Archive for the ‘Relationships’ category

Love in Islam: Valentine’s Day

Originally published in January 2011. I once dropped by the MSA at the University of Tulsa and heard a very disturbing story. A man from the area had left Islam and had recently given a talk at a local church about his apostasy. He claimed that there was no love in Islam. He felt that […]

Allah’s Aid

By Sakina Fletcher Something amazing happened to me on Wednesday. I was making du`a’ (supplication) for a very long time for something in particular. Then, out of the blue, along came this opportunity that was seemingly the answer to my prayer. It was garbed in a cloak of religiosity, presenting the pretence of happiness and Closeness […]

Polygamous Marriage

Question: I have been discussing marriage with a brother. He seems to have everything I’m looking for in a spouse, and even though we’re still getting to know each other better, feelings get deeper on both sides. The problem is, he doesn’t oppose polygamy, and said he could have more than one wife at a […]

Are You Like Her?

As I stood amongst millions of pilgrims from across the globe, I noticed a girl walk up to two elderly women sitting in front of Masjid al-Haraam. After greeting them both, I noticed her asking if the women may be interested in a bag. One of the two women accepted it eagerly, excitedly pulling out […]

Put Your Best Face Forward

Think back to the last time you caught a glimpse of yourself in the mirror when you were stressed.  Did you look approachable?  What message did you send to others around you with your distressed facial expressions?  What type of reaction did your family or co-workers have when they engaged with you while you were […]

If God Helps You, None Can Overcome You

Imam Suhaib Webb, Shaykha Muslema Purmul, and Shaykh Jamaal Diwan speak about our relationship with God at the MAS-ICNA 2012 Convention.

Leaving Islam

Question: We have a 25-year-old son who lives 3000 miles away from us.  We went to see him a couple of weeks ago and he informed us that he was no longer Muslim, that he does not believe in any religion. He believes that religions are one of the main reasons why there are so […]

The All Knowing, the Most Wise

Names of Allah Series:  Part I |Part II | Part III| Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII | Part XIII | Part XIV | Part XV | Part XVI | Part XVII | Part XVIII | Part XIX | Part XXI | Part XXII | Part XXIII |Part XXIV | Part XXV | Part XXVI | Part XXVII | Part XXVIII When learning Allah’s Names, it is important to understand that Allah subhanahu […]

The Need for Consultation (mushāwara)

In the name of Allah, the most merciful, the most kind. As Muslims, the best role model we have is of course, the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (peace be upon him). About him, Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) says: And indeed, you are of a great moral character. And as Aisha radi allahu `anha […]

Sunni-Shia Marriage

WebbStaff Note: This article does not represent a fiqhi (legal) ruling on the permissability of Sunni/Shia marriages. We encourage those who are dealing with an intra-religious or inter-religious union to seek advice from a qualified local religious scholar, as is mentioned below. This article is solely meant to represent a counseling perspective on how to deal with marriage when the two […]

Change of Heart

Excerpts from Al-Ikhlas By Dr. `Umar Sulayman Al-Ashqar (may Allah have mercy on him) | Translated by Naiyerah Kolkailah The Difficulty of Attaining Sincerity Having true sincerity is one of the most difficult things to achieve, and it is not only the common people who experience this; many scholars and righteous people struggle with it […]

Peace

Names of Allah Series:  Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII | Part XIII | Part XIV | Part XV | Part XVI | Part XVII | Part XVIII | Part XIX | Part XX | Part XXI | Part XXII | Part XXIII |Part XXIV | Part XXV | Part XXVI | Part XXVII | Part XXVIII “O Allah, you are the Source of Peace, and from […]

30 Something

Originally published in May 2007 The Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him) said, “Order your children to pray at seven and hit1 them [for not praying] at the age of ten.” In a recent comparative law class this hadith (narration) was addressed by one of our professors. He writes that the order here is not […]

Al Quddus – Absolutely Pure

Originally published in February 2009 Bismillah (In the Name of God) Al-Quddoos The One who is Very Pure, Absolutely Pure, He is far and above anything that does not befit Him. Al Quddos is from the root qaaf-daal-seen (ق د س), Al-Quddos has two meanings linguistically. It is on the structure of fu`ool, a form […]

Hook Up with Allah, Allah will Hook You Up

Originally published in April 2010 Part I | Part II Before I got married, I was given unsolicited advice on how to change in order to make myself “more appealing” to men. Sisters would voluntarily tell me I should change my dress style, personality and passion for activism in order not to scare them away. […]

Developing Awareness of Allah

By Abida Aura Mustafa In our journey through this dunya (world), as human beings we are all susceptible to sinning. However, we cannot guiltlessly justify the transgressions against our souls through shameful disobedience to Allah subhanahu wa ta ‘ala (exalted is He) by blaming it all on our state of forgetfulness. We need to realize […]

Stairway to Heaven

By Farah Abduz-Zahir Rhythms primordial soothing, inspiring, connecting to some hidden electron’s orbit. In some inner recess synapses dance Listening. Smile plays on lips Heart alight chest heaves and inhales blessed blessed air made fragrant with the sounds of this recitation suspended in sound waves that permeate every alveolar crevice giving life suffuses into blood […]

Learning How To Love The Right Way

By Omar Ead “And [yet], among the people are those who take other than Allah as equals [to Him]. They love them as they [should] love Allah. But those who believe are stronger in love for Allah. And if only they who have wronged would consider [that] when they see the punishment, [they will be […]

Al-Khaafidh ar-Raafi`—the Abaser, the Exalter

Names of Allah Series:  Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII | Part XIII | Part XIV | Part XV | Part XVI | Part XVII | Part XVIII | Part XIX | Part XX | Part XXI | Part XXII | Part XXIII |Part XXIV | Part XXV | Part XXVI | Part XXVII | Part XXVIII Al-Khaafidh (the Abaser) comes from the root kh-f-dh. It was used to refer […]

Help! My Wife Is Not Interested In Sex

Question: We are a young couple in our mid 20’s, both professionals, live alone, and have no children. I couldn’t wish for a better wife. She really is the whole package—intelligent, beautiful, and pious. We get along extremely well, share interests, and are always joking together. We genuinely are best friends, and I have absolutely […]