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Should I Consider Him for Marriage if I’m Not Attracted to Him?
Question: I am talking to a guy for marriage. I respect his character, and we align in all the important ways: faith, goals, family desires, etc. The problem is that my attraction towards him is very neutral. He is growing on me, but it is clear that he is developing feelings faster for me than [...]
Spiritual Relevance between the Original Text and Native Expression
Balancing Arabization Series: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X We are blessed with the finality of revelation preserved just as it was revealed to our beloved Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him). We should be attached to that message as much as possible. It should play a permeating role [...]
Marriage as Medicine
Abdullah Brothers’ Ramadan Masjid Tour: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII Jumah is the best day of the week. The Khateeb, Imam Suleiman, sent a purifying message at the Atlanta Masjid. He talked about the diseases of the heart. The more he spoke, the more I began to feel dirty, and dirtier, until I [...]
A Gift for the 27th Night: Ramadan Du`a’ with English Translation
Originally Posted on August 26th, 2011 By Shaykh Muhammad Jebril | Translated by Shazia Ahmad Many of us spend a good portion of our Ramadan nights with our hands raised in du`a’ (supplication), listening to the heart-felt words of our imam or shaykh calling on Allah in the witr prayer. For those of us who [...]
Be the Light
This Ramadan, Americans have faced some difficult trials: the shooting in the Aurora theater, the shooting in the Sikh temple, and the burnt down mosque in Missouri. A sister was also hit after taraweeh (extra night prayers) by a car in a hit-and-run as she was walking outside the parking lots around a local masjid; [...]
Raḩmah – Not Just ‘Mercy’
By Adnan Majid Bismilláhi r-Raḩmáni r-Raḩeem (In the Name of God, the Most Merciful, the Most Beneficent) As the Qur’an’s first verse, the Bismillah is our gateway to divine revelation and our companion when beginning any activity. Its first part defines a Muslim identity—to approach all matters “in the name of God.” And its ending, [...]
Proactive Women and the Prophet ﷺ
A group of women from the tribe of Ghifar approached the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (peace be upon him) to seek his permission to tend to the wounded during the battle of Khaybar. The Prophet ﷺ welcomed their request, giving them permission, stating, “By the blessings of God.” With this group of women was a young [...]
Problems with Attraction
Question: I have been trying to get married for the past few years, and the main problem I am facing is that whoever is brought to me as a prospect through my family or the community, I am just not physically attracted to them; and it is not because I am looking for a super [...]
Al-Kareem: the Generous
Names of Allah Series: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII | Part XIII | Part XIV | Part XV Kareem comes from the three-letter root ka-ra-ma. According to Lisan al-Arab, it encompasses all kinds of good, honor and virtues. As we will see, the concept of karam is more expansive than a superficial [...]
Co-ed Love for the Sake of Allah?
Reconstructing Beauty Series: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI A Clarification on Beautifying Gender Relations Within the Community Part 1 Preface At the outset I must say that it’s very hard to write just a single article on a topic that requires a lot of nuance. This is because anytime we deal [...]
What’s in a Name? The Names of God
Balancing Arabization Series: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX The purpose of this series is to first please our Beloved Master in highlighting some points which will strengthen our ability to integrate and properly spread His message here in America. This was done by broadening our horizons as to the [...]
“It doesn’t make any sense…”
By Ruzky Aliyar ‘Why do some things in life not work out the way you want them to?’ said the boy. ‘How do you know that was what you really wanted?’ asked the girl. The boy momentarily froze. This had never occurred to him. If he got what he wanted, it made him happy. If [...]
Child Abuse
Question: Your website gives a lot of info on domestic violence, defined as abuse between couples, but what about child abuse? Do you have any articles or resources on that? I really need them. I suffer from PTSD, ADD, depression, and anxiety because of intense physical abuse and emotional neglect. Can you please help me? [...]
Fasting: The Way to Face the Fitna
By Umm Kulthoom Imagine that you are given a test and told you should write an essay on topic X, and if you are unable to do so then write on topic Y. Yet, you then choose to go down a completely different path, or try nothing at all. Sounds silly, doesn’t it? Yet this [...]
When Things Are Lost
By Hena Din “O Allah! Grant me Your love, and the love of a person whom my loving him will be of benefit to me near You. O Allah! Whatever You have granted me from what I love, make it a means of strength for me to use in the way You love. O Allah! [...]
At-Tawwab Part II
Names of Allah Series: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII | Part XIII | Part XIV | Part XV Tawba (Repentance) does not need much. It does need for you to think that you are at a level in which you can face Him. He tells us in the Qur’an: “Indeed, Allah [...]
At-Tawwab Part I
Names of Allah Series: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII | Part XIII | Part XIV | Part XV Before moving on to this week’s Name, I wanted to make a request: I’d like you to read over and reflect on the other Names that we went through so far. Our purpose [...]
Ingratitude: The Other Kufr (Disbelief)
At ICNYU, Imam Khalid Latif discusses the importance of thanking others and expressing gratitude, along with the dangers of being ungrateful.
My Theories on Life
By Omaer Khan Muslims are weird. They talk differently, they dress differently, they think differently. What is wrong with them, and why can’t they be more like everyone else? I come from a secular family. My mother was a Hindu, and my father a Muslim. They fell in love, got married and gave birth to [...]
O God, Grant me a Friend
Let’s take a trip to a time long ago and extract wisdom from a wise man we all look up to and admire. Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) told us his story, not as a bed-time comfort, but as a means for us to extract life-long lessons. Let’s not overlook his story; let’s [...]
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