Archive for the ‘Marriage & Family’ category
Battling Temptation (Part II)
By Amina Atwel Battling Temptation: Part I | Part II You might think only men suffer from Ahmed’s problem (Part I). But let me tell you about Mona. She was a very bright, energetic sister in her mid-20s—a graduate student working part-time and volunteering regularly at the local masjid and several Islamic organizations. She led [...]
Unplug and Re-connect: How to Keep Families Connected During Technology Time-Outs
At the risk of aging myself, in the 90’s, the term “unplugged” referred to a show where artists musically entertained a small audience without the aid of electric instruments. These days however, when families are encouraged to go “unplugged” they are persuaded to spend time together free of “electronic distractions” or as my older brother, [...]
Should I Consider Him for Marriage if I’m Not Attracted to Him?
Question: I am talking to a guy for marriage. I respect his character, and we align in all the important ways: faith, goals, family desires, etc. The problem is that my attraction towards him is very neutral. He is growing on me, but it is clear that he is developing feelings faster for me than [...]
Marriage as Medicine
Abdullah Brothers’ Ramadan Masjid Tour: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII Jumah is the best day of the week. The Khateeb, Imam Suleiman, sent a purifying message at the Atlanta Masjid. He talked about the diseases of the heart. The more he spoke, the more I began to feel dirty, and dirtier, until I [...]
Problems with Attraction
Question: I have been trying to get married for the past few years, and the main problem I am facing is that whoever is brought to me as a prospect through my family or the community, I am just not physically attracted to them; and it is not because I am looking for a super [...]
Child Abuse
Question: Your website gives a lot of info on domestic violence, defined as abuse between couples, but what about child abuse? Do you have any articles or resources on that? I really need them. I suffer from PTSD, ADD, depression, and anxiety because of intense physical abuse and emotional neglect. Can you please help me? [...]
Loneliness
Question: I was engaged to be married, but one day my fiancé changed like the weather, and chose to marry another woman. I have been broken, humiliated, and abandoned. Now, every time I try to move forward with other relationships, I face another failure. I have been deserted by those I love the most, betrayed, [...]
And You Thought You Were Ready?!
Baby Steps to Becoming a Master Parent By Wadud Hassan [An experienced educational management professional, Br. Wadud lives in Dallas, Texas with his wife and twin daughters. He can be reached at whassan[at]furqaan.org] A father cannot give a better gift to his son than a good education. (Tirmidhi) After being married for 10 years and then a [...]
Do I Tell My Parents That I Don’t Want to Marry My Cousin?
Question: I am engaged, but it has not brought any of the anticipated excitement, anxiousness, nor eagerness. I have had growing pessimism, doubts, and concerns because my parents have asked for my cousin’s hand in marriage. I did oblige initially, but the more I think about my future with her, I begin to have more [...]
Every 2 Minutes: Sexual Violence
Imam Khalid Latif talks about sexual violence in his khutbah (sermon) at ICNYU.
Asking for Mercy
Mercy. Allah’s Mercy. It’s what we crave. It’s what we pray for. It’s the only means for getting into Paradise. We know that we are constantly sinning and that without His Mercy, none of these sins will be forgiven. We know that without His Mercy, not only will our entire lives be filled with misery, [...]
Lessons From a Newborn and Mom
By Ismahan Abdullahi One of life’s greatest miracles and gifts bestowed upon us is the blessing of life itself, especially when the life is in the form of a small bundle of joy who welcomes her new surroundings with a beautiful cry that calms the hearts of her parents and the medical staff surrounding her, [...]
On The Threshold Of Adulthood
Question: I have twins who will be graduating from high school this year, and I feel like I am fighting with them all the time about the choices they are making. I don’t like the friends they hang out with, and I don’t think they are mature enough to make the right choices. Their major [...]
Dwell In Tranquility
Dwell in Tranquility: an Islamic Roadmap to the Vibrant Marriage is aimed at helping Muslims—at any stage in the marriage process— to understand themselves and what they want in their marriage in order to build a strong and loving partnership. The following is an interview with the author, Kamal Shaarawy, who is also the founder [...]
Dirty Talk
Question: My question is regarding sexual activity between a husband and wife in Islam. I had read somewhere that it’s permissible to use certain language (for example, cursing/dirty talk/so-called “bad words”) during sex if that’s something they like. Is this true or not? Answer: During sexual activity, couples will often exchange loving words with each [...]
Intercultural Marriages: A Qur’anic Reflection
By Eyad Alnaslah In Islam, the concept of diversity and tolerance is found many times in the Qur’an and hadith (records of the words of the Prophet ﷺ, peace be upon him). We find diversity in all our mosques and Islamic functions, with Muslims from different parts of the world, and of different cultures and [...]
My Husband Misunderstands My Mood Swings
Question: I have a question about the moods and hormones of women and how men should handle them. I feel depressed sometimes without reason or I feel low, but my husband gets angry with me. Then if I complain a bit or get angry with him that he isn’t giving me enough time, he gets [...]
Secrets From My Husband’s Past
Question: My husband had girlfriends in the past which he refuses to talk to me about. During our engagement, he made it clear that he wasn’t an angel in the past, but that he’s a different man now and he doesn’t like to talk about his past since it is between him and Allah. He [...]
Be my Valentine
Imam John ‘Yahya’ Ederer talks about love between husbands and wives by illustrating the married life of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (peace be upon him) as explained in the Sunnah. Imam Yahya talks about the Islamic ideal of Love with the ideas currently subscribed to our secular American Society. Should Muslims celebrate Valentine’s Day? MAS Khuthbah – [...]
Age Difference Between Spouses
Question: My question is in regard to age difference in marriage and understanding how realistic it is in the North American context. I am 28 years old and there is a particular brother I am interested in who has incredible character and whom I feel I really click with. The issue is that he is [...]
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