Archive for the ‘Spouse’ category

Divorce Under Duress?

The Question: There were some recent problems between my wife and I. Due to a physical threat from one of her family members, I was forced to divorce her. I love her greatly and I did not intend to divorce her. I was under duress and direct physical threat. Is the divorce valid? The Answer: […]

A Successful Marriage: The Missing Link

“And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between you; verily, in that are signs for people who reflect.” (Qur’an, 30:21) We’ve all read this verse on countless marriage announcements. But how many have […]

Question Regarding Marital Rape

Question: Is marital rape allowed in Islam? Answer: As salaamu alaykum, Thank you for asking this important question which has come to the fore in recent times, and which has been the cause of confusion for many people. Here are some important points to take into consideration when learning about this issue: It is absolutely […]

Family Values

Becoming the Servants of the Most Merciful Series Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX | Part X | Part XI | Part XII | Part XIII | Part XIV | Part XV People have different notions of defining contentment when it comes to their family. Many people feel […]

Lying to Your Husband to Set Him Right?

Answered by Dr. `Ali Goma | Translated by Naiyerah Kolkailah Question: My husband used to drink alcohol, and I am someone who prays alhamdulillah (praise be to Allah). I was very concerned and unsure of what to do, so I lied to him, and I hope that Allah forgives me. I told him: ‘I dreamt of […]

50 Things You Need to Know About Marital Relationships

Excerpted from Al Maghrib Institute’s “Fiqh of Love” seminar with Shaykh Waleed Basyouni. Great relationships don’t just happen; they are created. You have to work at it. If your job takes all of your best energy, your marriage will suffer. One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is your own happiness. It […]

Escaping the Worst of Prisons

When Sara met Ahmed, she immediately knew. He was everything she had always dreamed of. Meeting him was like watching the sun rise in the middle of a snowstorm. His warmth melted the cold. But soon admiration turned to worship. Before she could understand what had happened, Sara had become a prisoner. She became a […]

Musa & Safurah: a Courtship, a Romance

by Hena Zuberi I am from Generation X. Raised on ‘Pretty in Pink’ and Sweet Dreams romance novels, some of my friends read Mills and Boons, others raved about the unattainable love in the Thorn birds; but I preferred the grand passion of Wuthering Heights. That was my idea of a romance – filling each […]

How You Say It Matters!

The Powerful Effect of XYZ Statements on Your Relationships Part I | Part II The other day as I was leaving work, I overheard a woman talking on the phone. She was standing at the front of the bus talking loudly to her mother who was apparently upset about some comments her daughter had made […]

Hurt by Others: How to Cope and Heal

When I was growing up, the world was a perfect place. The only problem was, that it wasn’t. I used to believe that everything could always be ‘fair’. To me that meant no one should ever be wronged, and if they were, justice must be served. I fought hard for the way I believed things […]

Love is in the Air

Love is in the air! …Or at least that’s what advertisers want you to think this month. While it’s nice to express your love often, Valentine’s Day comes once a year, leaving you no choice but to do so or risk seeming heartless. For the owners of floral boutiques and chocolate shops, Eid comes in […]

The Woman at the Coffee Shop

He looked straight at her as he called her profane names, loud enough for everyone to hear. “Dude, you’re embarrassing me! Stop. Besides, I don’t think she is Muslim,” I said. “She is Palestinian, isn’t she? What is she doing? Going out with a white guy…” he said conspicuously in Arabic, adding in several more […]

Love in Islam

Valentine’s Day I once dropped by the MSA at the University of Tulsa and heard a very disturbing story. A man from the area had left Islam and had recently given a talk at a local church about his apostasy. He claimed that there was no love in Islam. He felt that the Islamic way […]

Successful Marriages: Part IV

Lecture by Suhaib Webb | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV Problem Number Four: Getting Married and Leaving the Community The fourth is falling into the trap of being a young professional and leaving the community.  Before we get married we’re active. One brother asked one time, […]

Successful Marriages: Part III

Lecture by Suhaib Webb | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Read Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV Problem Number Two: Marriage Makes Me Happy The second major problem that people fall into – and there was a fifteen year study done in the West [on this] – 95% of people said, “[I […]

Successful Marriages: Part II

Lecture by Suhaib Webb | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV Issue Number One: Let’s Copy My Parents The first pitfall that people recognized is: “We’re going to do it like my family did it. We’re going to do it like my mother and father did it.”  And she’s […]

Successful Marriages: Part I

Lecture by Suhaib Webb  | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV We begin in the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (the Exalted and Glorified) to send His Peace and Blessings upon the Prophet salla Allahu `alayhi wa sallam (may […]

Question of the Week: “Why are Muslims Divorcing?”

Asalamu alaykum, With divorce reaching an abnormally high rate amongst Muslims, let us take some time out to ask why? What are your thoughts? Why are Muslims divorcing and what can be done to stop the bleeding at an individual and community level? Suhaib Webb