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		<title>By: Haq</title>
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		<dc:creator>Haq</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 29 Jun 2010 01:50:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wassalam Fuseina, May Allah reward you for sharing your advice, I greatly appreciate it. 
Your first concern about using &#039;you&#039; was exactly because of the reason you mentioned, it is directed at the reader. Sometimes things need to be clear so the nafs hears it loud and clear. 

Secondly, the conditional statement I made did not contradict the fact that Allah only knows what’s in the hearts of people. It is not because someone was unable to offer constructive criticism that I said they have a sick heart, but the condition was if they had no issues with saying someone the likes of Sh Abdullah bin Bayyah (h) was an innovator, if they had no problem in saying that, only then they had a sick heart. Also, it is ok to make general statements like this without applying it to specific people and this does not contradict the fact that Allah only knows what’s in people&#039;s hearts. So for example &quot;those who lie have sick hearts&quot;, this is fine and there is a Hadith to that effect. However, for someone to then say definitively &#039;X has a sick heart because they lie&#039; would be wrong since this would be overstepping the line and be contradiction to the fact that Allah only knows the secrets and states of people&#039;s hearts. Thus my statement did not contradict what I said about Allah&#039;s knowledge, nor was it said because someone was unable to offer constructive criticism but because they deemed someone very great in our times as an innovator. 

Hope this clarifies your concerns. 
Again, May Allah reward you for your feedback !
tc, 
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wassalam Fuseina, May Allah reward you for sharing your advice, I greatly appreciate it.<br />
Your first concern about using &#8216;you&#8217; was exactly because of the reason you mentioned, it is directed at the reader. Sometimes things need to be clear so the nafs hears it loud and clear. </p>
<p>Secondly, the conditional statement I made did not contradict the fact that Allah only knows what’s in the hearts of people. It is not because someone was unable to offer constructive criticism that I said they have a sick heart, but the condition was if they had no issues with saying someone the likes of Sh Abdullah bin Bayyah (h) was an innovator, if they had no problem in saying that, only then they had a sick heart. Also, it is ok to make general statements like this without applying it to specific people and this does not contradict the fact that Allah only knows what’s in people&#8217;s hearts. So for example &#8220;those who lie have sick hearts&#8221;, this is fine and there is a Hadith to that effect. However, for someone to then say definitively &#8216;X has a sick heart because they lie&#8217; would be wrong since this would be overstepping the line and be contradiction to the fact that Allah only knows the secrets and states of people&#8217;s hearts. Thus my statement did not contradict what I said about Allah&#8217;s knowledge, nor was it said because someone was unable to offer constructive criticism but because they deemed someone very great in our times as an innovator. </p>
<p>Hope this clarifies your concerns.<br />
Again, May Allah reward you for your feedback !<br />
tc,<br />
Wassalam</p>
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		<title>By: Marya</title>
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		<dc:creator>Marya</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 26 Jun 2010 20:42:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>jazaki Allahu khayran! This is wonderful advice.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>jazaki Allahu khayran! This is wonderful advice.</p>
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		<title>By: Fuseina</title>
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		<dc:creator>Fuseina</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Jun 2010 23:45:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Salaam alaikum,

Thank you for this timely article, I think it&#039;s important. Sometimes as Muslims we get very passionate about something and are unable to articulate our position clearly, or we get upset and let our tongues run unchecked. 

Can I make a suggestion for future articles of this nature? Everyone is different of course, but IMHO it&#039;s best to avoid using the words &quot;you&quot; and &quot;I&quot; in articles like this. For example instead of saying:
&quot;If you have no qualms about doing that then I suggest you quickly go and see a sheikh of tazkiya because you definitely have a sick heart.&quot;

maybe try saying
&quot;If one has no qualms about doing that then he/she should  go and see a sheikh of tazkiya because he/she definitely has a sick heart.&quot;

Sometimes using &quot;you&quot; in an article makes it seem as if the words are directed straight at the reader and may come off sounding harsh. 

Also, considering that the article says that only Allah knows what is concealed in the hearts, it doesn&#039;t seem fair to declare that someone &quot;definitely&quot; has a sick heart based on his/her inability to offer constructive criticism. Maybe I have misunderstood?

Just my thoughts.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Salaam alaikum,</p>
<p>Thank you for this timely article, I think it&#8217;s important. Sometimes as Muslims we get very passionate about something and are unable to articulate our position clearly, or we get upset and let our tongues run unchecked. </p>
<p>Can I make a suggestion for future articles of this nature? Everyone is different of course, but IMHO it&#8217;s best to avoid using the words &#8220;you&#8221; and &#8220;I&#8221; in articles like this. For example instead of saying:<br />
&#8220;If you have no qualms about doing that then I suggest you quickly go and see a sheikh of tazkiya because you definitely have a sick heart.&#8221;</p>
<p>maybe try saying<br />
&#8220;If one has no qualms about doing that then he/she should  go and see a sheikh of tazkiya because he/she definitely has a sick heart.&#8221;</p>
<p>Sometimes using &#8220;you&#8221; in an article makes it seem as if the words are directed straight at the reader and may come off sounding harsh. </p>
<p>Also, considering that the article says that only Allah knows what is concealed in the hearts, it doesn&#8217;t seem fair to declare that someone &#8220;definitely&#8221; has a sick heart based on his/her inability to offer constructive criticism. Maybe I have misunderstood?</p>
<p>Just my thoughts.</p>
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		<title>By: Hana</title>
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		<dc:creator>Hana</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Jun 2010 22:43:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>This is a great reminder. I especially liked your 4th point on the differences in opinion amongst scholars. It is believed that Prophet (pbuh) said that differences amongst scholars is a mercy.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is a great reminder. I especially liked your 4th point on the differences in opinion amongst scholars. It is believed that Prophet (pbuh) said that differences amongst scholars is a mercy.</p>
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