Archive for the ‘Before Marriage’ category

Love is in the Air

Love is in the air! …Or at least that’s what advertisers want you to think this month. While it’s nice to express your love often, Valentine’s Day comes once a year, leaving you no choice but to do so or risk seeming heartless. For the owners of floral boutiques and chocolate shops, Eid comes in […]

Love in Islam

Valentine’s Day I once dropped by the MSA at the University of Tulsa and heard a very disturbing story. A man from the area had left Islam and had recently given a talk at a local church about his apostasy. He claimed that there was no love in Islam. He felt that the Islamic way […]

Successful Marriages: Part IV

Lecture by Suhaib Webb | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV Problem Number Four: Getting Married and Leaving the Community The fourth is falling into the trap of being a young professional and leaving the community.  Before we get married we’re active. One brother asked one time, […]

Successful Marriages: Part III

Lecture by Suhaib Webb | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Read Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV Problem Number Two: Marriage Makes Me Happy The second major problem that people fall into – and there was a fifteen year study done in the West [on this] – 95% of people said, “[I […]

Successful Marriages: Part II

Lecture by Suhaib Webb | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV Issue Number One: Let’s Copy My Parents The first pitfall that people recognized is: “We’re going to do it like my family did it. We’re going to do it like my mother and father did it.”  And she’s […]

Successful Marriages: Part I

Lecture by Suhaib Webb  | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV We begin in the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (the Exalted and Glorified) to send His Peace and Blessings upon the Prophet salla Allahu `alayhi wa sallam (may […]

Prince Charming here, but I’m not an M.D.

By Sondos Kholoki-Kahf, Staff Writer InFocus Magazine “Sunni Arab Muslim parents invite correspondence for their daughter, 23, beautiful, very fair skinned, slim, educated, religious. Prefer doctor/surgeon/dentist/MD resident. Non-physicians need not apply; lawyers OK. Send picture and resume to” Faced with outrageous matrimonial requests like these, Jamal* believes he stands no chance in his mission […]

Question of the Week: “Why are Muslims Divorcing?”

Asalamu alaykum, With divorce reaching an abnormally high rate amongst Muslims, let us take some time out to ask why? What are your thoughts? Why are Muslims divorcing and what can be done to stop the bleeding at an individual and community level? Suhaib Webb

Question of the Week: Why is Divorce So High Amongst Young Muslim Couples?

Asalamu alaykum, I’m struggling to deal with this one as it is almost at a chronic level. I’m thinking that an association towards the ease and sustainment of marriage should be established (at least on a local level). A course could be given over a two weekend period that covers the fiqh and social aspects […]

Weekly Question for the Brothers and the Sisters

Asalamu alaykum, Last night during a lesson, I asked the audience what they thought a reasonable mahar was. I suggested, for a young professional working brother, $10,000 (over time). Let me tell you, that suggestion got a lot of looks from the brothers. I would like to throw this question out to you, the readers. […]