Archive for the ‘Marriage & Family’ category

Distraction

By Umm Muhemmed Our generation is one of being distracted, and I am admittedly guilty as well. While walking recently, I answered a cell phone call, turned my attention to a grave situation over the phone, and overlooked the danger of two young children bicycling. The woman over the phone spoke of her mother’s death, […]

Working Within My Circle of Influence

By Khadija Amaan I would often find myself worrying about things and draining my energy. Yes, it would lead me to prayers, but also depression. When prayer leads you to depression, it means that you are doing something wrong. Prayer is hope. Prayer is faith. Prayer is uplifting. Prayer is not constant worry. I learned […]

Prophet Ya`qub: A Role Model Father

By Manal Hatab Prophet Yusuf’s (Joseph), alayhi as-salaam (blessings be upon him), story carries timeless spiritual, moral and literary lessons, among many others. One of those timeless lessons is the eloquent portrayal of Prophet Ya`qub’s (Jacob) (as) exemplary character, which stands as a testimony to his unshakeable faith. The Qur’an highlights his wisdom and divine […]

Foundations for a Meaningful Life

By Kaneez Fatima Recently, after a long time, I bought something I was really pleased with. It was a dress. I was so happy to possess it that I wore it (as trial) at least thrice the very day I bought it. Realizing that I could not have had it if God, subhanahu wa ta`ala […]

M&M’s: Marriage and Money

By Eyad Alnaslah A recent article in the New York Times highlighted the importance of a couple agreeing on the type of financial lifestyle they wish to live before things get serious in a relationship. Questions such as “What is your credit score?” are increasingly asked on a first date. Unromantic? Very. Important? Exceptionally. As Muslims, […]

Thanks for Sleepless Nights

By Mohammed Saleem Ramadan often elicits childhood memories of our parents going to extra lengths to make it special, waking up in the middle of the night to make us that gourmet suhoor (breakfast) before the dawn of our first fast. It is a time we become more thankful for what we took for granted, not […]

Why is Paradise Under Her Feet? Mothers as Leaders

WebbStaff Note: There were edits made to avoid any possible interpretation of an affront against Abu Sufyan, Hind, and Mu`awiyah (ra) as this was not the author’s intent; nor is this an accepted opinion by the scholars of this site. – By Parisa S. Popalzai, PhD One day I was speaking with a mother of […]

Our Idiot Brother: 7 Things You May Not Know About Your Younger Sibling

By Abid Mohammed Disclaimer: This article is the first of a three part series looking at the wide array of relationships that younger siblings have and from different perspectives. The next article will focus on what younger siblings should know about their older siblings. “‘Joseph and his brother are more beloved to our father than […]

Coolness of the Eyes

By Ammarah Usmani We live in a world where most of us don’t really consider the home a peaceful haven or a sanctuary. To some, seeking refuge inside one’s home seems overrated, antisocial, and makes one seem reclusive and bereaved from the lively, rambunctious happenings of the outside world. Be it even somebody else’s home, […]

A Marriage Mystery

By Meltem Baykaner I have recently reached that age. Many sisters will know the age that I am speaking of. It is an age not necessarily marked by a number, but rather recognised by the way you are treated… Having bounded through childhood, jumped the hurdles of adolescence and, alhamdulillah (praise be to God), somehow […]

Kids and Qu’ran Fun!

The Qur’an Series: Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII | Part VIII | Part IX Do you want your kids to love the Qur’an? Do you want them to look forward to attending Qur’an classes? One of the most frequent complaints I hear from children is that they find the Qur’an boring. Upon listening […]

Parent Trap

By Samah Out of the blue one day, as we were walking to a meeting, my boss turned around and asked, “So, what are your plans for the near future?” When he saw the puzzled look on my face he continued “…you know, don’t you want to move out and live on your own? Don’t […]

Let Your Actions Be Your Child’s Teacher

By Dr. Parisa S. Popalzai It’s ancient wisdom that our actions speak louder than our words—or when it comes to our children, our screaming.  As parents, most of us are seeking advice on best parenting tips so that our children listen to us and follow our values and ideals. However, time and again we are […]

Is Passionate Love in Marriage…Real?

10 Considerations when Searching for the One  “I’m afraid of getting married,” she told me. She, like the countless other women who had approached me, confessed what she thought was unique to her. “I’m constantly told by older married women that I should enjoy my life being single because marriage is a burden. I’ve never […]

Want Your Marriage to Last? Get Premarital Counseling

Originally posted in February 2012 I spent my time at a recent wedding listening to people’s marriage problems. As the guests danced the night away in celebration, I sat in the back of the hall talking about shattered dreams and unfulfilled expectations. Sometimes, we had to scream to hear each other over the music. There […]

Will Marriage Solve My Problems?

By Ubah After engaging more with the Muslim community through activities like da`wah (calling to Islam), conferences, and halaqat (study circles), I have observed something intriguing: there seems to be a fascination—even obsession—with the topic of marriage. Regardless of whether a particular lecture is dedicated to something other than gender relations, the topic of marriage somehow […]

What Really “Keeps Girls in Their Place”

Despite the unfortunate realities of abuse and oppression faced by Muslim women and non-Muslim women alike, women are an easy target for negative propaganda feeding anti-Islamic agendas. Having heard the old rhetoric on how “women in Islam are oppressed” and how the religion “forces women to stay at home,” it’s refreshing to hear a different […]

Living With My Brother-in-Law

Question: I am a convert, and have been married for almost 6 years. Unfortunately in that time, my brother-in-law has stayed with us. Initially I didn’t mind, mainly because I wasn’t really practicing at the start of our marriage and didn’t see an issue with a non-mahram (a male not directly related to you) living […]

Moving Out

Question: I am a 30 year old Muslim woman who lives with my family. Alhamdulilah (praise be to God) I have a loving and wonderful home, but I am ready to move out and live independently. I am looking for an apartment to rent on my own. The problem is, my father would never let […]

Genuine Surrender: Lessons from Labour

By Umm Sephora We learn many of life’s most profound lessons through paradox.  Here we are – human beings with a soul that yearns for the eternal and lasting, yet living in a world of the temporal and ephemeral. Our hearts seek spiritual highs, yet all the while are encased within bodies which have physical […]