Archive for the ‘Relationships’ category
Moving Out
Question: I am a 30 year old Muslim woman who lives with my family. Alhamdulilah (praise be to God) I have a loving and wonderful home, but I am ready to move out and live independently. I am looking for an apartment to rent on my own. The problem is, my father would never let [...]
Returning to Allah
Excerpts from Tareeq al-Hijratein wa Bab as-Sa`adatein by Imam ibn-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah Abridged and translated1 by Huda Shaka and Naiyerah Kolkailah Inaba, turning to and returning to Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He), is a concept often repeated and enjoined in the Qur’an. The Exalted says, “And return [in repentance] to your Lord and submit [...]
Al-Nur—Light
Names of Allah Series: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII | Part XIII | Part XIV | Part XV “Allah is the Light of the heavens and the earth. The example of His light is like a niche within which is a lamp, the lamp is within glass, the glass as if [...]
Genuine Surrender: Lessons from Labour
By Umm Sephora We learn many of life’s most profound lessons through paradox. Here we are – human beings with a soul that yearns for the eternal and lasting, yet living in a world of the temporal and ephemeral. Our hearts seek spiritual highs, yet all the while are encased within bodies which have physical [...]
Love in Islam: Valentine’s Day
Originally published in January 2011. I once dropped by the MSA at the University of Tulsa and heard a very disturbing story. A man from the area had left Islam and had recently given a talk at a local church about his apostasy. He claimed that there was no love in Islam. He felt that [...]
Allah’s Aid
By Sakina Fletcher Something amazing happened to me on Wednesday. I was making du`a’ (supplication) for a very long time for something in particular. Then, out of the blue, along came this opportunity that was seemingly the answer to my prayer. It was garbed in a cloak of religiosity, presenting the pretence of happiness and Closeness [...]
Polygamous Marriage
Question: I have been discussing marriage with a brother. He seems to have everything I’m looking for in a spouse, and even though we’re still getting to know each other better, feelings get deeper on both sides. The problem is, he doesn’t oppose polygamy, and said he could have more than one wife at a [...]
Are You Like Her?
As I stood amongst millions of pilgrims from across the globe, I noticed a girl walk up to two elderly women sitting in front of Masjid al-Haraam. After greeting them both, I noticed her asking if the women may be interested in a bag. One of the two women accepted it eagerly, excitedly pulling out [...]
Put Your Best Face Forward
Think back to the last time you caught a glimpse of yourself in the mirror when you were stressed. Did you look approachable? What message did you send to others around you with your distressed facial expressions? What type of reaction did your family or co-workers have when they engaged with you while you were [...]
If God Helps You, None Can Overcome You
Imam Suhaib Webb, Shaykha Muslema Purmul, and Shaykh Jamaal Diwan speak about our relationship with God at the MAS-ICNA 2012 Convention.
Leaving Islam
Question: We have a 25-year-old son who lives 3000 miles away from us. We went to see him a couple of weeks ago and he informed us that he was no longer Muslim, that he does not believe in any religion. He believes that religions are one of the main reasons why there are so [...]
The All Knowing, the Most Wise
Names of Allah Series: Part I |Part II | Part III| Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII | Part XIII | Part XIV | Part XV When learning Allah’s Names, it is important to understand that Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) is not just one attribute at a time. Just like if we describe our [...]
The Need for Consultation (mushāwara)
In the name of Allah, the most merciful, the most kind. As Muslims, the best role model we have is of course, the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (peace be upon him). About him, Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) says: And indeed, you are of a great moral character. And as Aisha radi allahu `anha [...]
Sunni-Shia Marriage
WebbStaff Note: This article does not represent a fiqhi (legal) ruling on the permissability of Sunni/Shia marriages. We encourage those who are dealing with an intra-religious or inter-religious union to seek advice from a qualified local religious scholar, as is mentioned below. This article is solely meant to represent a counseling perspective on how to deal with marriage when the two [...]
Change of Heart
Excerpts from Al-Ikhlas By Dr. `Umar Sulayman Al-Ashqar (may Allah have mercy on him) | Translated by Naiyerah Kolkailah The Difficulty of Attaining Sincerity Having true sincerity is one of the most difficult things to achieve, and it is not only the common people who experience this; many scholars and righteous people struggle with it [...]
Peace
Names of Allah Series: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII | Part XIII | Part XIV | Part XV “O Allah, you are the Source of Peace, and from You is peace, blessed are You O Possessor of Glory and Honor.” [Muslim] We all seek peace in some way. We work [...]
30 Something
Originally published in May 2007 The Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him) said, “Order your children to pray at seven and hit1 them [for not praying] at the age of ten.” In a recent comparative law class this hadith (narration) was addressed by one of our professors. He writes that the order here is not [...]
Al Quddus – Absolutely Pure
Originally published in February 2009 Bismillah (In the Name of God) Al-Quddoos The One who is Very Pure, Absolutely Pure, He is far and above anything that does not befit Him. Al Quddos is from the root qaaf-daal-seen (ق د س), Al-Quddos has two meanings linguistically. It is on the structure of fu`ool, a form [...]
Hook Up with Allah, Allah will Hook You Up
Originally published in April 2010 Before I got married, I was given unsolicited advice on how to change in order to make myself “more appealing” to men. Sisters would voluntarily tell me I should change my dress style, personality and passion for activism in order not to scare them away. I was frustrated. Since when [...]
Developing Awareness of Allah
By Abida Aura Mustafa In our journey through this dunya (world), as human beings we are all susceptible to sinning. However, we cannot guiltlessly justify the transgressions against our souls through shameful disobedience to Allah subhanahu wa ta ‘ala (exalted is He) by blaming it all on our state of forgetfulness. We need to realize [...]
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