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Want Your Marriage to Last? Get Premarital Counseling

Originally posted in February 2012 I spent my time at a recent wedding listening to people’s marriage problems. As the guests danced the night away in celebration, I sat in the back of the hall talking about shattered dreams and unfulfilled expectations. Sometimes, we had to scream to hear each other over the music. There […]

Grieving a Loss: Will I Ever Get Over It?

Originally posted in September 2011 I woke up to a text message from a friend. “I’m really sorry for texting you early on a weekend, but I need to ask you. How can you forget someone who caused a tragedy in your life? I’ve done many things to forget him, but until today I can’t […]

Reality Check: Domestic Violence and Muslim Families

Salma Abugideiri is a licensed professional counselor who specializes in trauma and couples therapy.  She is also the co-director of the Peaceful Families Project, an organization devoted to ending domestic violence in Muslim families. Salma develops and conducts awareness workshops about domestic violence for Muslim leaders and communities, and trainings for people who work with […]

6 Things NOT to Say to Someone Who is Divorced

By Amal Killawi and Zarinah Nadir Divorce is never easy. But it’s the reality for 50% of American couples and 31% of American Muslim couples.  With these statistics, you’re likely to have friends or know people in your community who have been divorced or are currently experiencing a divorce. Divorce is often a time of […]

Islamic Social Services and the Sakinah Healthy Marriage Initiative

An Interview with Dr. Aneesah Nadir Dr. Aneesah Nadir is a social worker, author, speaker, consultant, diversity trainer, mediator and marriage and family life educator, with a career that spans more than 30 years. Dr. Nadir obtained her Bachelor’s in Social Welfare from Adelphi University and her Masters and Doctor of Philosophy degrees in Social Work from Arizona […]

How You Say It Matters!

The Powerful Effect of XYZ Statements on Your Relationships Part I | Part II The other day as I was leaving work, I overheard a woman talking on the phone. She was standing at the front of the bus talking loudly to her mother who was apparently upset about some comments her daughter had made […]

What Did You Say, Honey?

Negative Communication Patterns Can Destroy Your Relationship Part I | Part II Communicating effectively is essential for building a happy family.  Effective communication is a skill that should be acquired and practiced regularly because it reduces misconceptions and misunderstandings between family members and helps them avoid conflict. Prophet Muhammad (sal Allahu `alayhi wa sallam – […]

Debunking the Doctor Myth

Career Choices of American Muslims “So, what did you study?” a family acquaintance inquires. “I finished my bachelors in psychology and masters in social work. I’m a social worker now,” I reply. “Oh,” the woman responds. A look of sheer disappointment falls across her face. “Why didn’t you become a doctor? You’re smart enough to […]