Guarding Our Tongues


And tell My servants to say that which is best. Indeed, Satan induces [dissension] among them. Indeed Satan is ever, to mankind, a clear enemy.” [Qur’an 17:53]

How many times has the following happened to us?

We’re driving down the highway and suddenly, a car swerves in front of us and cuts us off causing us to swear as we swerve sharply out of the way. Or we’re late for work or class and we’re being pushed into the packed bus at rush hour. Someone steps on our foot really hard and we mutter, “#$@!#@”—swearing out of frustration. Or someone did something that really got under our skin and we decide to express our anger at them using the choicest of swear words.

It happens to all of us sometimes. In the heat of the moment we’re not aware of what is coming out of our mouths and sometimes, the words that do come out are not befitting of a servant of God to utter. It is at these times that we need to be extra mindful of what we are saying precisely because this is when we lose control over our tongue. Everything we utter, no matter how insignificant we believe it to be, is being written down by the angels and will be shown to us on the Day of Judgment:

Man does not utter any word except that with him is an observer prepared [to record].” (Qur’an 50:18)

Our speech is part of our actions and we will be questioned about what we say.  Therefore, it is imperative that we try to keep our speech clean and modest. It is not correct for a servant of God, who knows that his Master is watching him, to speak immodestly. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ (peace be upon him) said,

“A true believer does not taunt or curse or abuse or talk indecently.”1

If we are in the habit of losing control and speaking immodest words, can we guarantee that those words that come out of our mouths won’t be our last? What if they are our last?

Imagine that the car that cuts you off on the highway bumps into you and throws you straight into oncoming traffic—and imagine that as you’re losing control of your car and about to run head-on into another, you say the first thing that comes to your mind. What do you want to say at this point? Do you want to remember God and say, “La ilaha illallah (none is worthy of worship except God),” knowing that the one who does so as his final words enters Paradise2 ? Or do you want to swear? Of course, we all want to remember God in those moments but what we forget is that in those situations, we don’t have control of our tongue. Our body takes over and we’re in auto drive. What is within us, the reality of who we are in our heart of hearts, is what comes out. If we are people who remember God often and are constantly in dhikr (remembrance of God) and reciting Qur’an with our tongues, we will be blessed with the ability to say the dhikr and recite the Qur’an at those moments as well. If, on the other hand, our tongues are used to resorting to foul language, then we will by default use that language and it may so happen that those become our final words.

Breaking the Habit

To break the habit of using foul language is not difficult, but it requires a conscious effort. If we train ourselves daily to be engaged in dhikr, even if it is something simple such as uttering, “Alhamdullilah (All praise belongs to God),” or “Subhanallah (God is free of all imperfections),” whenever we can, we can begin to replace the swear words with the words of remembrance. Memorizing Qur’an is also helpful because memorization requires repetition. If we do this, we are not only getting the reward of remembering God but we are also cleaning our hearts and tongues of the darkness of foul language. This will allow us to be conscious of what our tongues are saying and we will be able to catch ourselves before we accidently swear.

“Indeed, Allah will admit those who believe and do righteous deeds to gardens beneath which rivers flow. They will be adorned therein with bracelets of gold and pearl, and their garments therein will be silk.  And they had been guided [in worldly life] to good speech, and they were guided to the path of the Praiseworthy.” (Qur’an 22:23-24)

Good, pure speech in this life is a cause of being admitted into Paradise because it is a sign of a good and pure heart. The words that appear on our tongues are only a manifestation of what is in our hearts. A heart that is aware of God and a tongue that is moist with the remembrance of God will not turn from something so noble to something so low. It is a sign of nobility that one does not use foul speech. In the above verse, God equates good speech to being guided on the path towards Him and the reward described in the previous verse is given to those people who uttered the testimony of faith and followed that up with pure speech—a sign of their pure hearts.

Imagine that every time we used inappropriate language, we remembered God instead. We can begin to do that and resolve to purify our tongues. Once our tongues are used to remembering God frequently, no matter how intense a situation, our tongues and hearts will immediately revert to His remembrance and our tongues will only utter that which is pure. And the amazing thing about this is that, regardless of where we are or what we are doing, we will constantly be in a state of worship and as a result, if God wills, we will be counted amongst those who receive the reward mentioned in the verse above, all by simply purifying our tongues.


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  1. At-Tirmidhi []
  2. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “He whose last words are: `La ilaha illallah (There is no true god except Allah)’ will enter Jannah.” []

10 Comments

  1. Fulan says:

    Mashallah! Jazakallah for the wonderful article! I have a question though. Whenever something like that happens, I won’t curse, but I’ll use other words to make a nonsensical statement, which isn’t hurtful at all, but just a way to express my words. Does this still count as sinful?

  2. Salman says:

    Masha’Allah well written and a great reminder.

    In the short book “Agenda to Change Our Condition” by Shaykh Hamza Yusuf and Imam Zaid Shakir, they write briefly about the tongue. It’s said that there is but one noble quality to the tongue and it’s speaking the truth. There are over 20 destructive qualities but they can be reduced to four: lying, backbiting, argumentation for its own sake, and excessive joking. In addition to engaging in extra dhikr, I think defining the harmful aspects of speech and actively avoiding them aught to be an efficient way to change our states.

    It’s also said that the tongue is the interpreter of the heart, that it manifests the inward realities of our condition. I’ve heard elsewhere that the power of words need not be underplayed, for a sword can cut the flesh, but words can cut the heart. The Prophet(s) said in an authentic hadith (excuse me for not having the citation) that the majority of man’s sins emanate from the tongue. Thus again underscoring the significance of the endeavor to purify our speech.

    It’s also said that when we wake up in the mornings the organs of our bodies / the inroads to our heart (eyes, ear, stomach, genitals, and so forth) say to the tongue: “Oh tongue, if you’re guided today, we’re all guided, and if you’re misguided we’re all misguided, so we go as you go.” In other words, the tongue is so critical that controlling it takes precedence over controlling other inroads to the heart.

    May we all take benefit from this reminder, purify our speech, and foster greater interactions with each other, insha’Allah!

  3. Yasmin says:

    Jazakallah khair for this great reminder. I love the suggestion of doing dhikr of Allah as a way to gradually break this bad habit.

  4. I’m a doctor and I work with the dying. I totally agree about us dying with what we always practice. I could see that those who always guard their tongues and mind their manners would have their end of life in a peaceful manner. We could never tell when we’re going to die, but we could always prepare for death.

    Jazakallah khair for this article. Actually I wanted to write something similar and send it to this site but I think you did it way better than what I would have done. :)

  5. LeilaLee says:

    JazakAllahu Fik for this article! I will always keep this in mind.

  6. lost hope says:

    shukran for this wonderful article. another thing to avoid is negative people as they encourage bad language, lying, arguments, and excessive gossip. insha allah, may allah (swt) give us all the strength to always avoid harsh words. ameen.

  7. Suzanne says:

    Thank you so much for the reminder, may Allah swt reward you for every word you wrote and every heart you have touched with those words. Amen.

  8. Concerned Reader says:

    This is so true! It is a read that is close to many ppl out there! Its a great article that brings out alot of awareness. I don’t understand why my fruends or so many ppl around say vulgarities in times of anger so easily likes its a norm to do so. I hate to hear all those horrible disgusting words and wonder why it is so easy for them to say that bad words. But at the same time, I am so glad there are also many ppl who are against those who curse & hurls vulgarities.. As it is really not morally accepatable & it just makes a heart more wicked. This such an awesome article. Keep it up! May God Bless. Amin

  9. Alia says:

    MashAllah! Amazing article and I hope all Muslims read and remember this. Also, part of protecting your tongue is to stay away from Gossip( Namima). It is said that those who Gossip in this life will eat the flesh of the people they spoke negatively about. So, inshAllah we can all stay clear of bad words AND gossip, bi’iznillah!
    Jazak Allahu kheiran for this wa salaamu alykum,
    :)
    Alia

  10. Dayang Ida says:

    MashaAllah a very good reminder to start a day thank you alhamdulillah :)

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