Comments on: Building Communities In Our Homes: Aysha Khanom

By: Ali

Ali — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 01:19:07 +0000

Assalamu Alaykum

Not to say that parents aren’t at fault here, I think we really need to chill with what we are saying. If you really think about it, is it their fault that they don’t know? Whose to say that their lifestyle back at home was no different then what the youth experience?

There is a reason for everything. People act in certain ways because of certain things or events that affected them. You have to keep in mind where people are coming from. That is no different then the typical uncle in the masjid who yells at kids because they are clean shaven, or look like a thug or a gangster.

The point that I’m trying to make here is that we need to look at the other side. Too often in our community, we judge people on the surface, and we don’t strive to think, “Why does he/she act this way.” It is true that it is the parents fault 99% of the time for the corruption of the child. But is it fair to say that:

“I charge parents with the greatest neglect on Earth. Most parents stand guilty as charged.”

With all due respect brother, when you become a parent, then you will see that it isn’t easy parenting. I’m not married, and I don’t have children. But I can see it in my parents eyes that they are really trying their best. Parents that have migrated to this country a lot of times aren’t the brightest of people.

Also remember that it is these parents that, by the blessing of Allah (SWT), have given you a home, food, education. It is these parents that after Allah (SWT) and then Rasul (S), we should love.

Assalamu Alaykum
Ali

By: Mechille Burke

Mechille Burke — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 19:05:33 +0000

In My opinion. Parents are Entirely to blame. Too many children have to “Raise Themselves” as both parents choose to work. We as Americans say that we are “forced” to work to make ends meet but that is so not true. We “choose” have all that life has to offer and by doing so, we neglect the most precious gift that Allah has blessed us with, Our Children!
I choose to have less and be with my children and I do not regret my decision. My children need me and it is MY, (not grandma or grandpa’s, not auntie or uncle’s, not the babysitters not brother and sisters) responsibility to be there. It is MINE as their mother.
I’ve often wondered how those parents that have what seems like everything to offer their children (everything materialistic) that is, is truly comforted and really feel as if they are doing whats best for their children.
Wereally need to consider and make the right choices for our childrens sake as they are the most precious gift that we will ever be given.

By: Hanafi

Hanafi — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 16:28:13 +0000

Parents are a big part to blame.

I work with our Muslim community in our city and just last Sunday we were debating with a fellow Aunty teacher at our Islamic School about the permissibility of dancing.

She wanted us to tell the youth that going to middle-school halloween dances is ok as long as the Muslim kids don’t touch the opposite gender.

Audubillah!

When parents have no backbone and give in to every whim of our society, we will continue to see what we see…a quick downward spiral in our childrens spiritual growth.

I charge parents with the greatest neglect on Earth. Most parents stand guilty as charged.

I rest my case.