Comments on: PARENTS: WAKE UP!

By: Mike

Mike — Sun, 03 Apr 2011 07:29:28 +0000

I agree with all issues with you except kids running around in mosque. Small kids it happens. And it’s nothing. Do you have any children? keeping 3-5 year from running around is massive work and at that age its to introduce him/her to the mosque. I’m guessing you are convert or you would have that memory from a kid as well.. I ran about and played games with my little brother… In fact, I did it, I regret to say, till I was 13. Not so much running around, me and brother had developed a hand game we used play anyway that’s beside that point. Most kids around the ages 7-10 get reasonably well. Also you could have pointed it to the women; please talk at lower voice- people are praying. People start talking and then forget their in a mosque; we’all human.

But I agree with everything else. And most important is that establishment of salah. My friends who grew up in Orlando were pretty wild. But there parents made them strict in their salah and made sure they did it and on it time. They woke everybody up for fajr everyday and the whole family did salah. So even when they were wild; they always did their salah which eventually brought them back to the path.

My parents did the stories and they prayed all 5 but they did not enforce salah on me till later and I still struggle with it today. I will innshallah enforce salah on my kids early and make sure it become like breathing for them. Innshallah. Thats the best gift I can give my children.

By: moneba

moneba — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 10:33:14 +0000

A great article! im in the office rgtnw and just read few lines, im addin it into my favourite list to read it aftrwrds.But i just wish if only everyone could think about it and obey what Allah has said us to do.May Allah guide us all.Ameen

By: Mahin F Islam

Mahin F Islam — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 20:51:51 +0000

Allaahul Musta’an…reminds me of my community. Parents are sleeping in a state of ghaflah. One of the most shocking things to me is to see how reckless Muslims have become online by posting their sinful encounters in public avenues like Facebook. That is a proof that the parents are blind to what their kids are up to, and perhaps not even willing to check things out. However, like MR I haven’t heard or seen kids forced to wear cultural clothing to school.

By: me

me — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 05:30:35 +0000

in my high school there was 1 sister whose parents made her wear shalvarkameez… i graduated in 2004… not that long ago.

By: Abdul Sattar

Abdul Sattar — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 15:20:33 +0000

Salaam,

There is no doubt on how on point all the points made in this article are. One can feel the sincere concern emanating from it.

My question though: How many of the parents addressed will ever see this? How do we bring these points to them?

wa salaam
AS

By: MR

MR — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 13:04:25 +0000

I don’t see many parents like this in the US. Especially ones that force their children to wear traditional clothing to school. It’s 2007! The parents are wearing American clothing now.

By: Umm M

Umm M — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 04:26:51 +0000

Asalam Aleikum sister Maryam

May Allah swt reward you for such a beautiful reminder or should I call it a wake up call to all of us!!! I pray that we all try our best to improve on our weakness and work hard on making our community a better community (especially the mosque) and most of all may Allah swt help us get rid of our bad action/behaviors.

Our Lord! Let not our hearts deviate from the truth after you have guided us, and bestow upon us mercy from your grace. Verily you are the Giver of bounties without measure. (3:8)

Once again sr mariam Thank you!.. may Allah swt reward you.

By: Tarannum

Tarannum — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 02:45:55 +0000

Thank you soooooooooo much sister! We so much need articles like this one. I think there is very little advise and lectures on parenting. ImamSuhaib Webb’s lecture always have a little hint that has been very beneficial to me. Its the practical advise he gives like he once said” Mom’s read to your children”. That is something I can take home and implement. Unlike raise your children well which most people say but I don’t know what to do with that when I go home, coz everyone wants to be a good parent but they don’t know “how to”.
There was an excellent Parenting workshop given by Sister Naila in Raleigh,NC which I learnt emmensely from! She started off by yelling at us to switch off our cell phones and sit straight, no slouching and just when I was contemplating leaving the lecture(as I felt I deserved better), she stopped and asked” How does that feel, being spoken to like that”! That is how we speak to our kids everyday just becuse we are in a hurry and its easier to get them to listen that way!
Oh My GOD! That was an eyeopener! Being yelled at made me feel how my child must feel when I yell at him!! I immediately corrected myself and noticed my 4yr old wasn’t as difficult to handle anymore!!
If we can have more Parenting wrkshops, we would do alot better.
Eating habits are also a major thing! I once had a lady visit my house and she was forcing her 1yr old to eat because he was not a good eater! We need some Workshops on that too!

There is a book I just bought, hasn’t arrived in the mail yet but its written by Muhammad Alshareef called: DRIVE your child’s Islamic Education
The little I read about it seems really nice. You can purchase it for $19.95 at: http://discoveru.mfbiz.com/
go to powerworkshops.
Also Parenting Skills by Dr.Ekram and Mohamed R.Beshir is really good too.

What I have done for a couple of yrs with the kids is to go to the masjid once a week( or once a month when I am not that good), and clean. My son knows its his masjid and he feels free to clean what he sees dirty. I taught him in the beggining to clean the dust off the quran’s and off the shelves. He took off from there. When ever we are at the masjid we pick up any trash and throw it in the trash and I tell him how much Hasanat he just earned! Cleaning the masjid is our responsibility and I want kids to learn that.
I am trying to organize other young moms to have a playdate at the masjid where we will all clean and then play either before or after.

Jazak’Allahu Khairan