Archive for the ‘Marriage & Family’ category

How to Talk to Our Children about 9/11

Do you know what happened on 9/11? Muslims who were coming of age ten years ago are well aware and have inevitably learned of the events of 9/11 and how to cope with the ramifications of that fateful day. Yet, the children who were barely infants in our tender arms on 9/11 have entered this […]

Nurturing Spirituality in Children During Ramadan

Ramadan is a special time of the year when Muslim parents, especially in the West, want children to feel excited about its arrival. It is common in Muslim homes to find a festive environment that demonstrates just what a celebratory month it is. Welcoming Ramadan with sparkly decorations in our homes and the anticipation of […]

Question on Intercourse

Question: I have a very sensitive question.  I would like to know if oral sex is permitted or whetherit is haram (impermissible) in Islam.  Could you tell me what the ruling is? Answer: No problem; “Allah is not shy of the truth” (Bukhari). Oral sex is permissible between husband and wife as long as neither […]

Abused Men

The idea that a man could be abused seems unimaginable to many. Yet it is a reality. Abuse of men is socially minimized because people do not know enough about the cycle of abuse. But domestic violence against men, and abusive relationships of all types, occurs across all ethnic, racial, religious and socio-economic levels. The […]

Hurting Homes

Abuse is a topic that many Muslims shy away from because it is uncomfortable to tackle an issue that is complex and appears unsolvable.  Many times when I address the topic of marriage, I clarify that the strategies I suggest do not apply to abusive relationships. Yet, what I have learned is that people who […]

Why?

By Sabeen Mansoori We have often heard from our parents stories from their childhood that seem completely fantastic to us. The endless number of miles that they had to walk to get to school or the fact that they were given one pencil to use for the entire year and the unbelievable trouble that they […]

People leave each other. But do they return?

Why Do People Have to Leave Each Other? Part I | Part II Leaving is hard. Losing is harder. So a few weeks ago I asked the question, ‘why do people have to leave each other?’ The answer took me into some of my life’s deepest realizations and struggles. But it has also led me […]

Mother, Not Martyr

Being a mother is certainly not easy. As Allah describes in the Qur’an, “His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years.” (31:14). These weaknesses are often referred to as pregnancy, birthing and nursing. But that is just the beginning. Mothers are in the daily “trenches” of […]

Can I Celebrate Mother’s Day?

Answered by Dar al-Ifta al-Masriyyah The Question Can I Celebrate Mother’s Day? The Answer Man is the creation of Allah. Allah Most High has honored man for his humanity: He molded him with His own hands, breathed into them from His Spirit, ordered the angels prostrate to him, and expelled Satan from His mercy because […]

Inspiring our Children to Pray

Compiled by Reem Rahman A couple months ago, Imam Suhaib posted a question on Facebook asking how to encourage one’s child to pray. Alhamdullilah (praise be to God), there were many great responses. We wanted to share some of the wonderful advice and stories shared by fellow readers. May our hearts always be open to beneficial advice. *Responses abridged and […]

Why do people have to leave each other?

Why Do People Have to Leave Each Other? Part I | Part II When I was 17 years old, I had a dream. I dreamt that I was sitting inside a masjid and a little girl walked up to ask me a question. She asked me: “Why do people have to leave each other?” The question […]

16 Lessons From 6-Month-Old Parents

By Marwa Aly and Ahmed Eid 1. You don’t need a ridiculous amount of money saved in order to have a child. Allah opened many doors for us right after our daughter was born; this has been observed by many other parents as well. 2. It is not socially acceptable to describe the size or […]

Muslims And Cyber Relationships

Islam and the Internet Series: Intro | Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IV A recent study by match.com found that 1 in 6 couples that got married in 2010 met on a matchmaking site. This is not surprising considering […]

The Muslim Family Response to Hatred

by Kari Ansari Last month, an annual fundraiser was held in Yorba Linda, California to raise money for combating homelessness and domestic abuse in the local community. Sounds great, right? It’s something that Christians, Jews and other faith groups do frequently, except this event happened to have been organized by Muslims. Families who had given […]

6 Things NOT to Say to Someone Who is Divorced

By Amal Killawi and Zarinah Nadir Divorce is never easy. But it’s the reality for 50% of American couples and 31% of American Muslim couples.  With these statistics, you’re likely to have friends or know people in your community who have been divorced or are currently experiencing a divorce. Divorce is often a time of […]

Intercultural & Interfaith Marriages

Muslims in America represent diverse ethnic and racial backgrounds and this has lead to an increase in intercultural and interfaith marriages. Despite the taboo amongst parents in the Muslim community of marrying “outside” of one’s race, culture or religion, there is an emerging trend of young couples marrying based solely on religion, disregarding culture or […]

Content Ever After

by Dr. Imad Bayoun Those who are involved in family counseling, or facing family problems themselves, will notice some recurrent complaints:  “She doesn’t like to…”,“He doesn’t spend enough time in…” and so forth. While often these problems are real, sometimes these complaints can be translated as: “She’s not like sister X”, “He doesn’t treat me […]

In-Law Interference

Part I | Part II Marriage is the bringing together of two families. However, many couples struggle with exactly how to mesh two families together while maintaining their independence as a couple.  When a couple gets married, an extended family is created as well as the beginnings of a new family that the couple will […]

Defining Manhood: The Facade of Being “Hard”

Last week my sister called.  She has been studying abroad since summer began, so naturally I was thrilled to hear from her.  After hearing how she was, I asked about her new home.  With her living in a Muslim country, I felt assured that everything would be fine.  For that reason, what she described next […]

In-Law Interference

Part I | Part II Ask a Muslim couple to give you a challenge in their relationship and many will say “family interference.”  The stress that family and in-law interference brings to a marriage can be so overwhelming that for some couples it can lead to divorce.  In a recent study by Sound Vision, it […]