That is the reason why so many Muslim women don’t rest at the hijab but go on to wear niqab or even cover their eyes as well. They want to be on the safe side.

That directly addresses my post above.

Our Shaykhs have always warned us that there’s no appeasing the sex drive, even Freud said as much. But few heed that warning. Even Muslims. We always rationalize around it by defining away what the sex drive exactly encompasses.

Well, believe it or not, simply attracting mates is addictive, like a drug.

http://esciencenews.com/articles/2008/10/03/singing.females.makes.male.birds.brains.happy

It stands to reason that it’s a feature in most sexual organisms, including humans.

It might be more prudent to deal with the entire phenomenon in women and men as an addiction.

Taken in that context, the hijab and the lowering of the gaze takes on a new sense of urgency. Even though it should always have. It’s not all in our heads, it’s not subjective. It affects everyone equally. People progress at their own pace, but willpower, determination, and the support of family or friends is needed. Otherwise people will flounder around in rationalization and justification like any addict. And with every “hit”, we progress further towards a possible point of no return. Just as the Shaykhs always said, albeit they use the taboo word “sin”.

This is something that each and everyone of us is probably affected by right now, even if we lower the gaze or wear hijab. Being attractive is desirable, it’s addicting. To be given attention, therefore, is also addictive because it’s a part of attracting. We’ve always known that too.

This is something that needs to be controlled and expressed through healthy means because it cannot be suppressed. I love the poem, and the story. But perhaps what’s needed in cases like these is an intervention. You can’t reason with addiction. It’s always an act of the heart or soul which brings upon the determination to rebel against harmful addictions and endure through the withdrawals of quitting.

The only problem with that is facing immediate and stiff resistance from the culture of our times which is already prepared and ready to swat down such attempts. Meaning it’s likely impossible for most people. And then you realize that we are prisoners, and our jail is very, very big.

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