Archive for the ‘Marriage & Family’ category

And You Thought You Were Ready?!

Baby Steps to Becoming a Master Parent By Wadud Hassan  [An experienced educational management professional, Br. Wadud lives in Dallas, Texas with his wife and twin daughters. He can be reached at whassan[at]furqaan.org] A father cannot give a better gift to his son than a good education. (Tirmidhi) After being married for 10 years and then a […]

Do I Tell My Parents That I Don’t Want to Marry My Cousin?

Question: I am engaged, but it has not brought any of the anticipated excitement, anxiousness, nor eagerness. I have had growing pessimism, doubts, and concerns because my parents have asked for my cousin’s hand in marriage. I did oblige initially, but the more I think about my future with her, I begin to have more […]

Every 2 Minutes: Sexual Violence

Imam Khalid Latif talks about sexual violence in his khutbah (sermon) at ICNYU.

Asking for Mercy

Mercy. Allah’s Mercy. It’s what we crave. It’s what we pray for. It’s the only means for getting into Paradise. We know that we are constantly sinning and that without His Mercy, none of these sins will be forgiven. We know that without His Mercy, not only will our entire lives be filled with misery, […]

Lessons From a Newborn and Mom

By Ismahan Abdullahi One of life’s greatest miracles and gifts bestowed upon us is the blessing of life itself, especially when the life is in the form of a small bundle of joy who welcomes her new surroundings with a beautiful cry that calms the hearts of her parents and the medical staff surrounding her, […]

On The Threshold Of Adulthood

Question: I have twins who will be graduating from high school this year, and I feel like I am fighting with them all the time about the choices they are making. I don’t like the friends they hang out with, and I don’t think they are mature enough to make the right choices. Their major […]

Dwell In Tranquility

Dwell in Tranquility: an Islamic Roadmap to the Vibrant Marriage is aimed at helping Muslims—at any stage in the marriage process— to understand themselves and what they want in their marriage in order to build a strong and loving partnership. The following is an interview with the author, Kamal Shaarawy, who is also the founder […]

Dirty Talk

Question: My question is regarding sexual activity between a husband and wife in Islam. I had read somewhere that it’s permissible to use certain language (for example, cursing/dirty talk/so-called “bad words”) during sex if that’s something they like. Is this true or not? Answer: During sexual activity, couples will often exchange loving words with each […]

Intercultural Marriages: A Qur’anic Reflection

By Eyad Alnaslah In Islam, the concept of diversity and tolerance is found many times in the Qur’an and hadith (records of the words of the Prophet ﷺ, peace be upon him). We find diversity in all our mosques and Islamic functions, with Muslims from different parts of the world, and of different cultures and […]

My Husband Misunderstands My Mood Swings

Question: I have a question about the moods and hormones of women and how men should handle them. I feel depressed sometimes without reason or I feel low, but my husband gets angry with me. Then if I complain a bit or get angry with him that he isn’t giving me enough time, he gets […]

Secrets From My Husband’s Past

Question: My husband had girlfriends in the past which he refuses to talk to me about. During our engagement, he made it clear that he wasn’t an angel in the past, but that he’s a different man now and he doesn’t like to talk about his past since it is between him and Allah. He […]

Be my Valentine

Imam John ‘Yahya’ Ederer talks about love between husbands and wives by illustrating the married life of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (peace be upon him) as explained in the Sunnah. Imam Yahya talks about the Islamic ideal of Love with the ideas currently subscribed to our secular American Society. Should Muslims celebrate Valentine’s Day? MAS Khuthbah – […]

Age Difference Between Spouses

Question: My question is in regard to age difference in marriage and understanding how realistic it is in the North American context. I am 28 years old and there is a particular brother I am interested in who has incredible character and whom I feel I really click with. The issue is that he is […]

My Wife is Always Angry

Question: My wife and I are newly married, and I feel she is always angry with me.  During the planning of the wedding, I thought her moodiness was due to the stress of the wedding. However, her frustration has continued into our marriage. The smallest of things that I say or do, which in my […]

Love the Libas (Clothing)

By Sabeen Mansoori The beauty of this perfect deen (way of life) that Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) has blessed us with is in its details. There is an intricate system of protection for the personal space of the believing man and the believing woman. There are additional safeguards built into an Islamic […]

A Reflection on Aging Parents

Like most children, I thought my parents were superheroes. My mom could open the tightest of jars and could carry us around while she finished her chores. My dad could come back from a long business trip and still have the strength to play and take care of all 6 of us. I was in […]

The Cancer Patient

By Robin Imran Mahmud I am currently interning at a hospital in my community. My role is to help the nurses look after their patients’ needs. My tasks include changing beds, feeding patients, discharging patients, and helping nurses clean the bodies of patients who are in the last stages of their lives. One day as I was checking on patients […]

I Can’t Get in the Mood with my Husband

Question: I have a serious problem and was hoping you could offer some advice. I have been married for three months, meaning we just had the wedding and moved in together three months ago. Prior to that, I had my nikkah (religious marriage ceremony) for one year.  The marriage was not consummated then, and we […]

Distance in Marriage

Question: I have been married for 15 years and now have 2 children. Generally my marriage has been good. My husband and I are both practicing Muslims and we are raising our children with Islam. My husband is helpful with our children, dropping them off at school, helping with homework, and I take care of […]

My Husband Has Not Consummated Our Marriage

Question: My husband and I have been married for two and a half years now, but we have not yet consummated our marriage.  He does not have a physical problem. He tells me the reason is because of school and family pressure, but I just don’t know if that’s true.  This issue has taken a […]