money. I have only leaves and apples. Take my apples, Boy, and sell them in the city. Then you will have money and you’ll be happy.”
And so the boy climbed up the tree and gathered her apples and carried them away.

And the tree was happy…

Here we see just one example of the tree’s unconditional love for the boy and its willingness to sacrifice itself for him. This story reminded me of the types of friendships we form and how dysfunctional many of them are. We have all seen, or even been a part of, one-way friendships where one party is always giving and the other always taking. Some give so much emotionally that they completely lose their identity and become utterly dependent on their so called, “friends.”

By now my kids are halfway complete with Dora the Explorer’s version of the matching game and I’m sitting in the corner, squeezing myself into one of those tiny chairs reserved for toddlers, totally engrossed in the book.

Don’t judge me.

But it got me thinking. What is the nature of a friendship in Islam? How is it described in the Qur’an?

Most of us know that many of God’s beloved messengers had names that give us glimpses into how He looks at them. For example, Jesus Christ (peace and blessings be upon him) is known in Islam as Ruh Allah-The spirit of God.  Mohammed ﷺ (peace and blessings be upon him) is referred to as, “Habib Allah”- God’s beloved. And Abraham, the father of the prophets, received the name, Khalil Allah- God’s friend. So, if Abraham (peace and blessings be upon him) was God’s friend, what was the nature of their relationship?

In chapter four of the Qur’an, entitled “Women”, Allah says,

“Who could have a better religion than someone who submits himself completely to God and is a good-doer, and follows the religion of Ibrahim, a man of pure natural belief? God took Ibrahim as an intimate friend.” (Qur’an 4:125)

Furthermore, in chapter 16, “The Bee”, Allah says,

“Surely Abraham was an exemplar, obedient to God, upright, and he was not of the polytheists. He showed his gratitude for the favors of God, who chose him, and guided him to a Straight Way. And We gave him Good in this world, and he will be, in the Hereafter, in the ranks of the Righteous. So We have taught you the inspiration, ‘Follow the ways of Ibrahim the True in Faith, and he associated none with God.” (Qur’an 16:120-123)

What struck me about those passages was the importance of gratitude in friendship. If we take a look at our friendships, whether with our spouses, parents, cousins, homeboys/homegirls, we’ve got to ask ourselves, are we grateful for that shoulder to cry on? Do we take the initiative to call our friends when times are good and not just when we need some cash?

At the end of the book, the boy, now an old man, comes back to the tree. The tree, unable to give anything more, tries to explain herself to the boy.

”I am sorry, Boy”, said the tree, “but I have nothing left to give you My apples are gone”.
”My teeth are too weak for apples”, said the boy.
”My branches are gone”, said the tree. “You cannot swing on them”.
”I am too old to swing on branches”, said the boy.
”My trunk is gone”, said the tree. “You cannot climb”.
”I am too tired to climb”, said the boy.
“I am sorry” sighed the tree. “I wish that I could give you something… but I have nothing left. I am just an old stump. I am sorry…”
”I don’t need very much now”, said the boy. “Just a quiet place to sit and rest. I am very tired”.

”Well”, said the tree, straightening herself up as much as she could, “well, an old stump is good for sitting and resting. Come, Boy, sit down… sit down and rest”.

And the boy did.
And the tree was happy…

The tree had nothing left to give. Despite that, she still offers her stump, barely a few feet off the ground, as a resting place for her old friend.

Life is too short to lose sight of the people we love. The friendships we formulate during our time here have the power to resonate for eternity. We just have to show gratitude and respect for each other’s time and effort.

And we’ll be happy.

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21 Comments

  1. Reehab Ramadan says:

    Allahu Akbar. This is beyond beautiful. I always loved the giving tree, now I know why! Thank you for this Ahmed.

  2. umm yusuf says:

    Masha’Allah -this really is a beautifully written reminder.Barak’Allahu feek.:-)

  3. Nadia says:

    Masha Allah such a beautifully written article! I also grew up on this book, and I get so excited when my younger sisters bring it home from the school library. Such an inspiration. Jazak Allah khair for sharing your thoughts!

  4. Sidra says:

    JazakAllah khayr for such a beautiful article. I am amazed by how you linked a children’s story to our relationship with Allah swt. May Allah bless you and give you more strength to benefit others through your creativity. Ameen.

  5. Nancy says:

    Fantastic article Ahmed!!! I love The Giving Tree…and how beautifully you expressed its meaning!MA!!!!

  6. Halimeh says:

    Very refreshing piece masha’Allah (:

  7. Yasmin says:

    Mashallah, I love how you incorporated this very meaningful story into your beautiful post! After reading this post I have a renewed respect for that book because of its important moral.

  8. HayatiKuluhaLilah says:

    Aslamu alaykum, what struck me most about this article was the ayat mentioned, because I came again to reflect upon what Allah swt can be trying to hint to us in these ayat as well as a lecture on Abraham alayhe Salam life by shayk belal Assad which really inspired me and made me feel even stronger in Eman alhamdulliha and had a great influence in me submitting my whole life to Allah swt alhamdulliah whatever he says I do everything I can to obey with no question. It made me know how my number on friend is and the first person I’ll cry my self to and that’s him swt .in this ayat and I quote from what belal Assad reflected upon that Allah swt is not only talking about abrahim alahe Salam he is trying to say if you where to do exactly what Abraham did you may find yourself a Khalil of Allah swt as well ofcoarse not the khaleel of Allah swt which belongs to the state of abrahim alahe Salam but you can be one reflect why did Allah swt take abraham as his friend? Because he took the religion of Islam submitted his whole life to Allah. Allah swt is telling us to follow Abraham maybe you’ll find your self a true friend .I don’t know if what im saying is understood but in other words alhamdulliha this ayat after belal Assad gave his thought on it I really submitted my life to Allah swt in every second possible and I alhamdullah the only person I feel I can really go to is him and only he swt will get me out of any tear or sadness . I had my sister as that but know I feel more secure after reflecting the ayat that Allah swt is the only friend who can get you out of anything my sister means the world to me but only Allah swt when I go to him gives me a way i pray or call to him or read Quran and there I feel better and he clears the way for me . Allah swt is the first friend you should have than if you want you can speak to others . ya rab make us all your friends ameen

  9. Amatullah says:

    mashaAllah this is so beautiful.

  10. FD says:

    wow, gave me goosebumps at the end masha Allah, and so true. JAK for a great reminder. :)

  11. Suma says:

    WoOooooow, brilliant article..
    Jazakallahu khair. :)

  12. ramadan says:

    Fantastic article, loved it.

  13. Uncle Jaafar says:

    Ya Ahmed, you are squeezing my heart and making it bleed. This is so moving.

  14. Tasnim Mowlana says:

    This is so beautiful, SubhanAllah, I grew up reading this book, but upon reading this article, I just grasped the true meaning of it.

  15. Alhamdulillah says:

    May we always become friends with people for the sake of Allah swt and maintain our friendships for His sake, and be joined with each other in Paradise insha’Allah.

  16. Ahmed Zaafran says:

    Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement. I appreciate any and all feedback on my posts. Fee aman ilah!!

  17. Ninveh says:

    Wow that was beautiful. Great article very true.

  18. fakhra says:

    i loved it.it was great!

  19. sisterS says:

    May Allah bless you for your efforts! Loved it, thankyou! :)

  20. Kirana says:

    I never read the book, wonder if the boy was ever appreciative of his friend, the tree, or if the tree is the only party that is displaying good character in the story?

    On a separate note, it does illustrate the different ways interactive programs and reading stories educate us (I had both, intensively, growing up). The former hones specific skills from manual co-ordination, math, language, and strategy. The latter trains you to reflect and form opinions – on how to live, on different behaviours, on looking ahead to how people changes across their lives, etc.

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