Archive for the ‘Before Marriage’ category
Escaping the Worst of Prisons
When Sara met Ahmed, she immediately knew. He was everything she had always dreamed of. Meeting him was like watching the sun rise in the middle of a snowstorm. His warmth melted the cold. But soon admiration turned to worship. Before she could understand what had happened, Sara had become a prisoner. She became a [...]
Musa & Safurah: a Courtship, a Romance
by Hena Zuberi I am from Generation X. Raised on ‘Pretty in Pink’ and Sweet Dreams romance novels, some of my friends read Mills and Boons, others raved about the unattainable love in the Thorn birds; but I preferred the grand passion of Wuthering Heights. That was my idea of a romance – filling each [...]
The Objectives of Surat al-Fatiha
A Lecture by Suhaib Webb | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV | Part V | Part VI | Part VII The third objective of Surat al-Fatiha is that it trains us in the correct concept of worship and it causes us to love worship, as is shown by the [...]
Married While Hijabi?
Question: I started wearing hijab1 a few years ago and I’m proud of it and happy that I’m doing it. The thing is my family introduced to me to a guy a few months ago for marriage, and it’s been going really well. The only problem is that he doesn’t want me to wear hijab. [...]
Hurt by Others: How to Cope and Heal
When I was growing up, the world was a perfect place. The only problem was, that it wasn’t. I used to believe that everything could always be ‘fair’. To me that meant no one should ever be wronged, and if they were, justice must be served. I fought hard for the way I believed things [...]
Hook Up with Allah, Allah will Hook You Up
Before I got married, I was given unsolicited advice on how to change in order to make myself “more appealing” to brothers. Sisters would voluntarily tell me I should be more outgoing when with men, dress more attractively to get their attention and stop being as involved with Islamic activism so I would not scare [...]
Love is in the Air
Love is in the air! …Or at least that’s what advertisers want you to think this month. While it’s nice to express your love often, Valentine’s Day comes once a year, leaving you no choice but to do so or risk seeming heartless. For the owners of floral boutiques and chocolate shops, Eid comes in [...]
Love in Islam
Valentine’s Day I once dropped by the MSA at the University of Tulsa and heard a very disturbing story. A man from the area had left Islam and had recently given a talk at a local church about his apostasy. He claimed that there was no love in Islam. He felt that the Islamic way [...]
Successful Marriages: Part IV
Lecture by Suhaib Webb | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV Problem Number Four: Getting Married and Leaving the Community The fourth is falling into the trap of being a young professional and leaving the community. Before we get married we’re active. One brother asked one time, [...]
Successful Marriages: Part III
Lecture by Suhaib Webb | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Read Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV Problem Number Two: Marriage Makes Me Happy The second major problem that people fall into – and there was a fifteen year study done in the West [on this] – 95% of people said, “[I [...]
Successful Marriages: Part II
Lecture by Suhaib Webb | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV Issue Number One: Let’s Copy My Parents The first pitfall that people recognized is: “We’re going to do it like my family did it. We’re going to do it like my mother and father did it.” And she’s [...]
Successful Marriages: Part I
Lecture by Suhaib Webb | Transcribed by Fuseina Mohamad Part I | Part II | Part III | Part IV We begin in the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (the Exalted and Glorified) to send His Peace and Blessings upon the Prophet salla Allahu `alayhi wa sallam (may [...]
Prince Charming here, but I’m not an M.D.
By Sondos Kholoki-Kahf, Staff Writer InFocus Magazine “Sunni Arab Muslim parents invite correspondence for their daughter, 23, beautiful, very fair skinned, slim, educated, religious. Prefer doctor/surgeon/dentist/MD resident. Non-physicians need not apply; lawyers OK. Send picture and resume to CaliforniaGirl@marriage.com.” Faced with outrageous matrimonial requests like these, Jamal* believes he stands no chance in his mission [...]
Question of the Week: “Why are Muslims Divorcing?”
Asalamu alaykum, With divorce reaching an abnormally high rate amongst Muslims, let us take some time out to ask why? What are your thoughts? Why are Muslims divorcing and what can be done to stop the bleeding at an individual and community level? Suhaib Webb
Question of the Week: Why is Divorce So High Amongst Young Muslim Couples?
Asalamu alaykum, I’m struggling to deal with this one as it is almost at a chronic level. I’m thinking that an association towards the ease and sustainment of marriage should be established (at least on a local level). A course could be given over a two weekend period that covers the fiqh and social aspects [...]
Weekly Question for the Brothers and the Sisters
Asalamu alaykum, Last night during a lesson, I asked the audience what they thought a reasonable mahar was. I suggested, for a young professional working brother, $10,000 (over time). Let me tell you, that suggestion got a lot of looks from the brothers. I would like to throw this question out to you, the readers. [...]
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