Breaking the Chains: Overcoming Porn Addiction


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  1. Abul-Hussein says:

    Of the “oughts” that govern proper da’wah training is that one ought know how to assist others with addiction in its various manifestation. Traditionally, this was the role of a spiritual guide (murabbi) Unfortunately, a lot of the Addiction literature (in English) out there is based on the 10 step program of Alcoholics Anonymous, these ten steps are under girded by Christian mores.

    Mentioning this is not to discourage anyone from attempting to over come the self by recourse to these systems rooted in the 10 step systems which proven to be effective and have helped many. These systems may serve the Muslim community well especially if one seeks out help from qualified Muslim leaders in addition to recourse to these systems. There are quite a few Imams who are involved in counseling and social work and have been educated in these areas theoretically and experientially.

    What is needed here is for those preparing to be involved in da’wah to be aggressive in training programs themselves to assist others in their hardships by acquiring formal counseling skills with which to properly serve the community.

    Not many would openly advertise for a solution to “porn addiction” Shaikh Suhaib. I am glad to see that once again you are “keeping it real” and by doing so setting an online precedent for leaders and scholars and students to focus energy in dealing with people and life. It is priority that we tend to the real life needs of people on the ground and this is surely one way to undertake such a task.

    Thanks Again, Shaikh.
    Good work, May Allah grant you tawfeeq.

  2. Abdullah says:

    ASA,

    This is an important topic and it needs to be addressed. I just wish some free material would be posted. When you try to download the e-book it costs $14.95. This information should be free and available to anybody who needs it. I would recommend searching for other free sources or talking to a doctor or other health professional for treatment options.

    Ws

  3. funnyguy says:

    Assalamualeikum,

    Thank you for posting the link to this very helpful website.

    The website is http://www.no-porn.com. It is a place for porn addicts to seek help. In a way, it is like an online support group. Everything is anonymous and people who seek help are not judged or looked down upon. Although the ten keys book costs $14.95, there are many other features on this website that are free of charge. One can simply create an account and gain access to the various forums that are on this site. You can create your own personal journal to monitor your progress where others can offer you advice and support.

    There are also accountability circles for people to help each other. There are accountability circles for christians, atheists, etc. One brother even created a special accountability circle for muslims.

    In addition, this site also promotes different software that may be helpful in fighting addiction. Some of the software is your standard filtering software. But there is another software called covenant eyes. This software monitors the websites that you visit and sends regular e-mails to your accountability partner. I know that we should already realize that Allah will hold us accountable, but for those that are addicted this can be quite helpful.

    Pornography has destroyed many lives and families. Unfortunately, this problem has also caused a lot of fitna within the muslim community. May Allah protect us all and assist those that are struggling to fight this problem.

    Once again, I wanted to thank you for posting this link. Not many Imams would reach out to those people that are suffering with problems and addictions.

  4. Abdurahman says:

    Asalamualaikum wrt,

    Here is some advice from Imam al-Ghazali:

    If a person resolves to give up a desire, then he must show patience and persist, because if he gets used to giving up what he resolved to do, that will lead to corruption. If it so happens that he falls short of what he resolved to do, then he must impose some punishment on himself because of that, because if he does not scare himself with that punishment, his evil inclinations will overwhelm him and he will be attracted to indulging in desires, and all his efforts will be spoiled.

    Shaykh al-Islam ibn Taymiyyah gives this advice for controling unlawful desires:

    1. Maintain your 5 salat regularly and on time.

    2. Remember Allah at all times and in all places.

    3. Repeat this dua’ often: “Oh Turner of Hearts, make firm my heart on Your Religion; Oh Changer of Hearts, turn my heart towards Your Obedience.” Ameen.

    I know this worked from some people: Promise yourself that each time you fall into sin, you will make up for it by doing a good deed, such as donating $100 in charity. Make sure to fulfill your promise. You will find that punishing your nafs in this way will force it to give up its attachment to unlawful desires. You will be cured, by the will of Allah. This is perhaps what is meant by Allah Most High when He says, “Indeed good deeds take away the bad deeds .”

    And Allah knows better.

    • Tareq says:

      You bring a valid point, doing salat cleanses the heart du’a and the remembrance of Allah are the greatest medications. But I disagree on the punishing ones self. If you train yourself to give 100 dollars donation, an act highly encouraged and an amazing deed, but if you see sadaka as punishing yourself, in my opinion that will only prevent you or anyone from actually giving from your heart. and eventually no one would give from the heart because it is seen as a punishment.

  5. Brother in need says:

    Asalam alaykum my brothers

    I clicked on the link for this page and I can not see where the article or audio is by the shaykh. Please help. JazakAllahukhayrun

  6. Zeyad says:

    Bismillah

    I have just started a new website for Muslim men struggling with the use of or addiction to pornography. Please share it with everyone you think can benefit. Jazakum Allahu Khairan.

    http://www.imancipate.com/blog

    p.s. There is a free strategy guide available as well.

  7. Omar says:

    Porn addiction is rampant today among Muslims and others too. And shaytan uses the opportunity to whisper thoughts that make people feel unworthy of the mercy of Allah when they commit such acts and sins. Know my brother that Allah swt forgives all sins and no sin is tough on him. If you repeat your sin 1 million times, and come to Allah on the 1 millionth and 1 time with sincerety He will forgive you, and will forgive you, and will forgive you and will love you no matter how bad you think of yourself. If you take one small step towards Allah swt, He will take a big one towards you. So please never ever let Shaytain make you feel dispair in yourself or in Allah swt. Overcoming pornography is not an easy task but it is doable inshaAllah. It is a combination of prayer, purifying our soul and hear with Tazkiya, and in addition you need to re-frame your thoughts work on your brain as well to change your perceptions of women. One great website that I found extremely helpful is . It is a program to overcom sex and porn addiction that was designed by 3 psychologists, one of them being a previous-porn addict. I found it so far to be quite helpful and it is based on a lot of moden research in brain imaging and psychology so it’s very relevant.. i highly recommend it for those who want help getting over this poisonous addiction.

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