Archive for the ‘Marriage & Family’ category

Distance in Marriage

Question: I have been married for 15 years and now have 2 children. Generally my marriage has been good. My husband and I are both practicing Muslims and we are raising our children with Islam. My husband is helpful with our children, dropping them off at school, helping with homework, and I take care of […]

My Husband Has Not Consummated Our Marriage

Question: My husband and I have been married for two and a half years now, but we have not yet consummated our marriage.  He does not have a physical problem. He tells me the reason is because of school and family pressure, but I just don’t know if that’s true.  This issue has taken a […]

Making Rain

by Shahraiz Tabassam As I walked out onto the porch, I found Rizma strolling in the front lawn, surveying the plants that surrounded her. She looked on, and I could tell that she had already been doing this for some time now and, by the looks of it, was clearly bored. It was the start […]

Reality Check: Domestic Violence and Muslim Families

Salma Abugideiri is a licensed professional counselor who specializes in trauma and couples therapy.  She is also the co-director of the Peaceful Families Project, an organization devoted to ending domestic violence in Muslim families. Salma develops and conducts awareness workshops about domestic violence for Muslim leaders and communities, and trainings for people who work with […]

Single Parenting

Parenting is a tough job, but single parenting is an even tougher challenge, as one parent tries to fulfill the roles of both a mother and a father to their child.  Single parenting is highly demanding physically, emotionally and financially.   There can be numerous reasons and circumstances for single parenting, such as divorce, a spouse […]

Two way Streets

By Ahmed Zaafran A short while ago, my wife and I took our two kids to the local public library. Going to the library today is much different than it was when I was a child.  I remember the distinct smell of old books and how their pages seemed to coalesce into a never-ending narrative. […]

Wifehood and Motherhood are Not the Only Ways to Paradise

“Why are you majoring in that field?” I asked a sister in college. She sighed, “To be honest, I just want to get married. I don’t really care about what I’m studying right now. I’m just waiting to get hitched so I can be a wife and a mother.” “It’s awesome that she wants to […]

Thoughts on Parenting

by AbdelRahman Mussa This article is a culmination of some of my thoughts about parenting, prompted by recent conversations. It is intended for both parents and grown adults. If you’re not a parent, you might find that some of what you will read gives you insight—insight that will allow you to change your perceptions of […]

How to Talk to Our Children about 9/11

Do you know what happened on 9/11? Muslims who were coming of age ten years ago are well aware and have inevitably learned of the events of 9/11 and how to cope with the ramifications of that fateful day. Yet, the children who were barely infants in our tender arms on 9/11 have entered this […]

Nurturing Spirituality in Children During Ramadan

Ramadan is a special time of the year when Muslim parents, especially in the West, want children to feel excited about its arrival. It is common in Muslim homes to find a festive environment that demonstrates just what a celebratory month it is. Welcoming Ramadan with sparkly decorations in our homes and the anticipation of […]

Question on Intercourse

Question: I have a very sensitive question.  I would like to know if oral sex is permitted or whetherit is haram (impermissible) in Islam.  Could you tell me what the ruling is? Answer: No problem; “Allah is not shy of the truth” (Bukhari). Oral sex is permissible between husband and wife as long as neither […]

Abused Men

The idea that a man could be abused seems unimaginable to many. Yet it is a reality. Abuse of men is socially minimized because people do not know enough about the cycle of abuse. But domestic violence against men, and abusive relationships of all types, occurs across all ethnic, racial, religious and socio-economic levels. The […]

Hurting Homes

Abuse is a topic that many Muslims shy away from because it is uncomfortable to tackle an issue that is complex and appears unsolvable.  Many times when I address the topic of marriage, I clarify that the strategies I suggest do not apply to abusive relationships. Yet, what I have learned is that people who […]

Why?

By Sabeen Mansoori We have often heard from our parents stories from their childhood that seem completely fantastic to us. The endless number of miles that they had to walk to get to school or the fact that they were given one pencil to use for the entire year and the unbelievable trouble that they […]

People leave each other. But do they return?

Why Do People Have to Leave Each Other? Part I | Part II Leaving is hard. Losing is harder. So a few weeks ago I asked the question, ‘why do people have to leave each other?’ The answer took me into some of my life’s deepest realizations and struggles. But it has also led me […]

Mother, Not Martyr

Being a mother is certainly not easy. As Allah describes in the Qur’an, “His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years.” (31:14). These weaknesses are often referred to as pregnancy, birthing and nursing. But that is just the beginning. Mothers are in the daily “trenches” of […]

Can I Celebrate Mother’s Day?

Answered by Dar al-Ifta al-Masriyyah The Question Can I Celebrate Mother’s Day? The Answer Man is the creation of Allah. Allah Most High has honored man for his humanity: He molded him with His own hands, breathed into them from His Spirit, ordered the angels prostrate to him, and expelled Satan from His mercy because […]

Inspiring our Children to Pray

Compiled by Reem Rahman A couple months ago, Imam Suhaib posted a question on Facebook asking how to encourage one’s child to pray. Alhamdullilah (praise be to God), there were many great responses. We wanted to share some of the wonderful advice and stories shared by fellow readers. May our hearts always be open to beneficial advice. *Responses abridged and […]

Why do people have to leave each other?

Why Do People Have to Leave Each Other? Part I | Part II When I was 17 years old, I had a dream. I dreamt that I was sitting inside a masjid and a little girl walked up to ask me a question. She asked me: “Why do people have to leave each other?” The question […]

16 Lessons From 6-Month-Old Parents

By Marwa Aly and Ahmed Eid 1. You don’t need a ridiculous amount of money saved in order to have a child. Allah opened many doors for us right after our daughter was born; this has been observed by many other parents as well. 2. It is not socially acceptable to describe the size or […]