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Age Difference Between Spouses
Question: My question is in regard to age difference in marriage and understanding how realistic it is in the North American context. I am 28 years old and there is a particular brother I am interested in who has incredible character and whom I feel I really click with. The issue is that he is [...]
Eyes on the Prize
By Shahraiz Tabassam Throughout our lives, most of what we do is driven by the thought of consequence. More specifically, the benefits that something might bring about for us or the troubles it might repel. We do whatever we do, with the purpose of seeking some form of goodness in it. And yet, no matter [...]
Al-Wahhab: The Giver of Gifts
Names of Allah Series: Part I |Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI Sometimes things happen to us in our lives, and we do not know how to read events. We may suddenly lose all our money, and the first thing that we think of is, “What did I [...]
Guarding Our Tongues
By Mansoor Ahmed “And tell My servants to say that which is best. Indeed, Satan induces [dissension] among them. Indeed Satan is ever, to mankind, a clear enemy.” [Qur’an 17:53] How many times has the following happened to us? We’re driving down the highway and suddenly, a car swerves in front of us and cuts [...]
Want Your Marriage to Last? Get Premarital Counseling
I spent my time at a recent wedding listening to people’s marriage problems. As the guests danced the night away in celebration, I sat in the back of the hall talking about shattered dreams and unfulfilled expectations. Sometimes, we had to scream to hear each other over the music. There was the young woman whose [...]
The Good, the Bad, the Ugly: All from Allah
Could getting your dream job be bad for you? Is there a way that losing a loved one could be a blessing in disguise? Each and every event in our life is a test from Allah. This session will explore a world view based on God consciousness, and what we can do to make everything [...]
Righting a Wrong
I sped through the parking lot. I was late for my early morning final and I was willing to compromise speed limits, especially when there were only a handful of cars parked. I neared a parking spot and saw another person getting out of their car. As I parked and started walking, I realized it [...]
My Wife is Always Angry
Question: My wife and I are newly married, and I feel she is always angry with me. During the planning of the wedding, I thought her moodiness was due to the stress of the wedding. However, her frustration has continued into our marriage. The smallest of things that I say or do, which in my [...]
Love the Libas (Clothing)
By Sabeen Mansoori The beauty of this perfect deen (way of life) that Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) has blessed us with is in its details. There is an intricate system of protection for the personal space of the believing man and the believing woman. There are additional safeguards built into an Islamic [...]
A Reflection on Aging Parents
Like most children, I thought my parents were superheroes. My mom could open the tightest of jars and could carry us around while she finished her chores. My dad could come back from a long business trip and still have the strength to play and take care of all 6 of us. I was in [...]
The Cancer Patient
By Robin Imran Mahmud I am currently interning at a hospital in my community. My role is to help the nurses look after their patients’ needs. My tasks include changing beds, feeding patients, discharging patients, and helping nurses clean the bodies of patients who are in the last stages of their lives. One day as I was checking on patients [...]
I Can’t Get in the Mood with my Husband
Question: I have a serious problem and was hoping you could offer some advice. I have been married for three months, meaning we just had the wedding and moved in together three months ago. Prior to that, I had my nikkah (religious marriage ceremony) for one year. The marriage was not consummated then, and we [...]
Seeking The Guide
Names of Allah Series: Part I |Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI Allah subhanahu wa ta`la (exalted is He) has given Himself Names and attributes (siffat) so that we can know Him. What is most amazing and beautiful about Allah’s Names is that through them, you can see [...]
The Missing Ingredients: Compassion and Gentleness
I was attending the Friday prayer at a certain mosque once. In the back corner, I noticed two teenage girls sitting side by side, whispering and giggling throughout most of the khutbah (sermon). It was slightly distracting, but nobody made a fuss about it—except one older woman who was eyeing them with anger the entire [...]
Distance in Marriage
Question: I have been married for 15 years and now have 2 children. Generally my marriage has been good. My husband and I are both practicing Muslims and we are raising our children with Islam. My husband is helpful with our children, dropping them off at school, helping with homework, and I take care of [...]
My Husband Has Not Consummated Our Marriage
Question: My husband and I have been married for two and a half years now, but we have not yet consummated our marriage. He does not have a physical problem. He tells me the reason is because of school and family pressure, but I just don’t know if that’s true. This issue has taken a [...]
Tensions at Cultural Crossroads
by Ali Shareef As the year 2011 passes its halfway mark, perhaps it is time to reflect on the events of the past 2 years. Specifically, events that exposed a festering tension between two segments of the American population: Muslims and the rest of the U.S. citizenship. The year 2010 witnessed the hotly debated issue [...]
Making Rain
by Shahraiz Tabassam As I walked out onto the porch, I found Rizma strolling in the front lawn, surveying the plants that surrounded her. She looked on, and I could tell that she had already been doing this for some time now and, by the looks of it, was clearly bored. It was the start [...]
From Facebook to God’s Book
Many of us have an addictive relationship with Facebook. We check our accounts compulsively, multiple times a day. It is sometimes the last thing many of us do before we sleep and the first thing we do when we wake up; time flies when we’re on it, and it is obsessive. Yet how many of [...]
The Power of Words
It had been an exceptionally hard day for me, about 3 years ago. Everything seemed to be out of place and one thing after another was going wrong. I headed over to the University Center to get a bite to eat—maybe food would calm my nerves. At the time, I had been wearing niqab (the [...]
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